What Women Desire From A Date

October 3, 2011 88 Comments Men Uncategorized, Understanding the Opposite Sex

It’s Monday, lets get the week started with a bang. About  a week ago a friend of mine posted on the blog. She created a bit of an uproar when she talked about sex and money.

 

She read all the comments and wanted to clarify that money is not what keeps her turned on, its all about a man that knows how to take charge. Here is her email to all of you.

Enjoy todays guest blogger.

 

 

Dear David, 

 

 

I have to share with you, about the what happened  to my relationship with the Very handsome, Rich guy from Boca, that got all the responses to last weeks pod cast.  It’s all about building Sexual Tension before the date, and keeping it going during the date. You have to take control. Send sexy text messages before the date. Dress the part of the woman you are looking to attract . This is so important, i can not tell you. Fyi…  You do not need a lot of money to look sharp !!  .   Women have no idea, where you shopped for your jeans or shirts. It is looking presentable, dressing in style,  and smelling great.  🙂  Being well groomed . All over if you know what i mean  .  You do not need a lot of money to take a woman out on a fun date. !!  In my mind, if he took me to the beach, and bought a bottle of wine, and cheese, ect.. on a blanket, that  would have  been  so much more of an aphrodisiac then being in this Trendy Boca Restaurant with the A/C not working , noisy , and exchanging resume’s. Him telling me, he was an investment banker for Lehman Bros. Is not getting me ” wet ” between my legs. It was intriguing for a few minutes .  Him creating a very magical moment, that not many men do. Like kissing me on the beach, or sharing fun stories,  asking me questions about myself, or listening to his I pod. He happens to have great taste in Music. It is called building moments…  together.  Which he could have saved, not that he needed to watch his wallet, a good $ 150.00 that night. He would have ended up with the same results, or maybe even better.!!!.  It would have turned me on  sexually , so much more. 

 

What Women Want From A Man

 

I write this to help out men, who truly misinterpreted my blog, into thinking if you are not Very Handsome, Very Rich, and Have a Huge C-ock , You are not able to get a beautiful woman.  A man with these qualities i have to say , he does have an advantage point in ” Getting ” a beautiful woman.  But, it was the way he presented himself before the date, and how he took complete ” Control ” of the date . That was the Biggest turn on to me !!  I was impressed with the way he was the MAN..  and with him taking that role. It made me feel like a Woman. When i start to feel like the woman, and i am exuding  feminine energy. It makes me feel very sensual, and sexual. I think about wanting to have sex with him .  What it would be like to kiss him, and how would it feel when he touches my body.  How would he feel laying on top of me.  I start to get excited about, how can i turn him on sexually.  What can i do different, to please him. 

 

What this man does not have is the qualities to ” Keep ”  a quality, beautiful woman. !!   I will share with you, the ending to my magical weekend, in Palm Beach,FL . ,  with the last night of sensual, hot sex.  He did send the next day, when i returned to NYC, a dozen Red Roses, with a card, ” thinking of you ” ..  

He did send me e mails, and he did make 1 phone call. Expressing what a great time he had with me. i will quote what he wrote 

” So Glad you love the roses, not nearly as beautiful as you !!! had an amazing time with you Sunday evening: cant wait to see you next time. I’ll call you to say hello later today or tomorrow. ( Friday the latest ) . Miss you sexy !!! . 

 

Well, He never called, and the following week, he came to NYC for Fashion Week. Did not even let me know he was in town. We were texting each other, and he said, he was walking out of his last Fashion Show !!!!   WTF ?  I was hurt, and will never feel the same about him. All his Great Looks, His Huge Cock , and and Bank Roll.   All vanished, as fast as it rolled in.  We texted back and forth, and he said he was sorry a few times. He said, quote ” He did not have the time for a date with me ” …  It is all about being Real, and Genuine, and what ever you write and feel, it’s about  being in your reality. This man was so detached from reality. Follow through is ” KEY ” . 

