Would You Date A Single Mother?

November 21, 2011 82 Comments Men Lifestyle, Uncategorized

You always swore you would never date a woman who has children.

You’ve heard so many nightmare stories about it. You’ve heard about children acting up. You’ve heard about the lack of intimate one-on-one time.

There are so many things that can potentially go wrong. There is no spontaneity. Everything you’ve heard about children is multiplied by twenty because this kid isn’t even yours.

You’ve also heard about the tenacious sex drive that single moms have. Because they’re with the kids five days a week and they only have two days free, in those two days they need to satisfy all their urges. They want to have sex, but they’re not about wasting time because their free time is so limited.

So here you are. You’ve met an amazing woman and you’re dating “the single mom.” This is something you’ve never wanted. Welcome to one of the toughest times of your adult adolescence, because this is the time that you are forced to grow up faster than ever before.

I remember when I was living in Boulder, Colorado. I met a great woman named Denise who was beautiful and sexy. Everything about her was perfect, except she she had a four year old kid (and a boyfriend at the time too).

I remember that I would flirt with her every time I saw her. About a year later after flirting with her and being friends with her boyfriend, she came to my office one day and told me that she wanted to take me to dinner.

We went out to dinner. At dinner she looked at me and basically told me she was in love with me. I didn’t know what to do. I just really never wanted to adopt someone else’s kid, and she knew this.

So a few weeks later, she actually dropped her kid off for a few hours at my office. It was torture. It was hell. I was exhausted. I wasn’t ready for that kind of commitment.

I moved to San Diego. About six months later, I actually called her and said, “Moving to San Diego and walking away from you was the biggest mistake I ever made in my life.” By that time she had met someone else.

I wasn’t ready to date a woman with a kid. I wasn’t really mature enough. I realized, though, that not doing it was one of the biggest mistakes I ever made.

It’s true that there are going to be limitations when you date a woman who has a kid. She is still a woman, though, and she still has needs, wants and desires.

Also, it’s true that the child isn’t yours and that it is not a dream situation. In life, though, we can try to live the dream situation or we can just live life and take things as they come.

In life, everything doesn’t go according to plan. Everything doesn’t go the way you think it’s supposed to go.

So if you meet an incredible who has a child, and the child has a father who is in his or her life, then all that woman is looking for from you is to be a great man for her. When you spend time with the kid, enjoy the kid.

Kids are beautiful. Kids are great. You can learn a lot of things about yourself through the child.

She doesn’t need a substitute dad. She just needs you to be her boyfriend, to be her man.

So if you’re dating a single mother, enjoy it! This woman may have a child, but you may not be able to meet another great woman like her.

This is a great time in your life. It enables you to grow and experience things that you never thought you would experience. So, enjoy that single mother!

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Larz0 says

2014-08-04 13:44:46

This is such a strange and naive article.  You flirted, had a dinner proclaiming love, babysat once, and then moved away only to think it was the worst mistake in your life?  Huh?  Then, after not having any sort of extensive relationship with the single mom, you give advice for dating them and understanding them.  Just bizarre.
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Renae Warford says

2013-11-16 18:36:09

Wonderful collection, Eric, appreciate it. Bookmarked and shared :)
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mr x says

2013-05-21 03:45:54

im in the same shoes as you david....recently met a beautiful woman but she has 2 kids (and a boyfriend too) . Maybe she'll ask me out and say she loves me, I dunno. but the fact is ive made up my mind about her already. While I would have children with a girl one day, I don't want a girl with children already. Yes while for the first couple of months it will all be plain sailing, from that point on its all "kids kids kids" and she'll never be there for me. Also I don't want to be an intruder on her children because im not there real father, Plus if we wanted to go away on holiday for one-on-one time she wont go because of the kids. and the risk is if we had a major bust-up she will start making false child molestation allegations...your life is in ruins even if your found not guilty before a court of law. ive made the best decision ive ever made - pulling out before pulling on, theres plenty of unattached, childless women out there who are willing to commit, be 100% honest about themselves and yes children can be discussed but it will be both of ours, I want my kids to grow up in a stable traditional values family household
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Neill Johnston says

