Orgasm Do You Squirt?
Today we are going to head in a wet direction, no I am not talking about all the recent snow back east.
Or my office view of the beach.
I am talking about the female orgasm.
Have you ever squirted? Are you a woman, and you’ve expressed the nectar of the gods? Or, really, squirted the nectar of the gods? Do you believe that women can actually squirt when they have an orgasm?
A lot of women think that this is a rumor – that it’s basically the guy’s version of going into the northern Washington mountains and searching for Bigfoot. Or, heading for Scotland and looking for the Loch Ness monster.
But it’s true! Women can have ejaculatory orgasms whenever they’d like; they just have to learn exactly how to have them.
Unfortunately, this blog is not about teaching you how to do that – oh no, because women love foreplay and love to be teased, this blog is an open discussion of if you’ve ever had the female ejaculatory orgasm and how it felt.
Describe it. Describe the situation that you were in, describe what happened, and please enlighten all the men of the blog as to how they can make this happen!
I’m tired of teaching today. Today I don’t want to teach. Today I just want to kick back and allow the women to tell the men how to do it.
And for all of you guys that are professional female ejaculatory orgasm provokers, share your stories. Write down exactly what to do, how to do it, and how to make it happen.
Today the blog is all about you. We want to get this blog all wet and steamy, all day long.
So fire away – or as they say in Squirtsville, squirt away!
And if you’d like, this summer I’ll go up to the northern Washington mountains with some of my friends and we’ll take our annual search for Bigfoot quest. I still believe that Bigfoot is around. He was in the Six Million Dollar Man in the 1970s – if all of you remember when he was in the tunnel, and Steve Austin and he had a fight? A few fights actually, and Steve Austin was as strong as Bigfoot at certain times, and other times Bigfoot kicked his ass.
So you never know. Bigfoot might still be up there, and you might still believe in the six million dollar ma. Hell, just the other day we saw Heather Thomas from The Fall Guy! She didn’t look the same – but then again, that show was 20 years ago! But I tell you; she still looks like she can kick any stuntman’s ass!
So let’s talk about the ever-present, squirtatious orgasm today in the blog.
January 7th, 2009 at 3:36 pm
Interesting thought… I’m curious to hear from the women!
January 7th, 2009 at 5:23 pm
It has happened but I can’t tell you how to do it because it is not something I can control.
January 7th, 2009 at 5:45 pm
It happens to me a LOT now…and I know exactly when it’s going to happen and how it happens.
The first time it happened, it happened when I was alone, and I was petrified that the guy I was with would find it repulsive, so I went out of my way to NOT let it happen. The thing is, by doing this I was not allowing myself to have the full experience (and it affected our whole intimacy).
It happens to me when I am totally connected, let myself go, and allow an orgasm to truly build inside me. It happens when I have not that “ok, I felt a 2 second orgasm” but when I have the “I lose consciousness, have multiple orgasm, don’t know where I am” kind of orgasm.
I used to think those kind of orgasms were a fluke…but they’re actually now the norm for me every time I allow myself to totally surrender to the moment and totally connect with the guy I’m with…and whenever I totally trust the guy I’m with (cause it’s ONLY when I do that I am able to totally surrender and totally connect).
Also, I used to think that squirting involved producing something like turning on a faucet. So not true… and so not a big deal. The guys I’ve done it with have actually really liked it — they feel like it’s evidence of how powerfully they were able to get me to orgasm.
I should also tell the guys that you can make a woman squirt solely by touching a woman’s clitoris… Doesn’t only happen with penetration (although it certainly does too!)
Anyway, those are my thoughts and experience with it:)
January 7th, 2009 at 5:50 pm
I have made my woman squirt. Hard to describe in words. Take a look here http://www.redtube.com/15878
January 7th, 2009 at 7:45 pm
Thank you for sharing your thoughts Jules. So you really have to let it all out and be in the moment. I have yet to meet a squirter but next relationship I’ll definitly give it another shot.
January 7th, 2009 at 8:00 pm
Vince,
Take it from a girl who didn’t get to this place easily and who up until about a year ago never even had a during-sex orgasm (and now is multi-orgasmic and squirts), to me there is one MAJOR HUGE key to getting women to not only experience unbelievable things with you in the bedroom, but to also getting them to make it their #1 priority to reciprocate and give you the absolute most pleasure you’ve ever had in the bedroom …
You have to make a woman feel SAFE — meaning, you need to make her feel that you won’t judge her if she does truly let herself go and surrender to you, that she can trust you, and that she feels like she can allow herself to be totally vulnerable with you. Do that, and you have opened up EVERY possibility…
Good luck Vince!:)
January 7th, 2009 at 10:06 pm
Ok guys here is your sex lesson for the day then I have to call it a night.
One time me and this guy was doing the wild thing and he had found my G-Spot. When I am riding the cowboy on top I sit up and it is like having an inward climax without having the clit climax. It is a feeling that I can’t describe. But one guy told me that he has felt my inward climax and it feels like an outward climax. Good enough now night night. Sweet wet dreams tonight.
It is now 11:10pm TN time.
January 7th, 2009 at 10:09 pm
Oh before I go one more thing have you ever had a woman to go down on you orally right after you climax. It is one hell of a experience. This is a secret I keep to myself but here it goes did you know that you can tell if she lied about her climax but beware if she had the inward climax. Go down on her clit and if she moves all over the bed she did not lie but if she lays there you better try again. This is one for the record book it will make me put both legs together and you had better watch out you wont be able to lie on your stomach even I know a trick to that also.
January 8th, 2009 at 12:07 am
It’s not always about foreplay skill but more about the attention and the build-up of sexual energy. Different people respond to different things like suggestive voicemails, texts, etc. through the day or time frame prior to getting together. Some just tease the crap out of each other. Some go public or flirt with it a lot, like removing panties under the restaurant tablecloth or whatever works for you until you are both ready to rip each other’s clothes off. I’m told that not everyone squirts, but then I don’t usually poll my friends. I can only rely on post-comments like “well, aren’t YOU full of surprises!” Remember the journey is the main thing, not the end game. The more fun the journey is, the more things you find at the end.