  I deserve and want  to have a man who is kind and sincere. Honest and someone who loves themselves.  When you love yourself. You feel great about yourself everyday. You come clean with yourself, and you do not treat others or act this way.  Self love on my part is , I WANT MORE. !!!  

Hope this is helpful, and It is Not all about being Rich, Handsome, and Hung. It might open a door, and he did get to play with me for a night. 

 However, he will never have staying power. I never responded to his last text.  I,  no longer  have any desire for him anymore.  

 

Denise. 

 

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Adam Gray says

2012-08-19 11:16:16

Well done.
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Nosfetau says

2012-01-19 04:03:24

Hey everyone, I know this is not the proper place to post, but I need some help. There is this girl, she's my friend's ex. now, she fucked him over really bad. like fucking bad. now I have the chance to be in the same country like her in a month. My friend asked me to make sour love to her, as in Fuck her in the ass to make her feel pain. I owe him that, cause I once fucked him over really fucking bad aswell, yes also over an idiotic girl with bigboobs. now my question is, how can I convince her for the butthole, without it being rape (fyi, I'm far from a rapist). and is there a special move that could convince her for the butthole? ... an answer would be much appreciated
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KJD says

2011-10-06 17:58:00

Well I figure nothing ventured nothing gained. And as for the comment about permission... It was kind of tongue in cheek refering to blog rules. In a relationship a mutual respect should be in place that doesn't require either person to obtain permission. If you know the person your with you understand thier boundaries and will respect them.
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Leanne says

2011-10-06 17:15:44

and KJD, you are a brave man! Women by nature do not like confrontation. We will send someone on their way if they have to keep pulling them in to line all of the time. What this need to keep restating boundaries will spell out is that you don't know the woman well or don't care to learn...Please be careful...
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Leanne says

2011-10-06 17:12:07

For contacting people, I noticed that gravatar has the option to place a contact email address when you create your profile. A way to contact people may be something worth suggesting to the tech guys on here, too. Leanne
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KJD says

2011-10-06 16:29:09

@Collin Easier to ask for forgiveness than permission :P
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KJD says

2011-10-06 16:22:09

Btw Leanne if you wanted to talk shoot me a msg at kjdoolittle@gmail.com I gave the info to John and then forgot to include that at the bottom
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Collin says

2011-10-06 15:50:49

@John, do what you want until you get reprimanded. It works for me!
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john says

2011-10-06 06:51:12

@kjd,, ok, good idea. I just wasn't sure we are allowed to post email addresses on here anyway.
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KJD says

2011-10-06 06:20:29

John if you are worried about posting your info online go to hotmail or gmail and set a new email address post it and if you hit it off you can just send them a msg with your real contact info. You don't have to respond to any crazies or haters that send you messages if you don't want to on a dummy email account. Sometimes you gotta think outside the box :)
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john says

2011-10-06 04:41:38

I have a question? , you want KJD to contact you, how can anyone do that here, besides on the open blog? Unless you want to put your email address out in the open for everyone. We have no private messaging here...,,??? :-/
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Leannes says

2011-10-06 01:54:47

btw KJD, feel free to contact me. Take care and enjoy the rest of your weeks everyone! Leanne
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Leannes says

2011-10-06 01:30:02

You have got it in one, KJD! I am tall myself, hence the request. That's why I have put that there. It's not a definitive, though. All of this is a wish list. Someones values are far more important. Money doesn't do a thing for me providing that the person is fiscally responsible. I can make my own money if I want it. I am choosing to raise my children. The quality of the people around me brings me the greatest happiness. And KJD, right on the money, too, about what a man's man is. My father is a farmer, as was his father etc. I am part of a family of men who know how to pull cars apart, build anything from scratch, can fix things, they look after their women (and no, they are not thugs), and they work damned hard for their families. The comment arises because the children's father just was not like that. It impacted on how I viewed him, and I have no doubt the reverse applied too. It's not that there is anything wrong with him at all. It was such a clash in the most fundamental expectations of each other as partners. It caused a lot of problems. John, go easy on yourself. We all have bad days and times in dating. I am having a run of men that all want to be my "friend". It's driving me NUTS. I don't go on dates to make friends. I go on a date to meet a man that I would like to potentially have a relationship with. It's not height or money that make a man sexy and attractive, John. It's confidence and belief in himself. My children's father is 5'8", and nor did he earn big dollars. For most part I earned more than he did.... Leanne
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john says