2012-10-15 11:57:15

True enough, true enough. And in A-LOT of cases, THEY, expect YOU, the guy, to make up for the MISTAKES, that THEY had made. HUH, unless, YOU feel that you are MAN enough, to save THEM, from ALL their MISTAKES, I would NOT, even go close, to ANY form of relationship, or EVEN marriage with a single mama. Maybe, MAYBE, date her occasionally, that IS, OCCASIONALLY, but I DO tell you, that this SINGLE life, is not so bad after all considering the alternatives with a single mama who HAS kids living at home with her, and most of these single mama's DO have kids living at home with her. Here is another one for you, WHY, would you EVER take on some other guy(s)ex wife or girlfriend, and especially who HAS children living with her????? As IF, it was enough to take on a guy(s) ex wife or girlfriend, BUT, to ALSO have to take on HIS, and HER kids as well, that YOU HAD no part of creating those kids in the first place. Because, THAT, is WHAT you are doing, not only taking on her, but ALSO, taking on HERS, and her former ex's kids. NO THANKS!!!!!!!
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awh says

2012-10-15 00:13:33

No, I would not. They messed around and got knocked up, now they have to live with their mistakes.
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Neill Johnston says

2012-09-17 17:21:24

I have dated only two single mothers at two different times. However tho, would I go back and date another single mother???? The answer would be a HUGE NO. WHY you ask, is because, a lot of single mothers have first, come from broken homes, who once were married, BUT, ran into a lot of complications of abuse by their ex-husband OR, from previous boyfriends. They are also carrying with them a lot of trauma, and emotional baggage from those former marriages and relationships that most of them have not seeked out any form of counseling for their trauma. Therefore, I DO NOT need ANY of their trauma or, emotional baggage in my life. THAT, is WHY, I will NOT, ANY LONGER, seek out a single mother, especially a single mother who has children still living at home with her. Thanks, BUT, NO THANKS. Neill
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Michael says

2012-09-03 06:22:54

Money! Depends on who you are and what you want in life. There are millions of people out there looking for a good relationship. However, there are many that don't want a relationship, just sex. It all depends on your own outlook on life. Not all single mothers are looking for men to pay their bills. Some women that I had fun with earned £150,000 per/y...I was only earning £4000 per/y when I was 18. I agree with not getting your children involved unit some time later. After all you don't know the person. I do not have any children of my own but I remember dating this one girl and I did not even introduce her to my nieces and nephews for 11 months. My mother and father didn't even get to meet until 8 months. A need person is not a good person to date; my advice is RUN from a needy person.
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Rose Red says

2012-09-03 01:35:13

Yes many single mothers are looking for a man to pay their bills. What do you think care and feeding of children grows on trees OF COURSE some need a boyfriend for bills. Call that what you may. I am child free yes there are many women without children and I haven't dated fathers, hows that? Those men don't even come across my radar. Recently though online some fathers have contacted me and I turned every single one down. Dude had a 4 year old (he is 45!!) wanted me to meet his daughter on the first date -NO. Nother dude looked good on paper till I saw photos of his two well educated daughters still living at home with daddy, uh HELL NO who needs that drama? So I'll be staying in my lane: Fatherless men.
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Michael says

2012-08-29 12:20:11

I don't agree all women are looking for men to pay their bills. She is looking for a man not a boy! When I was only 18, I remember having more single mums in my bedroom; then I care to remember...but they never wanted any more than a one night stand. She will look for a man on the same level, for example, good job, property, car, stable, understands how to act and more... Most women today don't need a man to pay the bills! Most of the women I had in the bedroom did not need money. Most of them eared £50 to 100K a year. Most had homes in London and we are talking £400,000+ When the right man came along it was good by boy. Thanks for a wonderful time! However, it did not take long to find another.
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Rob says

2012-05-07 05:47:11

Any guy who dates a woman with a kid is a sucker. Plain and simple. She's not into you, she just wants help raising the kid and your money. Boom. Done.
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Ron says

2012-04-14 07:51:07

I'm currently dating a single mom, four months in, and think this girl is amazing, beautiful with all the core characteristics I've always looked for. She's in nursing school with a young kid and has a very full plate, taking both her school priorities and her child very seriously. She's a sweetheart, and it's been fun, but really hard because of the time crunch. I'm also in school and our only time together the past two months has been studying because of how focused she has to be. We've both already fallen for each other so while it might be best to spend a little less time in that situation, It's hard to, and I kind of feel stuck. The hardest part is that i've kinda not been as loving and strong as I could be because I've had my doubts throughout but I am serious about her, and I think her kid is amazing. Does it make sense that she'd be a little more open, and light, more fun to be around this summer when school is over?. I feel like I only know the side of her that is crazy hectic and anxious, but I'm waiting to see who she is when the dust settles. Any thoughts?
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Darren says