That’s Sasquatch, to you. You know, the natives don’t question their existence any more than UFO’s. They’ve been seeing strange lights in the sky for generations and they don’t feel any need to defend their belief in them…or sasquatch, or your blog du jour. Just because you may not have seen or experienced it, doesn’t mean that it doesn’t exist. Get it? Search on!
January 8th, 2009 at 6:20 am
Ok the tighter the hole the deeper the feel the better outcome it is. I love it deep. I heard guys like it deep and tight. Pussy is pussy all pink and juicy inside just waiting for a cock to come by.
January 8th, 2009 at 6:52 am
David
I believe ur women who blog here chickened out.
Hey girls especially horny Lisa lets show these guys what we are made of here. Guys are sexually minded. How much do you want to bet I will be the only on this blog because I go where angels fear to tread. What is it you can’t help the man to get it up and keep it up. I know the techniques to keep my man going lets see if you women can have him climax more than five times in one day.
January 8th, 2009 at 6:55 am
That is why they call me the number one and only prick tease. Bring them on guys but I need a little help from you too. Yeah she calls herself Horny Lisa but I am still queen when it comes to sex.
January 8th, 2009 at 6:59 am
Explain to me what blue balls are. And I will tell you about a nempho maniac. She loves sex until that man wants to run.
January 8th, 2009 at 7:29 am
This topic is interesting. This is real and most women can experience it. It does require trust and a sense of safety. Many women confuse this for pee, it is not. It is fluid and it is not urine. It is about the G spot. I have had women say they feel like they have to pee right before the process begins to lead into a big G spot orgasm. Not all G spot orgasms lead to squirting either, so either way she wins and so do you.
It is all about the G spot. It is often not a bad idea to lead off with a clit based orgasm first, but once the woman is used to it, they are all good. And yes, a woman can squirt from clit stimulation once she is used to squirting and comfortable with it. The easiest way to get a woman to be able to experience this is via finger stimulation of her G spot. For those who do not know where that is, come on we should all know by now, it is on the upper wall of the vagina under the pubic bone with the tail about two inches in and it progresses to the opening of the vagina. Most women will find the front of the G spot very sensitive until they get used to it. So, the easiest is to begin with the tail.
The basics. There are three basic techniques for working the G spot. Generally, two fingers works well. Depends on the woman. Also, as mentioned before the women needs to be very comfortable. So, be open with each other and be accepting. Nothing will shut off the openness to this than judgement. Anyway, inserting two fingers facing up toward the belly you will feel a rough spot on the upper wall of the vagina about an inch and half to two inches in. That is the area of the G spot. Start to explore a bit and get feed back from the woman. Most women have a G spot that is slightly more to one side or the other. If the clit is 12 oclock then they tend to be 11 or 1 on that clock.
Anyway, once you have her stimulated a little you will feel an area that is about the size of an almond. It will get firmer as you play. That is the G spot. Well, what is known by most as the G spot. It is actually the tail of it that runs all the way from the front to that area. The three basics are to drop your hand and drive your fingers up into that spot. Dropping your hand toward her ass will create a good leverage and allow you to apply good pressure without burning out your finger muscles. Kind of a easy poking movement. Rythum and pressure are key here. It is a bit more vigorous than you would think. Girls it might feel a bit strange at first but go with it. Some girls who are very sensitive might need a lighter touch. Most I know complain that men are afraid to be strong enough. That does not mean to go ape shit guys. Be smart about it, but firm.
The second technique is to insert your fingers and make a come here gesture. Basically, taking your straight fingers from the back of the G spot and curling them to the front of the rough area. If using two fingers you can stagger them as you move. She will like that.
The third is to curl the fingers and hold them on the G spot and then twist the hand to move the fingers side to side over the G spot.
Of course, once you try the basics the work is about innovation and hearing from her what feels good. Women, you can do all this on your own, but the angles and the efforts at first might be made easier with the help of a trusted partner or playmate. Toys can help when alone. The joy is in the trying. I know many women that have issue with pursuing this level of pleasure for pleasure sake. Get over it. I find a lot of women have issues with sex because of guilt and programming. Get over it. This is one of the greatest sources of female sexual power you will ever find, so go for it.
The cool thing is that even if you do not squirt, the G spot orgasm is going to lead to true multiple orgasms. Most women think they know what that means. They believe it is more than one orgasm in a session. I find that most have no idea what it really means. Guys, if we could do this we would never leave the house EVER! Girls, true multiples is one orgasm after another with no let down for hours. You do not have to shot for hours, so no pressure, just letting you know that it is possible. Usually the orgasms connect together a half second apart and it is impossible to really tell when one ends and the next begins.
G spot orgasms tend to be more whole body and deep and can be very emotional, so a safe space and accepting environment is important. If you are alone girls, do not worry if you find emotions coming up and you finding you travel through some emotions. But, what better reward, deep connected orgasms that fill your whole body and are very different.
Now, the squirting part. If when you are working on G spot orgasms you feel as if you suddenly have to pee, you most likely do not. Most women stop because they think they have to. Don’t stop. In about thirty seconds the feeling will pass and you very well will begin to squirt. The vaginal wall will begin to contract. The G spot will be very firm and the fluid will come from the eutheria where urine comes from but it is NOT urine. It is clear and does not smell of or taste of urine. The fluid comes from a totally different place. As much as a man’s cum does not taste or have anything to do with urine, yet comes out the same opening.
Some women this will be a true squirt and some can shot across a room literally and others will be a flooding or just huge wetness. It does not matter as it al feels great. Women work on your PC muscles. Learn to do Keagle Exercises. If you do not know what those are, stop your pee next time you go. That is the PC muscle. Begin to work that muscle any time you think of it. You will thank me later. Better control of that muscle will make all of this feel even better. Also, your guy will love you for it. Also, men can do them too. Figure it out the same way.