2011-10-05 22:01:47

@kjd,, sure, it's fine leanne has a type, but the thing is, that is pretty much ALL women's type. Just look at online profiles. They almost all say over 5'10. (a large percentage say over 6'.). No offense, and I'm right down there with ya at 5'7, many women don't consider anyone shorter than 5'10", to be a man, or at least date material. Look at leanne's post at 6:46 pm, she says "money is to women what sex is for men.",, so she is into money too. Like I said, for most women, height and looks are mandatory, money is a plus. I am starting to think I should just give up, and stay home alone all the time. I guess I should just learn to accept that there is no one for me. At least I have freedom to do whatever I want. So I guess it is ok that no one can love me. (i told y'all I was gonna be Debbie downer today. I'm just tired of trying. Basically, I'm just wore out.)
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Collin says

2011-10-05 21:27:45

I'm with you KJD. I prefer girls shorter than 5'6. How tall have my last 3 girlfriends been? 5'8, 5'9, and 5'9. The last girl I went on a date with was 5'10. While height is a preference, why let it get in the way of dating an amazing, beautiful woman? From my "research," it appears that those women felt the same way. I am two to three inches too short to date any of them, yet they still ended up falling for me (well, not the last girl. I set her up with a friend I thought she'd like better, and they're dating now).
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KJD says

2011-10-05 20:07:28

John it's ok for Leanne to have a type everyone is entitled to desire certain attributes. I personally like shorter women like 5' tall to 5'5" with a petite frame that doesn't mean I won't date women that don't fit that exact height or body type. I once dated a girl that was 6'1" and being 5'8" myself she was way taller than me when she threw on her heels. I didn't let it bother me but I can understand a girl having a certain height she wants her man to be. How strict she wants to be with that requirement is up to her... Is she willing to let a great guy, that fits all the other things on her list, go because he is a couple inches too short? Maybe you should ask her instead of jumping to the conclusion that she is a shallow woman looking just for the tall, good looking, rich guys. She didn't mention anything about looks or money in her response just that she wanted a mans man. I take that to mean she wants a man that acts manly... I could be wrong but again I'd ask her definition of a mans man first before I make judgements. All these questions can further along the conversation instead of automatically assuming she has already ruled you out at first glimpse. So Leanne what do you consider to be a mans man? Is it an appearance thing or more the attitude of a man? In my view it's more of an attitude and composure a man carries himself with but since John brought it up I'd like to know what you mean by it. Also how strict are you with the height just to satisfy John on that as well. Your list doesn't seem that unreasonable to me but then again I identify with the qualities you are looking for. That's not to say I think I'm the man for you I hardly know you but that's not going to deter me from having a conversation with you either. So if you would like to continue the conversation with a slightly shorter stranger on the Internet then you were looking for we can continue to talk and possibly share some information about ourselves to get to know each other a little bit. If you don't want to have a conversation that's fine with me too but I figured I would atleast try to get to know a little more about you than just seeing your picture.
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john says

2011-10-05 17:22:32

oh, I'm sorry, I misread, Height was the SECOND of Leanne's requirements. The first was he has to me a "Man's Man".. what is a Man's Man,, well, according to Urban Dictionary, a "Man's Man" is "worldly, highly educated, and a Gentleman", which pretty much translates to -- RICH. well, that is what is important to Leanne. I have pretty much rescinded my opinion that money is all that matters. My neighbor just got engaged to a very cute girl, and he doesn't have hardly a dime at all. He is highly educated, and is even seeking higher education, so I guess he has to potential to be rich. So, what I can take from Leanne is a man MUST be TALL, and PREFERABLY RICH, although rich is not a requirement.
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john says

