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Episode 38: The Assassination of The Representative

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Ahh, the representative. The version of yourself that you THINK people want to see, that you THINK people will be attracted to.

I’ve got news for you, and you know what’s coming here: if you ever want to be successful at dating, you have to KILL the representative.

Heck, if you ever want to be happy or successful in life in general, you’ve got to kill the representative. Assassinate the representative, and all that’s left is true radical authenticity.

Listen to, download & rate this episode in your podcatcher of choice, and be sure to check out my guest John Keegan at theawakenedlifestyle.com.

Episode 37: All You Need Is Swipe.. Swipe Is All You Need

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John Lennon said it best: “All you need is swipe.” Because when you’re just swiping, you don’t actually have to get to know someone. You don’t have to worry about thing like, “Can I get their number?” “Will they meet me for a date?” “Are they even a real person?”

You can forget all about that and just jump in the pool of a million anonymous faces and never make any real connection with someone.

Right? Swipe, swipe, swipe. Swipe is all you need.

Download & rate 10 Minute Daily Reality Check in your podcatcher of choice and be sure to check out my guest, John Keegan, at theawakenedlifestyle.com.

Episode 36: When Is The Perfect Time For The 1st Kiss?

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I’m a pretty unfiltered, do-what-I-want kind of guy. But I have to be honest: the only time I ever really get shy is first kiss time. I mean, I’m a dating coach, but I still get shy!

There’s no getting around it. It’s awkward. Incredibly awkward. That moment at the end of the date when you’re looking at the other person wondering, “Should I go for it?” And then you’re wondering if they’re wondering the same thing…

So when should you go for the first kiss? When’s the perfect time (or IS there a perfect time)? Well, that’s exactly what my guest John Keegan and I are going to try to figure out today. So listen, download and rate this episode in your podcatcher of choice, and be sure you check out John Keegan at theawakenedlifestyle.com.

Episode 35: 100 Hours ‘Til Sex !?

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Yesterday, Jonathon Aslay and I rocked the boat a little bit with a pretty radical suggestion: wait 30 days until having sex.

Well, today I have a very special guest who has a bit of a problem with that rule: Brian Howie, host of the acclaimed Great Love Debate. And Brian is going to make an even more radical suggestion: wait 100 hours.

Because 30 days could just mean a handful of dates. It doesn’t really mean that the other person is into you. But 100 hours? That’s commitment. That’s an investment that says, “I’m into you. I want you. Let’s do this.”

Listen to today’s episode and your reality on sex and relationships will never be the same. Subscribe to and rate 10 Minute Daily Reality Check in your podcatcher of choice, be sure to chek out Brian Howie at www.greatlovedebate.com… and if you’re in the LA area, you can catch both Brian and myself at The Great Love Debate tomorrow, April 13 at the Hollywood Improv.

Episode 34: The 30 Day No Sex Rule

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Oh do we have a special episode today. I’m here with my good friend Jonathon Aslay and we’re going to talk about something he posted on Facebook in response to a post about women not being happy with the male dating pool.

And what we’re going to really talk about is this: in order to really be satisfied in your dating life, you have to start thinking in terms of “we.” You and your partner as a unit.

And in order to do that, we’re going to suggest something pretty radical: 30 days of dating with ABSOLUTELY no sex.

Are you up to the challenge? Listen, download and review this episode in your podcatcher of choice, and learn more about Jonathon at www.jonathonaslay.com.

Episode 33: The Most Powerful Drug of All, Humans

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Dating is a heady brew. It’s an extremely powerful feeling to find someone and actually know that they’re you’re emotional and spiritual comrade.

Dating is the constant opportunity to fall in love. And that’s what we all want: to fall in love, be in love.

It’s an intoxicating, powerful drug. Get your dose by downloading and rating this podcast in your podcatcher of choice, and be sure to check out John Keegan at theawakenedlifestyle.com.

Episode 32: Are You a Review Troll?

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You know, some people just can’t handle the f*cking truth. Like all you Yelp and Amazon review people. You passive aggressive people who presume to judge people who you know nothing about, who can’t take responsibility for ANY of the things that go wrong in your life.

Look. I get it. There are perfectly legitimate reasons for some bad reviews, and I think it’s good that they keep the service industry on their toes.

But SO many of you hide behind your computer screens and your online names, and you lash out at people and companies online whenever shit in your life goes wrong.

Grow up. Grow a pair. Take responsibility for your life, and if you must review something, make sure you leave a (positive) review 10 Minute Daily Reality Check on your podcatcher of choice 😉

And check out John Keegan at https://theawakenedlifestyle.com/

Episode 31: Leave Your Dating Representative at Home

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What do I mean by “the representative?” It’s the well-behaved version of who you AREN’T. It’s who you THINK people will be attracted to, who you think people will be impressed by.

And when you date and you bring the representative instead of your authentic self, it’s just that: not your authentic self. And when your authentic self does inevitably come out, what do you think happens to that attraction you’ve supposedly created?

Listen, download and rate this podcast in your podcatcher of choice, and make sure you check out John Keegan at https://theawakenedlifestyle.com/

Episode 30: I Know a Little Life Secret

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I know a little life secret… and it’s something we talked about a little yesterday. Want to know what it is?

Live your life like you’re an artist. Life is a theater, and you’re an improv artist. Every second of every minute of every day, life throws something unexpected at you. So what do you do?

EMBRACE IT. Say yes. All good things in life come by embracing the unknown, venturing out of your comfort zone, and saying yes to all the millions of experiences that life throws at you.

Listen to today’s episode, rate and subscribe to 10 Minute Daily Reality Check in your podcatcher of choice, and be sure to check out John Keegan at https://theawakenedlifestyle.com/

Episode 29: Why I Love Being a Stimulation Junkie

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My guest John and I are both stimulation junkies, and I’ve gotta say: I f*cking LOVE it. See, when you’re stimulated, that’s when you’re really alive. That’s when you’re present.

That’s when you’re not letting the little things bother you. You’re stimulated. Who cares about the little things when you’re stimulated?

So what’s the message today? If you’re not with someone who stimulates you, find someone who stimulates you. If you’re not living a stimulated life, start living a stimulated life.

Listen to today’s episode, rate and subscribe to 10 Minute Daily Reality Check in your podcatcher of choice, and be sure to check out John Keegan at https://theawakenedlifestyle.com/

Episode 28: The Sounds of the Zombie Culture

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Brring. Ding-ding. Beep. Bloop. These are the sounds of the zombie culture, the culture that’s stuck to their iPhone like they have permanent blowjob neck.

When did we become so inconsiderate? When did we, as a society, decide that the little white screen in front of us was more important than the people around us, like we were in an episode of Curb Your Enthusiasm?

I’m joined by John Keegan in the studio again and today, we’re going to go back and forth on the sounds of our zombie culture. And make sure you check out John’s website at theawakenedlifestyle.com.

Episode 27: The Monster in Your Hands

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What if I told you… the monster in your home is actually in your hands?

It’s the smartphone, which you use as a replacement for human beings, human contact and connection.

So today’s challenge? A day free from the monster in your hands.