The other night a friend of mine came over.

We got into a long conversation and he, like many other men out there (I’d say about 80% of them in this world, from all the surveys I’ve done and all the training I’ve done) is a porn addict.

He showed me one of his favorite sites.

After about 30 seconds I looked at him and said, this is garbage.

For one, I don’t really need to see another dude bang a woman.

It doesn’t turn me on to see his male ass going in and out of her vagina. Sorry to be crude, but that’s exactly all I see.

The only porn that I’ve ever thought was actually erotic and sensual was solo masturbation porn by women. Because if you’re a man and you really want to understand what triggers, what makes a woman turned on, how she needs to be touched and caressed, then watching solo women masturbation will actually teach you something.

The rest of porn is complete garbage.

One of the greatest things that ever happened to me when I was 17 was my girlfriend at the time masturbating for me.

I learned everything she needed, the way she needed to be touched.

The speed of how she needed to be touched.

The delicacy of how she needed to be touched.

The circular motion of how she needed her clit touched.

I’ve always had women that I’ve been with masturbate for me because I can learn from that. And to me, that was sensual and erotic and beautiful.

But the crap that guys watch, it’s ridiculous. I looked at him said, this is a joke.

He showed me three other ones. After about 15 seconds of each I turned it off and I said, I’m sorry, but I don’t need to see some pool guy screwing some woman.

Because the majority of women that I’ve been with don’t really want to go and watch a pool guy and within 15 seconds he’s banging her while her husband is upstairs working on the internet.

It’s all just ridiculous. It’s like modern-day warrior, taking a woman, throwing her down, coming all over her.

It’s like marking his territory. It’s all very male-centric and I think that’s the reason why so many men are very mediocre in the sack.

It’s not an insult to you guys at all. As a matter of fact, it should be a wake-up call, because for all the men that are addicted to porn, 80% of the women that come to my seminars that I’ve ever worked with have complained about how bad men are in bed. And the reason why is porn.

You’re not using your imagination at all. You’re not really understanding the way a woman is wired and what she’s looking for and what she’s all about.

It’s a pure male fantasy. Men write porn. Men direct porn.

If you want to know what women like, you can watch them solo masturbating or watch soft porn. For soft porn, there’s a series that used to be on Showtime, called Red Shoe Diaries.

Jerking off over your gorilla screen. Something about a screen on a phone called gorilla while a man jerks off is pretty funny because if you think about it, apes are constantly jerking off because they have no censor or no filters.

Jerking off and watching somebody bang somebody else on your Mac.

Or if you are even more creative you can put it on your big screen TV.

But something about that doesn’t really work.

First off, it makes you lazy. Secondly, it gives you a feeling that you actually may or may not have sex because you’ve actually watched sex so it actually triggers something inside your brain that tricks it to think you’ve actually done something.

It depletes almost all your sexual energy because you have an outlet that you can use, almost like gambling or alcohol addiction.

It triggers the same thing in your brain that alcohol and gambling do because it’s a very addictive thing. For most of the guys that come to the boot camp, I give them a 30-day goal of not watching porn. 30 days and 30 nights of no porn to see how your life changes. And they change immensely.

They actually start to connect with women better. They actually start to use their imagination when it comes down to sex. And they actually want to read up on it.

I’ve created a program called Becoming a Sexual Fantasy.

It really talks about becoming her fantasy because when you become a woman’s sexual fantasy, you’re actually giving her a sexual experience that she’s always craved, wanted, desired and deserved from a man. She’s not there to be your sexual fantasy. She’ll become your sexual fantasy as soon as you actually deliver the goods on her because you’ll be the rare guy that actually pleases her and makes her feel good.

So I want a firm commitment from all of you, whether you want to put it down or not, whether you want to put it in the comments. I know you’re a secret porn addict.

But the big question is, will you go on this 30-day binge with all of us? Not myself, because I don’t watch the shit, but all the rest out there who are pledging this, 30 days of no porn and see how your life changes.