2011-10-05 17:03:19

PEOPLE.,, READ WHAT LEANNE IS SAYING!!!! The first, THE VERY FIRST thing on leannes list of "requirements" for a man is "OVER 5'10"." TALL. The VERY FIRST THING. I am only 5'7"tall. 5'10" pretty much seems to be the standard for all women. I have read thousands, upon thousands of internet dating profiles. They are pretty much all looking for a man who is over 5'10" tall. Well, If I knew that that was what women wanted, I would have said, "hey mom, dad, can I please have genes that will make me over 5'10" tall so that I don't have to live my whole life alone?". Well guess what, I didn't have that option. And neither does any other man. What matters to all women is how tall you are, and what you look like PERIOD. If you don't meet those "requirements" then you might as well just give up. All the rest of this stuff is BULLSHIT. Thank you Leanne for pointing out to me what is really important. I almost changed my opinion, but you just convinced me that I have been right all along.
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Leannes says

2011-10-05 16:37:14

I went to the local Observatory last night and looked through their telescopes. Very, very cool!!! KJD - what am I looking for in a man? My online dating profile says something along the lines of "I am looking for a mans man, over 5'10", with a brain, some drive, and some class. I would like someone who appreciates both the finer and the earthier things in life and will balance enjoying both. Someone who like doing some things together and with their own interests as well. Values: honesty, integrity, reliability, respect,tolerance I love having that set of arms around me that wrap me up and make the world disappear for that moment in time. Knowing that I am with my rock that is my safe place to go to, to recharge and then spring back in to life. Casual sex is not my deal. I will have a lot of fun with the person that I ultimately wind up with." I have had an interesting week. I have been paid what for me is the highest compliment that a man could pay me. Something was said by a man that I saw for four months that was very protective of me a few days ago. Knowing that protection was there is the ultimate recognition that I am a female and he cares what happens. Yesterday, a man who is currently buzzing around, could not have offended me more. He sent me a message that said "in business meetings can sometimes go for three hours, honey". You don't say?!?!?!? Tool. I don't take well to condescending, patronising idiots let alone who add pet names for me on the end of a sentence when they are not involved with me on any level. If this man had asked a few more questions about me who would have more information. Before children I used to fly all over the world with work. I may just have clue what is involved in a business meeting. I don't talk about past career because it is not important to me these days. It doesn't bring me the joy that my children do. This man insulted my intelligence and talked down to me. That is NEVER a good idea. I hope that answers your question KJD...and thanks for thinking to ask... Leanne
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José Colín says

2011-10-05 12:08:29

Thanks for sharing your story John! I have met a couple of hot women, that tell their boyfriends are nice and boring, and they are always hanging with the "bad boys". I still don't get it, why they keep their boyfriend if they (bf's) are not that cool and interesting!?!?!?!
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julie says

2011-10-05 11:08:35

I am not finch. Nice try though. Hahahaha.
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Leannes says

2011-10-05 02:44:17

KJD - I will answer soon...just on the way out. Finch, I never thought I would say this but you have left me in fits of laughter on this end! The master debater comment was not lost on me. I was right that you were Julie. Didn't they teach you to play nicely with your friends at Kindy? :) Go back and spend a few days there and learn a trick or two. You have a lot of intelligence. Use if for "good"! Leanne
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john says

2011-10-04 20:31:44

Oh, the point of that story. I'm not saying heidi had a bad attitude. Actually, she was awesome. But she DID know how hot she was, and she knew she had her choice of any guy, any time she wanted, and wasn't afraid to tell you. I know plenty of women who think they deserve perfection, and nothing less, and DO have attitudes about it.
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john says