G spot and PC muscle is also most likely the generation of the anal orgasm for women as well. So, if you are into anal or find that pleasurable, this ties to that rarely talked about third type of orgasm for women. I different topic than this.
So, women and men. a woman that squirts is a happy one. A woman that tries to is a happy one. More importantly, a woman that learns to have true multiple orgasms can go for hours and hours if she wants to. Women you think you know, but most of you have no idea. All the women I know who have reached that level had no clue it was possible until they got there. It is all about respecting the pleasure. So go for it.
Play and enjoy.
January 8th, 2009 at 8:13 am
Cum on Gals…….. share your stories here to us(guy)….. HELP US out.. we need to find out more
At the end of the day i think Sandra will dominate these blogs.
Well Done Sandra !!
January 8th, 2009 at 11:08 am
Squirting orgasms are definitely fun.
I can’t do it consistently yet… but be careful of what you are pressing inside of the woman’s vagina. The g-spot is very close to the bladder. If you push the wrong button inside, you might not get squirting… but you might get a golden shower instead.
From a man’s perspective, nothing makes me smile more than to know that I got my girl to cum uncontrollably.
January 8th, 2009 at 11:37 am
Big,
Thanks for the long write-up. I’m sure that will help a lot of people
January 8th, 2009 at 12:24 pm
Big
THanks for the great write up!!!!!!! I think a lot of men and women will really enjoy the details you put in here.
January 8th, 2009 at 5:43 pm
Thanks Steve for an amazing video and Big for an amazing write up!
January 8th, 2009 at 7:19 pm
Did not notice the video before now. It is a good one for the basics. That works too. I would add that unlike most women with a clit orgasm, you do not need to ease up or stop between G spot orgasms. It takes a little getting used to for the woman, but she will learn that you can stay with it and they just keep on rolling in. Almost like playing music with each note being an orgasm. It is great fun. You can see with her that it is very whole body. Also, many woman will realize that they are able to keep going with cliteral orgasms as well once they get used to the level of stimulation this provides. A great way to play this way is to go to G spot from clit and back to clit once G spot is a bit too much. It gives a rest for both areas without any drop in orgasms and stimulation.
The level of energy and satisfaction for women that learn this is beyond compare. It provides a very deep sense of personal power and a very different respect for their own sexuality. Also, that level of pleasure tends to a lot of sexual guilt and issues dissipate quickly as this is just so much more powerful than those BS societal messages that mess up so many women and men for that matter. We do tend to get in our own way more than anything else.
For women that are more clit oriented and are working on their G spot you can continue with the clit stimulation by continuing to stimulate the clit, just not directly. I call the easiest technique the squeeze technique. You can use two fingers in a v on the outer lips and squeeze them together moving all the tissue up and down or round and round or whatever feels good. You will find that the overstimulated feeling will pass quickly and you find you are right back on peak. It just takes sticking with it for a maybe twenty to thirty seconds to have that feeling pass and you will be right back into it. Most women stop way too early. You will find that even direct stimulation can be continued (usually lighter a bit, but still direct on the clit) without having to stop.
I know I am going to hear impossible and no way from many, but it is true. Guys, this takes really good communication and a very fine touch if you are going to try this with the woman. You have a fine attention to detail and really enjoy this process. This is fine art not chopping down a tree. LOL
The other really cool thing is that a woman that learns this will find that all orgasms generally begin to happen faster and multiples tend to come on much faster. Ne need to not be outcome oriented, so men this is not a project with a count or a goal. It is about the process. This is about having fun and playing with no concern if she cums like mad or not. Same for you girls, no goals. Also, when you go from alone to a guy or girl, do not expect to just pick up where you left off with yourself. It will be a bit longer and may not be as powerful the first time with someone else. But, after a few times the new situation and psychology will not be new any more and you off the to races.
The joy is in the trying and the exploration. Who cares what happens as long as it feels good as you get there. Without pressure and judgment amazing things are going to happen. All women are different, so do not get upset or feel less than if you are not able to get there right away. Just think that it means that the levels of pleasure you get to experience are only going to get better and bigger throughout your life. How awesome is that.
The squirting part is just another level of incredible addition to an incredible experience. You will love any and all of it. Be open and enjoy the ride. Oh and it can and very well will begin to happen during intercourse as well. But, do not be afraid to experiment with angles and toys there as well.
Guys become a fan of your woman’s orgasms. It is an amazing thing to be a part of and you can count on the woman being highly excited to share in your’s Also, a woman having orgasms is the best way to bank on her wanting to have even more. The way to have more sex is to make sure she is more sexual. this is certainly a big step in that direction.
It is good to be a male lesbian…
January 8th, 2009 at 8:50 pm
I wonder if anyone woman has done it Greek style by allowing a man put a dildo in her right along with him. I have done this and it is one hell of a experience.
January 8th, 2009 at 8:56 pm
Vern Siang
I think they don’t want to go where angels fear to tread I love a good sexual talk with guys.
January 9th, 2009 at 3:57 am
Great topic! I am a woman who has had the squirt orgasm many times, I really love the closeness I feel with my husband after this type lovemaking. It is incredible and happens when I feel, loved, apprieciated, sexy and adored. It is about trust, acceptance (of self and of partner) and just enjoying the experience.
I am one who has always loved sex and have a great appreciation for trying anything new and keeping it going. For me it happened by accident the first time when I was enjoying myself while on top, at the time my husband was young and inexperienced , he felt repulsed by it. I did not know what had happened and was a little embarrassed about it. After several years of marriage he learned to “accept” it but I did not enjoy it. I lost the ability to trust him and feel that he really loved me for who I was. During this time it happened with less frequency but still happened often enough.
After divorcing and remarrying I have a man who gets really turned on by my squirting orgasms and loves it when I do it. I have found that when I totally let go and just enjoy my body and his it just happens. I like to be able to relax and be away from the stresses of the day, the more I am able to give to him and he to me, the more frequently it happens. I am one who LOVES to give oral sex and have an orgasm while doing it, but I don’t remember any real gushers, it usually takes penetration of either hands or penis.