2012-02-06 17:16:06

I agree with Chucky, the decent girls who have morality would never allow themselves to get knocked up by some thug. unfortunately theres few of them about. I have been on dating sites before, I get so many messages from single moms... sorry but no thanks. if you have kids there is a big massive NO stamped across your forehead. I want MY OWN family in the future... like when I'm 25 or older, but not now. I'm 22, no job yet and my career hasn't even started, Im fresh out of uni, no car, no money, no place of my own. I can't support a family. I want it to be just us 2. Maybe when I meet the perfect girl and marry her we'll have as many kids as she wants. But right now Im still young and want to enjoy life without kids.
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Chucky says

2012-01-18 02:01:17

Girls ignore nice guys like me and choose thugs and once they get knocked up, they try to score points with me. HELL NO, to single moms, what happend to Prince Charming? And who chose the guy? Your F*** up not mine. I ain't raising another guys kid.
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Falko Baade says

2011-12-13 07:03:38

When I look at online profiles, I notice that there are so many single mothers - at least in Germany. Why would one cut out this huge group of opportunities?
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Sterling W. says

2011-11-28 15:29:13

Never say "never". But it's not high on my list of things to do.
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Leanne says

2011-11-23 07:44:56

Hey Everyone, How are you all? Interesting topic. I am a single mum of not one but three kids. One piece of advice that I would give men that date women with children is PLEASE be careful about how serious you get over what time period. My friends and I were talking about this a few weeks back. All of us are having the same issues where guys are wanting to get serious far more quickly than we want to. You need to understand that we have our kids now. The need to settle down and have our families has already happened. I can support myself financially, I am already surrounded by love, and I have my children. The two relationships that I have had since I split with their dad have ended because the guys have got way too serious way too quickly. No one that I have dated has even met my children! I am not about to just move someone right on in with my kids at the six month point! Please just all be mindful of this. If a group of eight women chatting at a picnic are all expressing the same issue, the chances are it's not just a co-incidence. Just go easy and don't scare good women away by trying to move things along too quickly... Leanne
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john says

2011-11-22 06:56:09

I was just reading some of the comments. Really people? I'm not doing the POF thing to "get a woman by any means possible". I'm trying to prove a point. People use POF as a testing ground all the time. @chris d., I don't care about the opinions of people who don't know me.
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john says

2011-11-22 05:40:20

Bob,, email me the vodka pic. Johnyou38@hotmail.com
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john says

2011-11-22 05:35:52

@bob,, I WILL use your picture,, if you don't mind! THAT'S FUNNY AS FUCK! lol. Btw,, tall john got 3 msgs. Last night.
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Brian says

2011-11-22 02:54:38

Dave, Really like hearing your stories about woman you have dated. I could read them all day long. They are great. I have dated woman with kids and I didn't mind it at all. In fact, I feel that woman with kids are great at time management, they are more flexible, and incredible givers. It was a great experience for me each time.
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Bob says

2011-11-21 22:39:53

Collin, Are you kidding me? You poor thing! Are we getting as specific as cup size now? The most beautiful girls in the world have B cups...Super models,etc., so you ain't givin' up a whole lot. The fat ones all have the big DD cups anyhow, so get real.
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Collin says

2011-11-21 22:15:31

@Bob, I would choose the skinny girl with the big boobs 9 times out of 10. In real life, however, if I thought a girl was pretty and enjoyable to be around, I would be willing to forgive the fact that she had B-cups. It's not just theory, either. I've been with girls who had everything from As to DDs.
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Bob says

2011-11-21 22:10:36

Collin So are you saying you would pick the "plain, chubby, frizzy haired girls with great personalities" over the "vapid, thin, buxom, round-bottomed girls"? I don't know about you but the nice bottomed girls, go a long way toward covering up a few little personality "quirks", in my book. I'll take them every time over the chubby, frizzy haired gals...
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Collin says

2011-11-21 21:52:38

@John, put a bunch of vapid, thin, buxom, round-bottomed girls up against a group of plain, chubby, frizzy haired girls with great personalities, the thin ones will win every time if they're compared on paper. You can't look at studies that test what women say they want instead of what women actually do. What they do is far more important than what they say, since if you've actually paid attention to any women ever, they say thing that are very different than what they do.
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Godfather says