2011-10-04 20:25:14

You guys have really never met a hot girl that thought her shit didn't stink? You guys have to be kidding me. I have met plenty of them. HELL, I still know plenty of them. Worse, I've dated women like that. I met one girl on a voice personal, (this was before online dating became really popular), and when we went out to a bar to shoot pool on a date, she told me, "i'm really hot, and guys swarm all over me. ". You know what,, they did. Her name wad heidi, and heidi was hot. (swear, that was her real name, lol.) I couldn't get through the swarm of guys to get back to her. She finally reached through the wall of dudes, and pulled me through. After we left, she just said "see, I told ya." Long story short, I think she could've had pretty much any guy of her choice there. But she still left with me. (and before you guys say anything, I was a lot younger, skinny, and good looking back then. ). But I can see how some hot women let the attention go to their heads.
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Intern Dan says

2011-10-04 20:17:01

I can assure you that the girl I know who acts like that is not a guy with a beer gut and lipstick. It works on tons of guys. They do fly in real life because not all guys have a head on their shoulders like you.
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the obvious says

2011-10-04 19:41:00

Dan, you've met someone like Julie? What hot girl in real life talks like that? It's just some dude with a beer gut and lipstick, getting off on this ....and you don't need to challenge her "ideas." It's pretty self-evident that those ideas wouldn't fly in real life.
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KJD says

2011-10-04 19:37:57

@Leanne I agree with your assessment on Julie and Finch. I'd rather spend my time and energy focused on those that are worthy of it. You asked earlier what people were looking for and since no one else has really answered you I thought I would. I'm looking for an interesting person that challenges me to be the best me that I can be. We are always growing and changing as individuals and I'd like to find a woman that inspires me to be a better man. She should be intelligent and sexy at the same time. (sexy isn't just physical in my mind) She should be confident and brave enough to go for the things she wants in life. She should be independent enough to not need me to make every choice for her and need me to be there at all times. I don't have a problem being a man and taking charge when needed but I don't want someone that lives in my shadow or just a trophy to sit on the mantle with no ideas or opinions of her own. (been in that type of relationship before and it didn't work out) Anyone else willing to share what they are looking for? Or Leanne any further details of what you are looking for? From your post you seem to have a good head on your shoulders and you have me curious to know more about you.
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Intern Dan says

2011-10-04 19:05:47

Obvious, you're still missing the point. Have you not met anyone like Julie before? I have. A lot of people have. So even if Julie is fake, the type of girl that Julie's pretending to be is real. I'm loving this debate with you over whether Julie is real or not. The irony is delicious!
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julie says

2011-10-04 19:05:16

Oooo finch, you are so cool. You are the only one here that makes any sense. You turn me on so much. I think I love you.
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julie says

2011-10-04 18:56:27

Hey leanne,, why such a bitch? Accusing me of being a man? Is that all you got? A lot of people on here aren't using a picture at all. Tom isn't using his own picture, collin was using Neil Patrick Harris before, so why are you people being such hypocrites? I want to keep my privacy. I'm just telling it like it is. If you don't like it too bad.
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the obvious says

2011-10-04 18:40:42

Internet Dan, That's fine...no one's stopping you from interacting with Julie....that's not the point. And if she's fake, what's the point in "challenging" her ideas...they're fake too. It's just silly. They would be real ideas if they were actually coming from a real person. What actual "hot girl" talks like that? So, you want to challenge a situation that doesn't even exist. A real hot girl is not going to be coming in and saying how hot she is and how she can get any guys she wants, get real. I don't know why you keep saying bother, it's just expressing a viewpoint... so if it makes you feel better to think that than actually address the points made, that's fine.
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Finch says

2011-10-04 18:14:59

Don't worry Julie, I believe you're real and probably even hotter than Brooke Shields. Let's leave these losers and head off to our own Blue Lagoon. You can ride on the back of my sweet Harley. So all you people debating about whether she's real or not or whatever, keep on debating. I hope you get real good at it and become master debaters because none of you will ever get to be with a hottie like Julie.
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Intern Dan says