I just turned 50 and it happens more than ever and faster now. I know why men love being with older women now, we know our own bodies and have years of experience with men’s bodies. YEEHAW!
I have a game I play that I call it, The “1, 2, 3″ game which really heats up your lover or helps get to know a new one. I try 3 different actions and say which one do you like the best. I know I am on the right track if he becomes speechless and asks for his options again. When he chooses one I go on to three others to for him to choose from. I make him crazy with my skilled knowledge of his body and what he likes and use it often. I know when he is about to cum and choose 3 more options that provide less stimulation, I keep him going for ever and when he does cum it is intense!
January 9th, 2009 at 9:25 am
>>>>>>>>It is good to be a male lesbian…
Is this the quote of the month? If not the quote of the year!:-)
January 9th, 2009 at 4:13 pm
I am glad you enjoyed it. It is true though. In fact even my lesbian friends say damn you are more lesbian than I am. LOL. Got to love women to truly know what I mean. LOL Good fun.
January 10th, 2009 at 8:07 am
Hey guys and gals,
I absolutely love having as you say squirting orgasms. There are not enough words to describe it. Prior to the guy I am with now, I could have orgasms, but not like this. He is so wonderful in being attentive to my needs, and he loves it, the more I squirt, the more he is turned on. He has actually cum himself while creating the most fantastic, squirting orgasms for me, and that without penal penitration. As I tell him, he has magical hands. Dont get me wrong, I have orgasms when he is inside me also.
Guys, you have to find her G-spot, explore the vagina, it is a wonderful thing. Girls, have to relax, focus only on the moment with your guy, dont worry about the squirting, enjoy. Once you do this and enjoy multiple orgasms, you will want them all the time.
I love sex, always have and explore new things all the time. I found that if I have too much on my mind, like kids, work, etc. I have trouble letting go and having an orgasm. It really is in the woman’s mind set to have orgasm or not. If she is not totally zoned into herself and man, it will be very hard to have an orgasm.
So make sure you clear you mind girls. I feel guys need to make it all about the woman, make her feel loved, special, like a princess/queen, relaxed. I don’t seem to have this problem by myself or with my guy.
But, Yes, in my younger years I did. Worried about what he would think, if I just let go. For years, I only had a wet orgasm by myself, yes it is fantastic to be able to do this alone. It makes it so much better when you find a man that wants to please you. In order for a woman to have this fantastic kind of orgasms, I believe they need to know their own body and potential. They need to feel comfortable with theirself first and formost, in order to let go for a man. If more woman would explore their own body first, then they can help their man do it even better, cause when a man knows where to touch and how, the orgasms are out of this world.
Must go for now, will try to write more later, if you want more details??????
T
January 10th, 2009 at 9:10 am
Tann,
Definitely give us details. We love when women really share what it means for them to have a good orgasm.
More men need to learn this and they need to hear from the women themselves just so that they can hopefully get over their sexual hang-ups.
January 10th, 2009 at 8:24 pm
Did u know that if a guy watches a girl masturbate she can show u where her sensitivity spots are. I don’t mind if the guy does it in front of me. That shows me where his are. I love it when we both jack him off and I like it when a man wears cock rings u talk about feeling good. Or watch a guy with a dick pump.
January 11th, 2009 at 5:08 pm
I just wanted to add that Big is hitting the nail with the hammer. This is true guys. I do it to myself at least 3-4 time a week. I prefer help with a toy… However, if a man can last a long time great. If you are capable of two get your fist one out of the way. When I cum it does last a long time. I know when I’m by myself anyway it last a long time. But if the man hasn’t cum first that will send him into it quick and if you don’t keep the pace I will lose it… Advice if that happens, get your fingers ready. Also once you find the g spot keep the rhythm and don’t change up until she starts to cum then pound it hard and fast GARANTTED she like. The only way I can describe the feeling is a warm then hot almost burning/tingling feeling at first that literally make my legs quiver, I can barely breath when it starts and cant control myself when its happening. When you are done it is super sensitive…. Meow…. WOW, just talking about it is working me up.. I just stumble in here. I gotta go do something… Good Luck guys
January 12th, 2009 at 9:19 pm
Ok, guys, What do you want to know? We have a g spot, special spot, you have to find it.?????
Depending on your age you, may have no clue, some what of a clue, or ;you think you know exactly where it is with every woman. Well let me tell you, we all are different.
Moma Teresa
January 12th, 2009 at 9:23 pm
well if u are catholic they don’t believe in contraceptives so just think of how many times u can do it in 24 hours did I say Marathon Sex. Any guys in for the taking.
January 13th, 2009 at 10:39 am
Tann,
Why don’t you help all the guys out there who may not have a clue and enlighten us with your knowledge and expertise?
Helping men become better lovers help create more satisfied women everywhere!
January 18th, 2009 at 11:41 am
Tann,
I have to agree with Khiem, please share you knowledge the 1 2 3 sounds fun. Having read both Big and Tann, I fell like I flunked Kindergarten and need some ekstra help.
Besides how about massaging the mans g spot. Never tried it but fair enough if we talk girls g spot the boys should have a chance too.
Waiting to get a chance to graduate Kindergarten so I can enter 1’st grade.
January 18th, 2009 at 11:42 am
Forgot to check follow up email, can’t miss this one.
January 18th, 2009 at 11:50 am
Just wait for grad school. It rocks! LOL
January 18th, 2009 at 12:02 pm
I better find some intensive courses this sucks.. Maybe they have summer camps for this..
Nice entry Big though but my hands cramped today trying to figure myself out. Keep on like this I will get carpal tunnel syndrome.. 
January 18th, 2009 at 12:04 pm
sorry annette it was you with the 1-2-3 game, really thougth it was fun, very cute girlish
January 18th, 2009 at 12:28 pm
That is why you need a nice male lesbian to lend a hand or a few fingers. LOL Nice to have friends you can play with. It makes it easier to figure it out. But, keep trying the exploration is fun either way.