2011-11-21 20:06:31

@Tom: You can find the meaning here: https://www.dictionaryslang.com/leather%20bag
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MS says

2011-11-21 19:38:44

David, Thank you for this article. I found it beautiful, objective, unbiased and simply complementary to single moms. As a recent single mom, I will pocket this article and read it when I need a little inspiration. I don't think any woman or man plans to be a "single mom" or "single dad", or for that matter, divorced. Life does not always go as we plan; we have to work with the cards we are dealt. I've learned to see people with an open mind and an open heart and not to judge them. Life is more interesting and enjoyable that way. MS
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Tom says

2011-11-21 18:59:40

@Godfather what's a leather bag? @Brian Society changed the meaning, not me. I know that MILF means "mother I'd like to fuck", but in todays society they have changed that, as wikipedia represents in it's definition saying "is a common colloquial term generally regarded as vulgar when spelled out. It denotes a sexually attractive older female, generally between 25 and 50 years of age.”(wikipedia)" Blame society, not me. @Bob I know, sucks, I'd see hot women in their 40s, and they have children, turns me off.
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sandra hutchens says

2011-11-21 18:14:24

john do whatever it takes to get a woman...also what i have been reading from you tom and also bob is not annoying...i sometimes laugh at what you three say...have fun bob and kristin...wish you luck john...
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Chris D says

2011-11-21 18:08:33

john no offense but i would stay the hell away from you too if i was a woman. sorry but from all the comments you've posted over the past week you need a lot of help. you have that "everybody is against me" attitude, it's very annoying.
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Bob says

2011-11-21 17:55:32

Tom, Good luck on finding an older woman without kids. I know dozens of "older" women, and not one of them does not have kids... It's not like it's hard for them to get laid, so, yes, kids are often the results of that.
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Brian says

2011-11-21 17:35:46

Right now, I would not date a single mom, in five years I would consider it (I'm 22 now). @Tom, Never ever use the word MILF to describe an older woman who's not a mom. It doesn't give the proper respect to the creators of the word (American Pie authors) since the first MILF ever was Stifler's mom. Sorry, but the meaning cannot be substituted that freely.
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Godfather says

2011-11-21 17:34:04

@Tom: I think you are referring to a leather bag if you know what that means.
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Tom says

2011-11-21 17:08:16

@KJD lol forget about the terms, I'll just say older woman who never had children.
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KJD says

2011-11-21 16:50:35

Interesting topic... Would I date a single mother? Yes as long as she isn't past the point of wanting more children. I plan on gracing the world with one of my offspring one day. I have dated women with kids in the past and I think one thing to consider is not getting too involved with the children until you have decided where the relationship is headed. Allowing the children to get too attached to your presence can lead to tough times if you split with the mother. So dating a single mother definatly takes more forethought of where you want things to go. If the two of you just keep it casual on a see each other when the children are at the fathers then things can be great, you can be their vacation from thier day to day life and have alot of fun. Once you start getting invited to birthdays and school plays you need to decide if you are willing to be there for the long haul though. @Konstantin With the teen pregnancy rate what it is this topic could be relevant to anyone over the age of 16. Also I didn't realize 30 was that old :P @Tom Technically MILF would indicate children, I think cougar (woman late 30s to mid 40s that date younger men) or barracuda (woman late 40s and beyond that date younger men) would be more what you are looking for. @Bob Don't worry just get a tattoo that says Prada or Loius Vatton on your ass and Kristin can parade you around as her arm candy ;)
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Tom says

2011-11-21 16:47:39

Also another reason approaching is easy, is because you don't have to be... you. look at me, I wear sunglasses to hide my ptosis, turtle necks to hide my disfigured jaw, jewelry, and top of the line clothes. all you have to do is hide negatives of yourself. when I was a teen, me and my friends would go to the train, and hang out all day there looking for women to approach, we'd call it "pussy hunting". the rules were you had to talk to a woman or get embarrassed on the train, so there was no choice lol, that's what loosened me up in approaching.
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Tom says