2011-10-04 18:03:04

Well Obvious, you're the first person to ever tell me I veer left :) I think you're missing my point though. I'm going to interact with Julie, even if she's fake because the ideas she expresses are real. And I'll challenge those ideas if they need to be challenged. And with the double standard thing, my point was that the guy was coming off as a playa and Julie was coming off as a whore and they're doing very similar things. I wasn't defending them, just pointing out what I saw happening. Now, the really curious thing to me is why this bothers you so much. The only real cost of interacting with Julie like she's real is my time. Why are you so worried about my time?
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leannes says

2011-10-04 18:03:00

See, there you go...I just read "Julie's" last post about wanting hot men. "Julie" is gay and no threat to any of you. ;) all that angst for nothing, guys!
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leannes says

2011-10-04 17:57:24

lol :) "Julie" is a man!!! :) lol Have you see the previous posts and the link to Brooke Shields photo that was being used? lol :) Why is everyone so worked up by one persons opinion? I let this go intitially. I didn't think that it would matter what someone like "Julie" wanted. Bring it back to yourselves. Would you want a woman like "Julie"? Given the types of men that you all seem to be, I don't think so. Where does what you want for yourselves fit into this conversation? It doesn't. So why is so much attention, focus and angst going on to something thatn you don't care to have in the first place? Keep focusing on what you do want. If you are not sure what it is, "Julie" is a good place to start. Find what has really riled you in Julie, then write down the opposite character traits. Then you are on your way... Leanne
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the obvious says

2011-10-04 16:57:21

Internet Dan, You're totally mischaracterizing everything. My post was addressed to you. I haven't even had any interaction with Julie. If anyone seemed riled up, it would have been you. You got into some heated debates with Julie about how you wouldn't go for a girl like "her," as if she were real. While it was plainly obvious to every other blogger that she was fake. It wasn't "just" her ideas that you were discussing, you were really acting like she was real. Add on top of that, you go off onto this lecture about double standards. It just seems like you go to the beat of a different drummer, of a beat no one knows. While everyone's going right, you're veering left. One minute, you're preaching sensitivity another minute you're arguing. It's so all over the map.
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Seth says

2011-10-04 16:14:12

Here is what Juile is telling all of you. I can suck any cock I want and will bend on my knees and do so if and only if I think you have money and I can use you. Cmon everyone its not hard to see what Julie is all about. Not only that I bet you that Julie is a spitter and never ever orgasms unless it with a toy.
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Intern Dan says

2011-10-04 16:03:47

@the Obvious, For someone who believes that Julie is faking you seem to be getting pretty riled up. Do you often let pretend people from the internet rile you up? So let's talk real world: If Julie is faking or not, I don't care. I doesn't affect me in the least bit. If she actually exists and does what she says she does it's not effecting anyone here on the blog. If she's not real... she's still not effecting anyone here on the blog. So if she can't effect anyone on this blog, and really, none of us can effect each other without that person's permission, what's the point of being here on the blog? The ideas. Julie may be fake but her ideas aren't. We all know people who think and behave like Julie would if she were a real person. So whether the poster known as Julie is actually a man it doesn't matter because the ideas she expresses are real and worthy of discussion. Instead of letting imaginary internet people upset you, just take a deep breath and see if there's anything you can learn from them.
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julie says

2011-10-04 16:01:45

I never said that was my picture. You people are just jealous because you are all pathetic losers. I am very hot. I can have any man I want, and I don't want any of you.
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KC says

