How many times have you been on an online dating site?

Been on an online dating app?

Met somebody who you thought was interesting.

And then it took you three weeks to get together.

It’s the biggest mistake a lot of women tend to do.

Women talk non-stop about wanting love.

They talk about non-stop about wanting to meet somebody.

Yet, they’re love availability calendar is shut down.

You see, with me, I’m home.

I’m not doing much of anything at night.

I’m past the point in my life where I need to fill my life with events.

Dinners with friends.

And all that other time consuming stuff that energetically blocks love from coming in.

But women do the opposite, and I’m not saying all of them, so I’m not making a full on section <?> gender generalization here.

But so many women I meet put themselves on the dating apps, and I, being a man who will consistently call people up, talk to them, along with all of the other great men that I coach, that I’ve been hearing from so many men is that women have no availability.

It’s almost like they’re trying to get a meeting with the president. Oops. Then again, nobody really wants to have a meeting with the president, as a matter of fact. Most people don’t want to sit down with President Trump.

But, ladies.

If you’re going to go on an online dating app, and if you’re serious about finding love…

I strongly suggest you clear your calendar to date.

Have at least three nights a week that you can actually go out on a date.

And then have one night where you have a spontaneous night, meaning you have zero plans and you can literally flirt with somebody on an app, flirt with somebody you just met, go out with them right away.

Love is not going to come to you if you’re so busy being busy. I know right now you’re thinking to yourself, well I have a busy life.

We all do. But isn’t life better when shared?

If you’re constantly filling yourself with social events and other things, you’re telling the universe that you really don’t have time to find love, because you see, you’re a walking contradiction.

In order to truly find love, you need to be open to love.

You need to be able to expand and be okay with the fact that you’re home alone not doing much of anything, but realizing that you’re clearing space for a man to come in.

You see, if you’re consistently on the go and consistently doing things, a good man’s going to come in who’s cleared the space and who wants to meet somebody great.

He hears that you’re three weeks out from spending an hour with him, and he thinks to himself, “there’s no room in her life for somebody.”

I’m not going to chase her. We’re going to go out and I’m going to spend another three weeks until I see her again. That doesn’t work. So the good man, the man that has options, the man that you really want to meet, is going to find somebody else who’s more open, more willing, more able to be spontaneous. And it’s also important to know that, as a man, you’re okay being alone. Constant hanging with friends shows me a fear of being alone, like you have co-dependency with being dependent on other people.

Anyway, it’s really all about opening space, creating space to be able to meet somebody great. So clear those calendars and get ready to date.