Today I’m going to share something with you that is a great lesson for all of us.

This summer I was in Sag Harbor.

Sag Harbor is this absolutely majestically beautiful Eastern Long Island Beach town.

It’s nestled between South Hampton and East Hampton.

I was out with my friend Jon and we were talking to a bunch of people.

I said to him Jon, there’s some really amazing women here, but I don’t really want to talk to them because I’m on vacation right now, nothing can come from it.

He said, ‘what do you mean nothing can come from it, you have no idea who these people are, where they are, you have no idea what they’re all about’.

He went on to tell me more.

Do you realize that you can meet somebody who lives in New York but they want to live in LA. You could be the catalyst to bring them there, or vice versa. We started getting into this really deep conversation about how we always assume things and we create stories about why we should or should not talk to somebody.

I do it. We all do it.

So I started thinking a little bit, it doesn’t really matter where somebody is, if I’m in this place right now, whether it’s Miami, Hawaii, Los Angeles, New York, the other person is there too.

And since we’re both there at the same time, we’re there at the same time for a reason. So I might as well talk to them and find out what it is.

It’s amazing how we really don’t take the time to talk to people because we’re not in our home town.

You could live in the suburbs, drive to the city 30 miles away and meet a man that you’re attracted to. You might think to yourself, he lives in the city, I don’t really want to start a conversation with him because if I do then it won’t work out, because geographically how can it work out.

In reality, the man who is in the city that night might also live in the suburbs, 10 minutes away from you. Or maybe he’s a man that lives in the city and he really always wanted to live in the burbs. You get my drift.

Today’s video plunges deeply into why assuming and creating a story about somebody is the wrong way to meet men. I’ll show you the right way right here.