2011-10-04 13:54:57

Somebody call Barney Stinson, there's a guy who would love to go with Julie, at least for one night. Even he'd dump her ass after 1 date and a bang. Intern Dan, Kevin, couldn't have said it better myself. Beauty is common, and another thing, rich guys don't need to say they're rich, just like hot women don't need to say they're hot. Something tells me Julie is no where near as hot as she say's she is. To me she's ugly, I could never date a material dumb dumb like her, way to good for that. One positive from her, is that we all know now, we do not want to date anyone like her. We're all better than that.
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the obvious says

2011-10-04 13:41:59

Intern Dan, Hasn't it occurred to you that Julie might not even be a woman? You're right..."Julie" is one really messed up person. "Her" first introduction to us was already a lie. Posting a fake "Brooke Shields" picture and then trying to pass it off as herself/itself is pretty deceptive. It's only when called on it that "Julie" made some bogus excuse about it somehow resembling "her"....yeah, right. Then, why did he/she try to pass that off as how "she" looks. So, I don't even know why you're buying into "her" fake storyline about being a hot girl that can get hot guys.... a fact that this he/she is desperately trying impress upon us. Doesn't sound like any hot girl we know. Who talks like that? Weirdo city. I don't think a lecture on Denise is even relevant. We know people can be "a-holes" and the double standard....and people shouldn't treat other people like that.....that doesn't even apply here! Bloggers were reacting to the b.s. being thrown here. You want to be more sensitive to the issues...but, sometimes, you got to put on your worldly hat.
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Kevin says

2011-10-04 12:08:38

Who cares if your hot....it's common.
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Intern Dan says

2011-10-04 11:39:27

Well that's the thing Julie, you CAN'T have anyone you want. You couldn't have me because I know your type. I'd smell you coming a mile away. Lots of the guys on this blog see that you only care about the material world. There's no heart or soul to you. Sadly, for you, love is entirely heart and soul. So the hotness you offer? It's boring. And you can be as pretty as you want but who cares? Really? Sure you'll get the immature guys who think they can buy love. And you'll use them, undoubtedly to fill some void in you that comes from Daddy issues. Your love of money is just an excuse to not have to have an actual connection with someone. You're scared and you hide behind $. Guys do it too and I said that the guy that Denise was with was also heaped in bullshit. We can't stop you from doing what you do and these guys do give you things out of their own free will. That's their choice. I'm just saying that until you get rid of the bullshit in your life and the excuses you won't find lasting happiness.
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julie says

2011-10-04 11:19:58

InternDan why do you accuse me of being full of bullshit. I am a hot woman. I am in demand. I can have anyone I want. When I can have a good looking rich man, why would I want to settle for a short broke ugly little troll? Sure, I have guys I am not attracted to take me out, buy me dinners, and buy me things. If they want to do that, then that is up to them. Men do exactly what I do everyday, and to call me messed up for that is bullshit.
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Intern Dan says

2011-10-04 10:18:59

Farley, women can certainly make a man feel like a man. Mostly by allowing him to lead. That's why high-powered business women have a hard time dating. They're so manly from their job that they can't turn on the femininity when they're with a man.
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Intern Dan says

2011-10-04 10:16:30

@theObvious my views on Julie are not uber-feminist or even politically correct. If it was politically correct I'd be cheering for Julie and praising her rebellion against the patriarchy by using her sex as a way to enslave the oppressors and turn their own perverted desires for sex against itself. We all know that Julie's messed up and is sitting pretty on a heap of bullshit. Same with Finch, same with Jeremy and the others who grace us with their trolling. What I wanted to point out, and actually Tom made the point, was that both Julie and the guy who played Denise are assholes. It's fucked up that they can treat other people like that. At the same time, we can't change these people. They have to change. So getting all upset and bent out of shape isn't going to do anything but get me riled up. Why would I give my power away to Julie or Finch or anyone who's so completely full of bullshit? Instead, I'd rather ask questions and listen to what they're really saying. They all tell you exactly why they're so messed up, and how to stop them from being messed up. You just have to listen. I read somewhere that the gentle always overcome the strong. I've found this to be true 100% of the time in my life.
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julie says

