I’m going to ask you all a tough question today:

Are you dating based out of need because you don’t want to be alone or are you dating to add somebody to your already wonderful life?

I want you to re-read that once again and ask yourself if you consider your life wonderful, amazing, and incredible.

I really think everything is going to be much better this year.  I want to have a boyfriend or a girlfriend.  I really truly believe that my life is going to be more complete when I have somebody in my life.  I want to go on vacation but I’m not going to go on vacation until I get somebody in my life because I won’t have fun unless I’m with somebody…”

Are you tired of being single?  Do you think about it everyday? Here’s the deal: you’re already complete and nobody else is going to ever complete you.  If you believe that your life is going to be more complete with somebody in it, then basically you’re not practicing the biggest lesson that I ever teach anybody when it comes down to dating: self love.

If you don’t love and respect yourself and if you don’t enjoy your own company, then you’re going to go out dating in a very needy way. You’re going to meet other needy people, and when two needy people get together, they have a relationship that is based solely on need, solely on two lonely people meeting each other.  It becomes dysfunctional. It becomes very co-dependent.  And a co-dependent relationship is not healthy in any way, shape, or form.  Co-dependency is one of the reasons why so many relationships end up unsuccessful.

If you’re serious about meeting somebody great this year then you need to start embracing the beauty of your own life right now.  You need to make a list of all the things that are amazing about your life.  You need to start writing down all the things that are amazing about you as a person.  More importantly, you need to make a list about how amazing it’s going to be when you finally feel all that with somebody else.

We’ve all been dating wrong for so long.  It’s not about needs.  It’s not about wanting.  It’s about how you feel when you’re around somebody and when you’re around yourself.

Ever since I started really going out there and loving myself and doing the things that I love, I’ve learned the ultimate attraction.  I learned the law of attraction.  I started attracting great women into my life because I was doing everything that I love.  I was going out. I was eating in places that I liked. I went to places where I had things in common with people.  I was my own best friend.

Once you master this, you’re going to start bringing all the right people into your life. It’s like magic, and it works. But you need to trust it. You need to believe that people are going to be coming into your life. You need to start having fun, whatever you do, because that’s what attracts everything else.

Have you ever gone out with your arms folded, angry and pissed off? Guess what? Nobody wants to talk to you. Nobody wants to meet you when you behave that way. You’re giving off a very unattractive energy.

It’s time to change the way you think about dating. And it’s time you change the way you thought about meeting people. Learn the law of attraction and life will be so much better.