2011-11-21 16:41:56

@John Don't change my words, I never said I wanted to fuck a woman who is a mother I said, and I quote from my comment #28 "what alot of people call a “MILF”" I'm just using a term that people like you use in society. you know I meant an older woman who never had children, don't play dumb. so take a breathe and relax. "So,, if it’s not my height, and nobody reads the profile text, so, it MUST be my ugly face." It's not that you're ugly, it's that your not being open to women. see the note that woman left you with her phone number? you should call her. approaching is just the first little baby step, even I could do it. if you can't approach I suggest you keep practicing otherwise when you do get a date, it will be hard for you. because everything after the approach is what's hard(for me at least), the approach is simple, I can approach women and get her phone number(when at my best mood of course). the dating, trying to get them attracted, being at the right place at the right time, calling at the right time, looking good, being healthy is the challenge, not approaching. I don't have approach anxiety, I have dating anxiety, attracting anxiety, and to be simple, emotional anxiety. approach anxiety to me is a joke because it's so easy to approach, I use the same routines I've been using for years too. only problem is after the approach, when I have the number, and date ready, they flake, or I flake due to fear. approaching is simple.
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Bob says

2011-11-21 16:26:31

John Copy my picture with the jug of vodka and see what happens. :)
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Joey Juneau says

2011-11-21 16:19:00

No No thats Defiently not it. You just gotta be more creative. Try pertending you are a white rapper. Wear a due rag and put that hat backwards. Be like"i may be white but my rhymes are tight"
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john says

2011-11-21 16:14:29

@joey,, that's funny. But seriously,, not one single response,,, EVER! Am I really THAT awful looking?,, really?? No matter what I put, I never get a response. Now, really, I personally think online dating is a waste of time,, but not even a single response ever?
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Joey Juneau says

2011-11-21 16:09:01

And Say your From Pebble Oaklahoma.
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Joey Juneau says

2011-11-21 16:06:00

John i will tell you what is it is shoe size? Say you have size 14 feet and the women will come running. Test it out.
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john says

2011-11-21 15:48:26

Well,, things aren't looking too good for tall john. Not a single reply, not one mutual match, no yes votes for the meet me, and only 1 new page view. So,, if it's not my height, and nobody reads the profile text, so, it MUST be my ugly face. :(
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Kristin says

2011-11-21 15:41:49

@John,He lied i didnt say that lol.I have dated guys of all shapes and size
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Jennifer says

2011-11-21 15:41:14

When I was younger, I wouldnt even think of dating a single dad. I was 18 yrs and a freshman in college. I met a guy who was in the Navy. He was 23 yrs old and our first meeting he told me about his daughter. He show me a picture. He said he wanted to be upfront about her and wanted to get to know me. I told him the truth not interested. After being married and my own kids, my mind is changed. My ex and I adopted our children after my sister's death. My ex and I are proud of them and wonderful co parents. Not all single moms are looking for a Dad for their children. Im upfront with guys about being single mom. I will not introduce them to my children until I know its going to the serious side. Im lucky, my children are wonderful and finishing highschool. My problem is Im forty one and do not plan to have any more kids. I look younger than my age. The last guy I dated was never married or had kids. The one Im interested has never been married too. He says its ok. As a single mom, I also had to make sure or be careful about dating too.
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Kristin says

2011-11-21 15:38:10

LMAO,Ya well he cant live with out me
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Godfather says

2011-11-21 15:36:37

Oh how nice. I don't think I've had that before. Maybe I'll try that one out next time.
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john says

2011-11-21 15:34:38

@kristin,, I thought you'd be on the greyhound halfway to OK by now. :)
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Kristin says

2011-11-21 15:26:45

He is drinking Wolfschmidt Vodka with diet coke and lime
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john says

2011-11-21 15:22:52

Nope,, Mom I'd Like to Fuck Courtesy John Cho, and the American Pie movies.
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Godfather says

2011-11-21 15:14:10

Dam I'm craving a drink too! What are you drinking there Bob?
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Tom says

2011-11-21 15:05:20

@Bob @John Relax... you know what I meant. but still, here's the Definition of "MILF" - "is a common colloquial term generally regarded as vulgar when spelled out. It denotes a sexually attractive older female, generally between 25 and 50 years of age."(wikipedia) it's a term, to describe an hot older woman, doesn't mean the woman has to be a mother(as said on wikipedia, it says It denotes a sexually attractive older female, generally between 25 and 50 years of age(whether she is a mother or not)., it doesn't say the term denotes a woman who is a mother, just a term)
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David S. says

2011-11-21 14:58:03

At this time in my life I would not date a single mother. Perhaps in the future when I have my stuff together, but its just way too much to handle as a college student. Its so difficult to date a single mom because you have to impress 2 people instead of 1. Even if you woo the girl so much, if the kid doesn't like you then you have no chance. And you are already going in knowing you will never be the most important person in that girl's life because her kid will always come first. It takes a lot for a man to accept that and try to work things out and I'm definitely not at a point in my life where I can do that, but maybe in the future. Great blog today!
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john says