January 18th, 2009 at 12:49 pm
Big since you are an authority on this matter…our in house guru, check this site out http://www.handjobadvice.com I think we girls could get some info as to which tecniques are the most effective to get you guys wrapped around the fingers since you guys have found our week spot.
Enjoy
January 18th, 2009 at 7:43 pm
Marina
Check out the website and I find it fascinating. Thanks for the tip I even book marked it.
January 18th, 2009 at 8:48 pm
Sandra,
Chuckled when she said use both hands so he feels bigger, boy do they have issues with their penis.
Glad you found it fascinating.
January 18th, 2009 at 8:53 pm
Marina
The corkscrew I seen that one in a massage book. Have u tried this suck on the head of his cock and watch his eyes roll back in his head. Or take ur tongue and lightly go under his balls and suck on his balls but do it lightly. Oh after a guy cums suck gently on the head of cock and it will make him want you to get off. Sensitive uh guys.
January 18th, 2009 at 8:54 pm
Anyone else for the sex education of the birds and the bees.
January 21st, 2009 at 1:01 am
I love reading this sex ed stuff. This is the kind of stuff they should teach in HS or college sex ed classes.
The more we have sexually satisfied people, the more love we spread around, and the less conflicts and war we have to engage in
For guys, what are your licking techniques?
Have you tried licking from all the bottom of the vagina all the way up beyond the clit in one smooth lick?
February 1st, 2009 at 2:31 am
Don’t women say the first inch is the most sensitive?
February 1st, 2009 at 9:20 am
I squirt EVERY time!! My husband and I have “come” up with a fail-proof technique for female ejaculation. It can be adapted to work with any willing couple, regardless of hieght, weight, age, etc. It is a fairly simple technique and requires no toys or other devices — although lube is a necessity! For couples seeking personalized instruction feel free to contact us for more information. Your satisfaction is guaranteed!
February 1st, 2009 at 1:02 pm
MBC
Tell us all…..stop the teasing:)
February 10th, 2009 at 2:16 am
Hello,
I just stumbled here while looking up this fascinating topic. You may wonder why I was looking it up. Because I just experienced this mind-blowing phenomenon, and I want a repeat performance! This is not the first time that it has ever happened to me, and hopefully not the last, but it is not something that happens everyday. Early in my relationship with my husband, I had my first gusher from some really intense fingering. I was mortified, thinking I had peed myself. I never had another for more than a decade until my 30th birthday. HAPPY BIRTHDAY to me! I was shocked, but a little less naive and knew immediately that I had just squirted. The next week, it happened again, TWICE! And then a few weeks later again. I sort of wonder if 30 isn’t such a bad thing, as it seems to have turned up my sex-life. I didn’t experience for a couple of months until tonight. Now for the instructional. Tonight’s episode is freshest so here goes….
Before having sex, I always put a little stimulant on my clit. Tonight I used scream cream which seems to work really well for me. While I was waiting for that to work its magic, I warmed him up a little. I am not a foreplay kind of girl which is weird, I know. So no fingering, or kissing, or anything tonight. Just got to business. As soon as he penetrated I knew I was going to squirt. It just felt different and I even told him so. It felt very swollen and almost immediately it began to build. I always use a vibrator with sex as this generally makes my orgasms easier to attain and stronger. The one I like is called the magic wand or something and is really powerful. It plugs into the wall and it works! I use it on my clit while I am having sex. So anyway, he was asking me questions, like “do you want it like this?” I couldn’t concentrate, couldn’t answer. I think I eventually told him to stop talking to me. And then, I felt myself squirting. Important to note, that I almost always start squirting prior to the orgasm not at the peak. This orgasm went on forever, and I was kind of giddy afterwards. My husband gave me a break while he pounded his chest in typical male fashion and demanded I tell him how good he was. So we began again. Crazy thing, it was so sensitive that almost immediately I was coming off of the bed. No vibrator this time, and I started spraying him again. I don’t even think I had an orgasm that time. It was just like the other one had never stopped. Another thing that struck me was how my whole body was twitching even after the orgasm was over. He would touch me somewhere and I would just kind of spasm. Craziness! I love being 30! Since no one else seems to be giving you details like positioning and stuff. I was on the bottom with my feet on my husband’s shoulders. Great position for me to have an orgasm! I don’t know about anybody else, but it seems to rub me the right way and allows me access to use my toy too. I have never found my g-spot and neither has my husband so not sure g-spot has much to do with my orgasms. Hope this helps someone else.
Question for the guys: What is the typical male attitude towards female ejaculation? My husband is strutting like a peacock at the moment, but I seem to gather that many find this distatsteful in some way.
February 10th, 2009 at 12:34 pm
Suzanne,
That is awesome stuff. You were cumming, these orgasms can continue for hours. They get strung together and there are thousands of them. Not easy to tell when one begins and the other leaves of it they are not really just one long orgasm with many levels mixed together. Keep playing with it, it gets even better. 30 is not so bad, it will only continue to build for you.
The sensitivity is normal too. Some women continue to have involuntary shakes and twitches for hours. It is a very whole body experience. I imagine some guys may not like squirting, but I enjoy it. It is not necessary to happen by any means, but it is good fun when it does.
It is likely your G spot, just that you may have less of a focus on a spot. Remember that the G spot run from the traditional spot where most believe it to be al the way out to the front of the vagina. So, explore and enjoy and keep sharing the good detailed stories, that one is awesome.
