tinder datingI’ve written about Tinder a few times before, but we need to look at this from a new angle. For those of you who don’t know what Tinder is, it’s basically a mobile dating app. Wherever you travel, Tinder follows you. You can go 200 miles away from home, and Tinder will find men and women in the area you are. You can take Tinder on tour, and that’s why Tinder made a ton of money selling to Facebook.

Now you can easily cheat on your spouse wherever you are. It’s a businessman’s dream come true. You can literally go from Des Moines, Iowa, to Chicago, put on Tinder, and find women nearby who want to meet you. It’s perfect. It’s all about so-called hooking up, under the disguise of finding love. So many women write on the tiny profile you get on Tinder, “I’m not on here just to hook up casually.”

Let’s get real here. Tinder is an application where you look at someone’s picture and say either, “Yes, I’m attracted to them, “or “No, I’m not attracted to them.”

If you’re not here to hook up, how do you expect to get into a deep conversation with a man, based on one picture?

When a guy is on Tinder, all he’s thinking about is hot women. Tinder can be fun, but it’s also really scary in some ways. There’s an app within Tinder called, “Moments.”

If a man likes your picture and you like theirs, you become a match. Then all of a sudden, they start posting moments, and this is where the creepy factor kicks in. There are women literally taking pictures all day and putting them on this Moments app. The only way to take these pictures is to log into Tinder. You need to log in, take your picture, upload it, and put a caption under it.

Think how creepy that is for a moment. You’re posting pictures for strangers you’re probably never going to see. Maybe you’ve had a few text messages back and forth from these strangers, but that’s it. Now you’re taking pictures of food, pictures of you painting your home, and pictures of you in your bikini on the beach. Yes, I’ve seen those before!

If you put a bikini picture on there, deep down it probably means you quite like the fact there are creepy men on the other side of their phones, sitting on Tinder jerking off to your picture. I’ve seen all these Moments pictures of you, your dog, and your kids. That’s something else I just don’t understand. Now, creepy men you’ve never met can stare at a picture of you and your kid. He knows he lives within 3 miles of you so he can probably figure out what elementary school your kid goes to. Need I say any more?

What’s Wrong With This Online Dating Picture?

It’s pretty shocking that people are willing to expose so much of their personal life to people they’ve never met. Sure, maybe you got 100 matches and egotistically it makes you feel better. But in reality, you’re blasting yourself all over the place for other people to find you. I’ve seen some women on Tinder, post a picture of themselves in front of a restaurant with a caption, “My favorite Friday night place.”

Great! So all the creepy people you don’t want to meet from Tinder now know exactly where to find you. You have to realize you’re being tracked 24/7 when you start placing moments up on Tinder. Why do you want to broadcast every little move you make?  Why do you want to create moments to total strangers?  Think about this the next time you take a picture and post it somewhere, especially on Tinder.

Are you really so lonely you need to share your life with total strangers?

Do you need men to validate you to feel good about yourself?

You felt bad this morning, but now some stranger likes a picture of you and your kitten laying on the floor together, or the picture of the meal you made last night, and now you feel amazing. I just don’t understand it. Are we that social challenged we’re now afraid to talk to each other, or do we just want to be reality stars using sites like Tinder as our platform?

“Welcome to Tinder TV! Here are my best moments from the day.”

It’s only a matter of time until Tinder lets you post short videos saying. “Hi, this is Mary. Would you like to meet me?”

I think the only thing stopping video dating on Tinder is that people won’t be able to lie about what they look like. You won’t be able to post pictures from 10 years ago anymore. Otherwise I think video dating would explode on the market.

“Hi, this is me. This is my bathroom. This is my garage. Come in, and I’ll give you a tour of my home. I’ll share it with the world!”

Technology is great because it gives me the chance to connect with all of you on a daily basis. But sometimes I look at it and wonder where we’re really heading.