2011-11-21 14:54:30

@bob,, shit,, I think I need a drink!,, lol.
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Bob says

2011-11-21 14:39:21

Tom, Your sentence makes no sense. MILF means "Mother I'd like to fuck". But, you said an older woman without children. So, I guess you meant you would go out with a Cougar or WILTF? In horses it is a filly, in cattle it is a heifer, I don't think there is a term for human women, who have not had a baby yet...
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Tom says

2011-11-21 14:25:23

@Konstantin Ok you're still young, and you still have time to build up a reputation, don't wait til my age kid, once your 35 and boring like me, you'll regret it. when I was your age, I was in a war with so many men over a woman who kept me in the friend zone, her name was Maybell, I was your age, 19 from 95 to 96, met Maybell in 1993. I went through so much and ended up in the friend zone. I experimented, and all those experiments failed on me, I got hooked on drugs, I got hurt. I got embarrassed and etc all for one woman(who I still love to this day) so my advice to you is simple, don't be like me. don't clinge to one woman, be a player, be cocky, be arrogant, and talk to as much women as possible. you are 19, you need to have fun, you just finished childhood, don't rush into adulthood so fast like I did at your age, look where that got me. do things that people don't expect. say you are on a date with a woman, do something crazy like make her pay, women like men who have reps, money, and are suave. they like high school jock type of guy who will give them a roller coaster ride. have fun and don't stop having it. this is advice I should listened to when I was young, but it's too late. but it isn't too late for you, so listen to @Bob, he is right, just have fun and fuck around, don't worry about the people you hurt, one person matters and that is you, something I should've seen along time ago when I was worried about everyone around me and not myself. have fun, don't ruin yourself like I did. hope you have fun and don't worry about what anyone has to say about you, when someone is negative towards you, dust it off.
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Tom says

2011-11-21 14:13:56

I could never date a woman who has kids. that's such a low blow, for me to be with a guys ex, and his kids, that doesn't fly. thinking about it makes me cringe. I mean look at it, if I broke up with the mother of my kids, and some douche decides to get with her and try to father my kids, I won't even get mad, I won't even try to fight him, that is one of the instances where I won't get anger or violent, that is an instance where my heart will be broken. I would never do that to the mother of my children with another woman(I don't have children but if I ever do this rule applies) and I don't expect that to be done to me.) if I'm going to date a woman who has kids, then she needs to keep her kids far away from me, I wouldn't even want to meet them in respect for their father. I am no hypocrite what I don't do what I don't want done to me, that is fairness. also a woman who has kids most likely becomes unattractive. her breast start sagging, she has a belly, mood swings, has to deal with her kids. I wouldn't want that. now if there was an older woman who never had kids, what alot of people call a "MILF", then yes I would date her because there would be no problems, but the question would be would she date me? most likely not I guess. to answer your question David, no I would never date a single mother. @John "I'll take whatever I can get" that is your problem, what if the woman was a killer? what if she was crazy? see, you can't be desperate, we all get desperate, I do too, but then there comes a time where you have to put desperation aside. I mean look what happened with me and Jenny, that was due to a little desperation and being clueless. also John height isn't important, I am pretty tall, 5'11 and men who are 5'0 get chosen over me. height doesn't matter, reputation does.
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Bob says

2011-11-21 14:13:49

Konstatine, What are you complaining about. You are only 19 years old. You are not supposed to be an expert on dating women yet. why the hell are you even on a "dating blog", looking for information? Go out, experiment with different methods, and develop your own style, before you go checking out the dating/PUA sites for a "system", or help with meeting women. You probably don't even need it, and will do just fine developing your own style and system. You are still a baby! Go out and have some fun!
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Intern Dan says

2011-11-21 14:08:56

I dated a really beautiful woman who had a kid. She was 25 and I was 20. She had and still has an incredibly beautiful spirit. But, single mothers often come with HEAVY emotional baggage. From what I've seen it's really rare to break up with the co-creator of your kid and have it be really good between the two of you. It's a hard thing to do, to date a single mom, but it can be done.
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john says

2011-11-21 13:42:28

Ok,, so far operation 6' tall John is not going very well. No responses yet since I moved my profile to Cleveland and changed my height. Also,, I have sent out HUNDREDS of "want to meet you" s,, and so far,, zero interest. But it's early.
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Red says

