How many times have you said something like, “All men are the same?”

All the time I hear women talking about all men being the same, and all the time they ask me, “What is a man’s perfect woman? What is the exact template I need to fit to attract great men?”

It always makes me laugh. Men are all differet. Women are all different. We’re human beings, and no two human beings are the same. Sure we all have the same desires, and needs, but as far as our individual qualities, we’re all different. What one man finds attractive, another man might find unappealing. It’s no different to anything in life.

If you took 100 people off the street and asked them what their favorite food was, you’d get dozens of different answers. Everyone likes something different, but we all need to eat. It’s the same with men. I can tell you what I find attractive in a woman, but I can’t tell you what the next guy finds attractive. I can tell you all men want to avoid women who break their balls the whole time. I can tell you all men want a woman who is understanding and caring. I can tell you all men want a woman who isn’t afraid to be vulnerable and let us take the lead.

Those are qualities all men want in a woman, but as for what exactly attracts men, you can’t become the ultimate woman. All you can do is become the ultimate version of yourself. Don’t try to change yourself to attract a certain kind of man. Be the amazing, beautiful woman you authentically are, and the right men will find you. When you’re anything other than yourself, all you do is put out the wrong energy. Remember, love is a connection between two souls and two energies.

How Do You Attract The Right Men?

If you’re trying to be a dozen different women to attract as many men as possible, your energy will never align with the right man. You need to know who YOU are before you can even think of attracting the right men into your life. You need to know who you are. You need to know what you want from love. And you need to accept some men won’t be for you. Some men will be players, and some will let you down.

Dating is a beautiful journey, but you’ll only enjoy the journey if you make it as the genuine, authentic you. Yes, it’s important you learn how to understand men better. Yes, it’s important you learn some of the mistakes that put men off. But you have to stop trying to be superwoman, and you have to stop trying to please everyone. Until you learn how to please yourself, no man ever stands a chance of pleasing you.

In the video below, I show you just how different mens tastes in women can be. You’ll see me and a few of my friends, discussing what we personally find attractive in a woman, and while many of the qualities we describe are the same, what we look for in a woman looks and interest wise is very different.