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Episode 41: Thou Shalt Show Restraint

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Today we’re back in the studio with Eddie Palmer, and we’re going to talk about RESTRAINT (and if you hear that word and immediately think I’m talking about getting handcuffed to the bedpost… this episode is definitely for you).

Here’s the thing: we’re in a new era of casual sex right now. It used to be only the 5% of guys with good “game” that could go to the bar and pick up any woman they want for a one night stand.

But now, Tinder and Bumble and the new world of swiping for sex has opened up a whole new world of casual sex.

But what Eddie and I are going to ask you today is this: where is the gratification? Because you’re only truly gratified if you actually have standards, and if you have standards you will show restraint.

Listen to & download this episode in your podcatcher of choice, rate 10 Minute Daily Reality Check and share it with your friends, and if you want to get in touch with Eddie you can reach him at eddiepalmer12@gmail.com.

Episode 40: Busy… The Death of New Relationships

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Today we’re going to talk about two of my favorite people: Busy Billie and Busy Betsy. You see, Billy and Betsy talk talk talk about how much work they’ve done, how evolved they are, and how much they want to date. Talk talk talk.

But when the time comes, their schedules are so filled up that they don’t ever get around to it. And that’s what we’re going to talk about on today’s reality check: why all you busy Billies and busy Betsys are sabotaging your love lives by, well, being so damn busy.

Today we’re joined by my good friend Jonathon Aslay again, so tune into your podcatcher of choice, and subscribe and rate 10 Minute Daily Reality check and share it with your friends. And be sure to check out Jonathon at http://www.jonathonaslay.com/. See you tomorrow.

Episode 39: Lose Your “Type” and Find Your Standards

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Everyone’s got a type, right? It’s something we all hear. It’s something we all tell ourselves. The skinny blonde with blue eyes. The muscular, rugged man with that George Clooney smile.

Here’s a question, though: would you date them if you were blind? Because that’s what having standards is all about. And that’s what I’m going to talk about with today’s guest, Eddie Palmer.

And we’re going to teach you a little secret about dating: when you date with standards (not “types”), you don’t date people who are just beautiful. You date people who actually become more and more beautiful over time.

So listen, download and rate this episode in your podcatcher of choice, and if you want to get in touch with Eddie, you can reach him at eddiepalmer12@gmail.com.

Episode 38: The Assassination of The Representative

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Ahh, the representative. The version of yourself that you THINK people want to see, that you THINK people will be attracted to.

I’ve got news for you, and you know what’s coming here: if you ever want to be successful at dating, you have to KILL the representative.

Heck, if you ever want to be happy or successful in life in general, you’ve got to kill the representative. Assassinate the representative, and all that’s left is true radical authenticity.

Listen to, download & rate this episode in your podcatcher of choice, and be sure to check out my guest John Keegan at theawakenedlifestyle.com.

Episode 37: All You Need Is Swipe.. Swipe Is All You Need

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John Lennon said it best: “All you need is swipe.” Because when you’re just swiping, you don’t actually have to get to know someone. You don’t have to worry about thing like, “Can I get their number?” “Will they meet me for a date?” “Are they even a real person?”

You can forget all about that and just jump in the pool of a million anonymous faces and never make any real connection with someone.

Right? Swipe, swipe, swipe. Swipe is all you need.

Download & rate 10 Minute Daily Reality Check in your podcatcher of choice and be sure to check out my guest, John Keegan, at theawakenedlifestyle.com.

Episode 36: When Is The Perfect Time For The 1st Kiss?

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I’m a pretty unfiltered, do-what-I-want kind of guy. But I have to be honest: the only time I ever really get shy is first kiss time. I mean, I’m a dating coach, but I still get shy!

There’s no getting around it. It’s awkward. Incredibly awkward. That moment at the end of the date when you’re looking at the other person wondering, “Should I go for it?” And then you’re wondering if they’re wondering the same thing…

So when should you go for the first kiss? When’s the perfect time (or IS there a perfect time)? Well, that’s exactly what my guest John Keegan and I are going to try to figure out today. So listen, download and rate this episode in your podcatcher of choice, and be sure you check out John Keegan at theawakenedlifestyle.com.