2011-11-21 13:08:27

I have mixed feelings about dating someone with a kid. It really takes looking at their past and asking what sort of future they are wanting. I'm in my 30s and one of the first mom's I dated was at 17, she was 19, and I wasn't ready. Since then have had a good handful of experiences so feel I know a thing or two. If she had a kid due to a rebellious and wild past, which meant she jumped from man to man and lots of broken relationships, be weary. Old habits are hard to break. Having a kid made her grow up and take responsibility but most times deep down she's still a wild child, especially when the child is away at the dad's for the weekend. Now if she was married, ended up divorced, or got knocked up while in long term relationship, these kind of mom's make great girlfriends/wives. Deep down they just want to be loved, in a comitted relationship. They usually are better mom's too and will want to eventually have more kids ... hopefully with you.
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Kristin says

2011-11-21 12:58:16

@Cindi,Thank you lol
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Cindi says

2011-11-21 12:50:44

you boys.... you're so silly with that women bashing. I don't believe you think that for one minute. @john - Ok - well hope your experiment works out, but keep in mind that dating sites rank you higher in the search results if you update your profile, so you might just be getting "found" because you changed your information. I don't think this height change would exactly qualify as a scientific experiment :) Cindi
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john says

2011-11-21 12:48:05

@bob,, join the club!,, lol :)
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john says

2011-11-21 12:47:10

@cindi,, NO,, that would ruin the whole experiment. I just want to see what happens. And I'm sure my text in my ad is bad,, but I really don't think ANYBODY reads the text anyway. It's all about the stats, and the picture. Imo.
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Bob says

2011-11-21 12:45:18

PS. I have now become a depressed, disturbed, unstable, gumpy old alcoholic, loser. Damn women, Damn them all.
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Bob says

2011-11-21 12:36:52

"women want to feel protected". I hear this same line over and over. What the hell do all these women want "protection" from? We live in a country of law and order. Women have not needed physical protection for a thousand years. A caveman is not going to come and drag them off, anymore, are they? No, women are shallow, selfish, arrogant, vile and repulsive creatures. I just asked kristin if she would have dated me if I was 5'5", poor, with a small dick, and she said NO! All women want is arm candy, who will make them look good, like a Gucci handbag, or pair of DG sunglasses. Men are mere accessories and mean no more to them than the latest pair of fashion jeans! I am dumping her immediately, and sending her back to OK on a greyhound bus! Screw women, I will be just fine on my on, and save a ton of money!!
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Cindi says

2011-11-21 12:29:09

@john Do you have a link to your profile or can you post your ad text here? I'd bet money that it has more to do with your profile text than your height. I'm 5'8" and I wouldn't rule anyone out just on that. I hardly pay attention to those stats. What's more important is the personality and if the guy seems interesting. How about you change your height info back to what it was and post on there that you are an underwear model in Japan on the side (and then of course a "just kidding") to show the ladies that you're not just a boring dude (not that I know what you wrote) and that you might be a good time.... Lots of luck - Cindi
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Kristin says

2011-11-21 12:20:19

@Manny, Im with you on this one
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john says

2011-11-21 11:37:39

@manny,, ok, well let's see what happens in my little POF experiment. I'm really curious to see. I have never had a single response from a woman, and that profile has been up for YEARS. if, I have 20 or so responses within a few days, from women,, then I think my point is proven.
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Godfather says

2011-11-21 11:35:52

As for this blog, dating woman with a child can be an interesting experience. I never have experienced this before so I don't know how it would be like to date one. It might be worth a try. I find it funny that some woman that I wanted to date before told me that that they have a child when they really didn't and they thought that was the way of scaring off guys. There was a time in the past when a woman was interested in me and had a son as old as me at the time. I didn't go for it. For some reason, I had this bad idea of her son coming after me and kicking my ass.
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Manny says

2011-11-21 11:32:55

John, what height preferences mean is that women want to feel protected. Short guys, talls guys, if you're a guy then you protect. Don't really matter for most. For those who do then that too doesn't matter because other women wil feel protected through other means.
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john says

2011-11-21 11:05:13

I just posted that exerpt from that article about women and height, because I found it interesting. Women are so incredibly shallow. Just for shits and giggles,, I just moved my POF profile to Cleveland,, changed my height from 5'7 to 6'2,, and left everything else the same. Same picture and everything. I have NEVER gotten a response before,, I already had 1 after making the change before I could even log out. I want to see just how shallow women really are about something men have no control over.
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David Wygant says