February 16th, 2009 at 9:32 am
Wow! what an interesting topic to deliberate on…after reading everything, I couldn’t help but give it to Big. The guy sure knows his onions. Yet I can’t understand how a guy could flow so well on a topic that was supposed to be the Ladies’… I atleast expected Sandra to deliberate more on this topic instead she just kept beating about the bush. This is a very sensitive topic that has had effects negatively and positively on so many relationships. The ladies are the ones that sulk after an unsatisfactory sex yet when there’s a forum like this one to discuss the issue, they shy away. Now I must say that it’s not every man that has had the priviledge of accessing a woman’s body to the extent of knowing the highs and lows of every part…I know there are some societies and religions that frown at the idea of foreplay, fingering and stuff; it is now a woman’s place to tell the guy what turns her on. Now talking on the subject matter, I think it’s only a few guys like Big that can really penetrate into the topic the way he did. I really can’t say much; thanks to Big for the enlightenment and Suzanne, yours was an interesting story but it really didn’t solve the puzzle. So, I’d dare you big girls to brace up courage and come out of your shells and tell us guys how we can get you to squirt not just with our fingers but also with our penis. Got to go now, will check back tomorrow.
February 16th, 2009 at 10:10 am
Steve, I just checked out the video you posted… it’s a really nice one but what if you don’t want her to have any suspicion? what if you don’t want to to go thro any kinda ritual thing and what if she’s not open to the idea? Assuming you want to get her to the peak without using your fingers, how do you use you dick to achieve the goal? Hope you’ll forgive my naivity.
February 16th, 2009 at 10:19 am
Most women will never tell……some don’t know themselves. Others refuse to give up there power/control. It is part of their defense mechanism.
February 16th, 2009 at 10:57 am
Can’t help you Law, but I will fess up did not know I was squirting in the past when the bed was wet and my husband said I did it, I thought he was crazy.
Actually printed Big’s description out recently and tried it on myself, did get the squirt but not anything special. But I will continue trying.
The only time in my life where I probally had an experiences as Suzanne wrote about was when I got pregnant with my first child. Holy shit I had one continuing orgasm after another for several hours…and it continued several days afterwards. Whatever it was it was awesome..have not been there since. Want to get there igain.
Did ask Big if he now of any one having summer camps for adults addressing this squirting issue. When I get this thing down I would never hide it for the man. I would play the good teacher patiently helping along the way.
In a perfect world you have someone as Big as your training partner LOL
February 16th, 2009 at 7:30 pm
Oh Yeah Law
I read that ah ha you thought I forgot this subject. Do women squirt? It depends on if the woman knows her sensuality spots by masturbation or allowing the man to experiment with her. That is how I gained my knowledge about men and sex. Hey I had enough husbands I should know by now. Have you ever done it in a chair before how sexy can you get. How about so many positions you have lost count. Hey a guy would love to was my hair.
February 16th, 2009 at 10:35 pm
Sandra, several husbands? You must be a lovely woman.
February 16th, 2009 at 10:36 pm
…lovely doll of a woman.
February 16th, 2009 at 10:38 pm
I don’t mind washing the hair of a beautiful woman.
February 17th, 2009 at 11:13 am
Thanks Law and Marina,
I appreciate the props, but just sharing the love. It is not about the end goal, but the joy of even trying to get there. More pleasure is never a bad thing even for those women that believe too much of it is wrong or somehow diminishes their properness. The only reason I am able to speak to this is I pay attention and I have been lucky enough to have great women around me that were willing to be open and courageous enough to not hold back what is true for them. This is not just a function of them, but also of me creating a safe space for them to be exactly as they desired to be. Too many women package and feel they cannot voice their true desires. The worst part is they do not even voice those desires and energy to themselves. Because so many believe that sex and sexual desire and energy are bad, they deny and try to repress even feeling or admitting they feel what they do.
There are no bad sexual feelings. So, women, feel what you are going to feel. How you choose to act on those feelings is something you can decide should or should not be done, but the feelings are going to come even when you try to hold them back.
So, explore and enjoy your power and bodies. Do not be with people that do not help you feel safe to explore the full extent of your pleasure and power as women. I have seen it, once you are able to fully embrace your sexual self, the sense of self and power increase dramatically. Sexual well being is the ultimate expression of female power.
Anyway, enough of the soap box.
I have no idea if there are any camps for this exploration. Perhaps, I am missing a calling. LOL Guys, it can be done with a penis, just not the easiest way to go about it in the beginning. Plus, for many women when you use your cock, it changes the women’s mental place they approach sex and pleasure for themselves. So, it is generally easier to have the woman work on herself alone first or just be playing with a guy to be able to reach that place first. Once the woman has some good experience with it, she will generally cum easier and faster as the experience progresses. Not all women of course, but on the average. More orgasms generally makes it easier to cum more.
Guy, we tend to become outcome oriented. You do not want this to be the only goal. It depends on the woman, but generally, this is best if it is a nice surprise or just part of play. Once, the comfort level rises and there is some comfort with the sensations, then most women will have an chance to squirt with a cock. Also multiples. But, the real goal should be enjoying the process and having a more open and safe place to express and live out your sexuality. There is just way too much working against that in our life.
As for the women here, I think they are great. Their stories will come, just be patient. Demanding more or great detail is the last way to have it happen. LOL If we want more of the to share we have to make it an easy and comfortable thing for them to do. Since this forum is unidentified, perhaps some of the women will feel freer to be more detailed and provide more insight for us all. I may have some good experiences, but I am always looking for more information and other experiences to be even better.
I am impressed that this string has continued. I am sure with a bit more time, more women will step up and share and enjoy that freedom. It really is easier once you go there girls. Say it out loud and set it free.
February 17th, 2009 at 11:35 am
Big,
I really like what you wrote. Would you mind talking more about how to create a safe space with women for them to truly experience this kind of pleasure? Especially with women who may feel that too much sex diminishes their properness.
This is a topic that many men will find very useful.
February 17th, 2009 at 3:08 pm
But it also takes for the man to be ready for the flush…Have heard often it was way too much as if men really are not comfortable if girls squirt., all this wetness liquid comming out of us.The properness must be a US thing…The men really has to make us feel comfortable about what is going to happen too. As Khiem asked how do Big, sorry you are the only authority in here, make the women feel comfortable, so they know the man is ready for the squirt. How do we warn you about what happens when we squirt. Yes you missed your calling with the Camp.