Episode 35: 100 Hours ‘Til Sex !?

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Yesterday, Jonathon Aslay and I rocked the boat a little bit with a pretty radical suggestion: wait 30 days until having sex.

Well, today I have a very special guest who has a bit of a problem with that rule: Brian Howie, host of the acclaimed Great Love Debate. And Brian is going to make an even more radical suggestion: wait 100 hours.

Because 30 days could just mean a handful of dates. It doesn’t really mean that the other person is into you. But 100 hours? That’s commitment. That’s an investment that says, “I’m into you. I want you. Let’s do this.”

Listen to today’s episode and your reality on sex and relationships will never be the same. Subscribe to and rate 10 Minute Daily Reality Check in your podcatcher of choice, be sure to chek out Brian Howie at www.greatlovedebate.com… and if you’re in the LA area, you can catch both Brian and myself at The Great Love Debate tomorrow, April 13 at the Hollywood Improv.

Episode 34: The 30 Day No Sex Rule

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Oh do we have a special episode today. I’m here with my good friend Jonathon Aslay and we’re going to talk about something he posted on Facebook in response to a post about women not being happy with the male dating pool.

And what we’re going to really talk about is this: in order to really be satisfied in your dating life, you have to start thinking in terms of “we.” You and your partner as a unit.

And in order to do that, we’re going to suggest something pretty radical: 30 days of dating with ABSOLUTELY no sex.

Are you up to the challenge? Listen, download and review this episode in your podcatcher of choice, and learn more about Jonathon at www.jonathonaslay.com.

Episode 33: The Most Powerful Drug of All, Humans

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Dating is a heady brew. It’s an extremely powerful feeling to find someone and actually know that they’re you’re emotional and spiritual comrade.

Dating is the constant opportunity to fall in love. And that’s what we all want: to fall in love, be in love.

It’s an intoxicating, powerful drug. Get your dose by downloading and rating this podcast in your podcatcher of choice, and be sure to check out John Keegan at theawakenedlifestyle.com.

Episode 32: Are You a Review Troll?

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You know, some people just can’t handle the f*cking truth. Like all you Yelp and Amazon review people. You passive aggressive people who presume to judge people who you know nothing about, who can’t take responsibility for ANY of the things that go wrong in your life.

Look. I get it. There are perfectly legitimate reasons for some bad reviews, and I think it’s good that they keep the service industry on their toes.

But SO many of you hide behind your computer screens and your online names, and you lash out at people and companies online whenever shit in your life goes wrong.

Grow up. Grow a pair. Take responsibility for your life, and if you must review something, make sure you leave a (positive) review 10 Minute Daily Reality Check on your podcatcher of choice 😉

And check out John Keegan at https://theawakenedlifestyle.com/

Episode 31: Leave Your Dating Representative at Home

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What do I mean by “the representative?” It’s the well-behaved version of who you AREN’T. It’s who you THINK people will be attracted to, who you think people will be impressed by.

And when you date and you bring the representative instead of your authentic self, it’s just that: not your authentic self. And when your authentic self does inevitably come out, what do you think happens to that attraction you’ve supposedly created?

Listen, download and rate this podcast in your podcatcher of choice, and make sure you check out John Keegan at https://theawakenedlifestyle.com/

Episode 30: I Know a Little Life Secret

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I know a little life secret… and it’s something we talked about a little yesterday. Want to know what it is?

Live your life like you’re an artist. Life is a theater, and you’re an improv artist. Every second of every minute of every day, life throws something unexpected at you. So what do you do?

EMBRACE IT. Say yes. All good things in life come by embracing the unknown, venturing out of your comfort zone, and saying yes to all the millions of experiences that life throws at you.

Listen to today’s episode, rate and subscribe to 10 Minute Daily Reality Check in your podcatcher of choice, and be sure to check out John Keegan at https://theawakenedlifestyle.com/