2011-11-21 10:49:56

Konstantin I write blogs for all ages so i can reach all my readers. I have readers from 14 to 70.
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Konstantin says

2011-11-21 10:46:37

Another thing which ain't related to this topic at all but I want to share.I was against dancing and having that fun at club,but I'm living in place now where in clubs everybody dance and have fun. And when I came back in my hometown with that new habbit of dancing and just having good time(ain't just sit and look)I did the same thing in my hometown. And the hottest girl in the club the other day said that is very stupid when everybody stay,drink and stare at something. And my friend told me that when I was dancing everybody looked me like I was fool,and other day were many rumors about what I did.What you thing I did something worth or people ain't have their own lives?
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sandra hutchens says

2011-11-21 10:38:33

I am a single mother but both of my daughters are grown and married i am not a grandmother yet. the blog is about single mothers with children but what about dating a man who owes child support to the woman with kids and refuses to pay it. if i met a guy with kids and they were still under the age of 18-21, i would try to help him raise the children and not take the place of the mother.
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Konstantin says

2011-11-21 10:36:52

David you writting blogs some time only for your age.I told some friend about you and the stuff you teaching(which I like although I'm 19)and he said to me you kidding,we ain't 30 year olds.
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john says

2011-11-21 10:24:57

Ok,, this is off topic,, but I just want to throw this out there. I don't know how old this is, but ABC did a study to see how important height is to women. This is what they came up with... To see if the women would go for short guys who were successful, ABCNEWS’ Lynn Sherr created extraordinary résumés for the shorter men. She told the women that the shorter men included a doctor, a best-selling author, a champion skier, a venture capitalist who’d made millions by the age of 25. Nothing worked. The women always chose the tall men. Sherr asked whether there’d be anything she could say that would make the shortest of the men, who was 5 feet, irresistible. One of the women replied, “Maybe the only thing you could say is that the other four are murderers.” Another backed her up, saying that had the taller men had a criminal record she might have been swayed to choose a shorter man. Another said she’d have considered the shorter men, if the taller men had been described as “child molesters.”
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john says

2011-11-21 10:12:00

I'll take whatever I can get. Any woman who is single anywhere near my age is going to have kids, and most likely an ex husband. If I ruled out women with kids, there would be no one left.
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Roy says

2011-11-21 08:38:18

Tough topic today David. The main reason why guys that are just trying to get laid use protection is to avoid a kid happening in the first place. Therefore it's natural for anyone with this mindset to recoil when a woman says she has a kid. Ones perspective of dating a single mom is likely to be more positive as one matures. Afterall, if she still manages to be an amazing sexy woman with the day to day stress of raising a child, and she is doing a good job raising the kid with or without a father in the picture, why wouldn't a man be impressed with this?
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Kevin says

2011-11-21 06:40:40

I would date a woman with a kid if I had great chemistry with her and she was sexy. I met this amazing 22 year old when I was 21 and she was drop dead gorgeous she had a daughter and was married and all I did was flirt my ass off with her. I knew she liked me by the way she looked at me and smiled so I would call her out on it all the time and say "You totally like me don't you!" All she would do is smile and say "I"m married". I would always kiss her neck when I hug her and she'd just laugh and be like "Omg, You want me to get a divorce?" She was awesome. One upside of dating a woman with a kid is that she won't be looking to you for one and you can walk away anytime.
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Collin says

2011-11-21 05:28:39

I remember the first single mother I ever dated. She was a nursing student, and our relationship was already long distance, so we couldn't see each other except for one or two weekends a month. I had recently lost my virginity, and she was horny as a teenager, so whenever we saw each other, we would literally have sex the second I walked in the door. Essentially the only limit on how many times we would do it was how many times I could get it up, and she would pretty much try anything. She never made her son much of a part of our relationship, which was probably a good thing. I realized after a couple months that I liked having sex with her a lot more than I liked her, and call me crazy, but I wanted something more. Unfortunately, she had fallen pretty hard for me, which meant that it was a pretty rough break up. Dragging it out wouldn't have done her any favors though. Oh well. She's married now, and I don't harbor any ill will towards her.
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Thomas Julio says

2011-11-21 05:18:39

I would date a single mother. I would because I dont mind kids. We were all kids once. If the kid is cool thats a bonus.
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