February 17th, 2009 at 4:32 pm
Big
There is one thing that bothers me is. OK lets say me and this guy is making love and I want him to touch me in a certain spot and he says you don’t have to instruct me I know what I am doing? Oh yeah did you know that the only person that can get the individual off is themselves. OK if it feels that way guess what he just killed the mood and guess what he can find out the best way he knows how.
February 18th, 2009 at 12:17 am
Sandra, I hear your problem and understand it very well. This is a communication problem. And a male ego problem. I have never understood how men can believe they know everything there is to know about women when there are so many and so many wonderful things to learn about even just one of them. So, a man that says I do not want to hear from you as a woman about your pleasure is simply an idiot! To believe that he knows you better than you do or somehow you are less expert than him, is simply nuts.
So, on the practical side of things, guys… shut up and listen… I mean really listen. Do not think about what you will say next or what you are going to do. Listen and try to hear what is both said and meant under the worlds. You do not have to be sensitive or a wimp. Simply, where better to learn what will rock the woman’s world than the woman. Also, guys, i will let you in on a bit of secret, what they like changes as often as all the other things change that seems to confuse most of us.
This is not a beat up on guys thing, just most of our confusion and wondering how to be better with women or be able to have more around stems from our own inability to get out of our own way.
As to a safe place for women to be safe and express themselves fully, this is a more difficult topic. Every woman is different and their experience is all different. You can look at some things in general. It is safe to know that any woman from the US has had a lot of messages dumped on her that she is not enough, that she is wrong for being a sexual being, yet tons of mixed message that say that side of her is what is also valued most. So, it is okay to be a sex symbol, but you are never to enjoy actually being sexual.
So, on the sexual side it is about providing a place that is free of sexual judgment. A place that is trusted. This takes time, so this is not a short run or about hooking up thing. Nothing against that activity if that is what you want. Much of this will serve men on that front, but it is not what I am here to provide. Women are so tuned into the lines and BS, honesty is the new line. IE, there is no need for lines. I mean honest that we are sexual beings and when we are attracted to someone or interested, it is okay to be such. It is not about in your face stuff either. I think women respond well knowing that a man can be honest about him being a sexual being. It is not the sole motive or place a guy comes from, but it is a huge part of how our minds work in that context. It is also important that you are not 100% all the time on that as well. It implies desperation and that is not confident. I digress.
Anyway, back to safe place for women. It is about dialog and communication. Asking honest questions that do not mince words. Showing that you get it and understand a truth beyond the words. You have to have an understanding of timing and be unflinching when you ask a direct question. If you are uncomfortable with the question I assure you that she will pick up on that. So, for many guys they have to get over the idea that they cannot ask this or that. Better to ask and be told the question is inappropriate or makes them uncomfortable than to leave is unsaid. If you are honest about who you really are and you truly respect women, they will engage with the honesty and will love to communicate.
Women are hungary for a place to be free from judgment and talk about any desire or thought. They cannot do it with their friends for the most part because they fear what their friend might think of them. There is a great lack of safe places to be fully sexual or fully express the desires and thoughts and fantasies that run through their heads. So much so, that I know many women that self edit their own thoughts as inappropriate not letting them even have a space within themselves. This tends to lead to many women acting out on things and then being left to ask why they did this or that. Regret creeps in and guilt follows.
For the women out there, there is no bad thought or fantasy. Sexual feelings do not make you anything other than a human being, Trying to edit those before the fact, is only going to lead to a huge imbalance. What you can control and have a good say in is what you choose to act on after the feelings or thought present themselves. If we own that all of our feelings are our’s and they are all real, that there is nothing wrong with any of anything, Then freedom will begin to enter the situation. Just because you think it, does not make it so.
So, as men, you will serve your own life and enjoy the company of women much more if you are a source of safety and comfort and freedom to be anything they happen to be, then the current approach by almost all men. The expected behaviors tend to receive the expected responses and results. Be different and different in a positive way and you surprise women. You peak interest and curiosity. Surprise a women in a good way and life is easy for you. She will want to learn more.
Take it is step further and she will seek you out.
This all begins with you. You have to have your own shit together before you can hope to be a positive for anyone else. So, be honest with yourself. Work on what patterns you live by. Be different with your own internal voice. Then, you can go forward and hope to provide something different for women as well.
I wish there was a magic bullet. I wish there was a simple technique or a few lines. But, the reality is that most see straight through it. It is not about trying something different, it is about truly living that way.
I would love to hear from the women on this topic to see if many or any of them have ever had a man actually provide this type of space for them to be in. I imagine they may have had some areas, but not all. Or like Sandra, have a man seem to be one way, but then their actions tell a different story. Perhaps few if any have had a space with another person male or female ever that has been this way. I hope this is not so, but I have been around long enough to know how uncommon this is.
All of this topic would be less rare or mysterious if more women had this space to be and feel this sense of it being okay.
I think the best place to start with an effort into this area is to talk about these ideas with someone you would like to have that level of connection with. I would bet the conversation would allow for communication that was not expected to begin. I also know it seems much harder in your head than the actual conversations are. In hind sight you might even laugh that it was so much easier than you imagined it would be. So many are simply too afraid to bother to ask. So bother.
As to the actual squirt. Bring your mask and snorkel. I kid, but it comes back to communication. If a guy is freaked out by this, he is not the guy for you. If a guy is actively trying to help make this happen, i would be amazed they have a problem with it. If you are a woman with a guy and you are able to do this, have a conversation away from the sexual moment about it. Explain how good it feels and that it is not urine and that it turns you on. Most guys will love that they are able to be a part of that. If they are hung up about it still , then they are not the guy for you. Holy water.
Nothing could be finer than to bath from her vagina in the morning.
I kid, but man it is one of the coolest things ever and a man that has a problem with it, is an idiot. And frankly, hypocritical. The first question to ask a guy that has issues with squirting is how would they feel if they came and a woman was grossed out by it. Double standards. But, each and everyone is entitled to their preferences. Again, women, not the men for you.
February 18th, 2009 at 12:49 am
Big thanks !!!!
I think a great way for a man to make a woman comfortable about her squirting is reinforcing her with the attitude that it’s hot and that it turns you on when she squirt. I think a lot of men has not been used to talk about squirting, they too can be sexually constipated. Just like men love it when we swallow your cum as if it was the nectar of life they should think the same way of squirting. I have heard men so often refer it to messy, if we women did that to your cum you wouldn’t like it. I think instead of a regular bookclub there should be more sex story book clubs. Before we had our kids I used to read these silly sex novels while we drove long trips… It was so hot two benefits trips always felt fast and we were so ready to rip our clothes of when we reachen our destination
February 18th, 2009 at 4:50 am
Big
Are you in a profession for you speak as though you have done your homework when it comes to sexuality. My theory is this: when it comes to sex it should be something the two people are into a loving experiencing. One that is bonding not one to be played with for I believe in stand as two circle one. My awareness of sex is something that makes two people whole in the eyes of God and brings on the marital sense as well. Sex has been going on since the beginning of time since Adam and Eve. Did you know the animals are the smartest beings on Earth.
Oh one more thing why is it that when a man and woman make love a man will pull away from her when the woman thinks in the line of bonding and wanting a relationship.
February 18th, 2009 at 6:12 am
Big
Do you know the five attractions levels that the person must have to have a relationship wanna know then I will tell you later.
February 18th, 2009 at 7:17 am
Sandra,
come to think about it after Bigs’ last entry, I am changing my goals. Forget about relationships, I just want a regular Fuck Buddy like Big..LOL Damn there is still hope if we have men out there like Big.
February 18th, 2009 at 11:57 am
LOL, thanks. Sandra we are animals and I do not necessarily put us at the top, we just are best at domination of the environment. But, no I am not classically trained, just an interested participant. I simply pay attention and have put time into the topics we have discussed. I believe you do not need to be school in all things to become good at them. A library and an understanding of how to pull literature and more recently how to digest internet resources can take someone interested to a level of real knowledge. Of course, mix in a healthy dose of experienced based information as well and you can have a deep understanding of anything even out side your classic schooling. I am a life long learner and if I am interested in something I pursue knowledge in the area. Sex is a pretty high list item for me and I enjoy it, so I have done my homework.
Are you speaking to Attraction, Romance, Passion, Intimacy, and Commitment? Please do share your five levels, I would love to learn new insights into all things. New information is always welcome and I am sure all here would love your insights.
Marina, you flatter me so. I am not just into being a fuck buddy. I am not against relationships. I am happy to be in one, when it works and is mutual. I am also not against friendships that share a sexual expression, if both can be very open and the communication is able to stay totally open. It is about respect and mutual advocacy for each other. I think people need to be concerned less with labels and more about how they are treating and respecting each other. If a label is agreed upon and clearly delineated, then it is great. I am all for it. I very much respect the boundaries of the defined relationships I have had. I also know that sex is a very powerful and important part of like and I am not going to wait till I am only in a committed relationship to have that in my life. But, I am also not one to jump from partner to partner as the connection is very important for me. Nothing against anyone that chooses to live differently. It is quality of connection over quantity of interaction. Depth matters for me.
Marina, I should be so fortunate to have your attention.
February 18th, 2009 at 12:31 pm
A yes would be sufficient….LOL
Not into the casual kind…. Just havin a little fun here
February 18th, 2009 at 6:55 pm
Big
No Stooge Be Right Back
Physical Attraction: Men and Women have physical attraction towards each other but when it comes to a man his Physical attraction will only last a short time. Emotional Attraction: Is the attraction level which both sexes have. Intellectual Attraction: Is the one where you get to know one another as time goes by.
Oh did you know that if a man has an outward feeling it is only for show. But if he has the inward feeling the sex is great that is what they call the gut level feeling. Now a man can live with a woman if he only has physical and emotional attractions where the intellectual goes is when the disagreements turn into mental scares and betrayed trust.
Read It And Weep
February 18th, 2009 at 7:00 pm
Big
Is there something that you are not telling us or are you too much of a player love and leave them. The five f’s guys. I know guys but here we go again
1.Find Them
2. Fool Them
Finger Them
Fuck Them
Forget Them
My turnaround is this
Find Them
Fool Them
Stroke Them
Fuck Them
Forget Them
I love guys like you that don’t appreciate a woman who has agreed to allow you to enter her body like that. It is an honor not a want too. Maybe you should watch David’s podcast about giving your dick on a platter to a girl or just hand your dick over to her and I have lost my dick now you can have it.
February 18th, 2009 at 7:34 pm
Say Big, that is some dissertation. I don’t think that is for the average, vagina eater.
February 18th, 2009 at 7:36 pm
Sandra, I agree with you, it all starts with an erection.
February 18th, 2009 at 8:03 pm
hunter
u r my kind of guy then. at least you appreciate a woman who will let you do this to her.
Big
Are you a Captain Rabbit hippity hoppity to the next woman are you collecting trophies on your shelf than I have on mine. Or are you Captain Cum Quick and say to the woman sorry bitch but I don’t want a relationship with you just your pussy. Man if you were to meet me on the street and say all I want is your pussy I will send you packing so fast that would make your erected four inch penis shrivel in your body.
February 19th, 2009 at 5:19 pm
For some men that don’t like the squirt, they sell a latex dental dam in different flavors, at sex stores.
April 24th, 2009 at 3:19 pm
Big,
We could need some help from you for the new younger guys..Can we get you out of this blog and come to todays. David is out of town and he started talking about squiting orgasm and how we grip you guys when we get excited. would be nice with Professor Big on such an important topic.
April 24th, 2009 at 3:48 pm
See what I can do, been busy.
April 24th, 2009 at 4:14 pm
Knew I could find you in here…:-0