2011-10-04 06:23:02

hey Tom, you seem very sweet. Do you make good money? I might let you play warm up for my tall, rich, handsome boyfriend. Bring your credit cards. If your nice to me, I might even let you watch afterwards.
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julie says

2011-10-04 03:49:07

I picked a photo of Brooke Shields because I identify with her most. I thought it was hilarious that no one noticed! I am very attractive though, trust me. Brooke and I are like twins. And not all of you are using your real pictures, so get off my back.
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Farley says

2011-10-04 02:15:37

Intern Dan, "Guys, if you can make a woman feel like a woman..." Is the other way around also possible? A woman that can make a man feel like a man? I'm laughing as I am asking this, because I can't imagine such a thing. Your thoughts..
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Farley says

2011-10-04 02:12:35

Julie, I challenge you. I bet you can't have me. And I also bet that the pic you used for the blog is also NOT your display picture.
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the obvious says

2011-10-04 01:14:44

Seriously, Intern Dan....do you have a vagina???? You always have to take the most emo politically correct point of view. You don't have to talk about Julie without also giving some tangent uber-feminist lecture on double standards. We know! "Julie!" is just talking a lot of garbage and that's why she's being piled on. Fake Julie....anyone get the feeling that it's Finch...Jeremy...or whatever. If you're going to post a fake pic....you'd think not to post one of the most famous icons in the last 30 years.
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Kevin says

2011-10-04 00:22:00

I had a feeling Julie was fake, probably just a guy posing as a female with nothing else to do...told ya "Julie" would be back.
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Tom says

2011-10-04 00:03:38

Also it is fact, not opinion that Julie is lower than a cheap whore. I'm tired of women like that. people should get life in prison or sued if they break hearts, it never heals, un-repairable damage.
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Tom says

2011-10-04 00:01:22

@Intern Dan "Tom, how am I supposed to know that watching your favourite John Hughes movie is a ploy to get my attention? I’ve never been a huge John Hughes fan. Breakfast Club was good but when I saw it at the age of 12 (I wasn’t 12 when it came out, just ended up seeing it at 12)I wanted to see Molly Ringwald naked and she doesn’t get naked in the movie and my interest went away. If you want to talk to me or get my attention, I’m on the blog every day. If you have a question, just ask me and I’ll be happy to answer. " I didn't want your attention or to get you riled up, I just wanted to talk, I thought you were ignoring me, my mistake for thinking that. you're a cool dude. "And for the people ganging up on Julie, isn’t she just doing to guys what that guy did to Denise? The guy who was a jerk to Denise was a playa and Denise was a stupid chick… yet now when it’s a woman doing it she’s a whore and the guy is just there, not a stupid dude." Nope... I recall thinking the guy that did that to Denise is an asshole. see Dan, I don't care what race you are, what gender you are, how wealthy you are, and I don't care you are, if you are an asshole, you deserve to be abused. my code as you know is fairness, an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth. so no Dan, no double standard with me, maybe you meant the other guys, but I'm just letting you know that I have no double standards. Julie is scum, a whore that is lower than dirty tampon, and the guy that did Denise wrong is waste of sperm, life, his grave deserves to get shitted on. with me, cheaters, players, people who use women, bully, embarrass others, people who do bad things deserve to lose just 1 tooth, just 1. and emotionally, I give those people a life sentence of how cruel I'll be to them. I like to cause chaos to adulterers, remember, "upset the established order and everything becomes chaos" why do people who sell weed go to jail? they make people happy. cheaters, and adulterers, heartbreakers and bullies are the ones who should get life in jail.
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Jennifer says

2011-10-03 23:45:19

Thank you David for this blog. Even though this letter was meant to help men, I am grateful you shared her letter. I was touched by the letter. For me, I want a mature, kind and sincere man. The size of his wallet doesn't show this or his skill of lover. I believe there is still good men out there. Thank you Denise for sharing. All my life, I had to deal with my shyness. I thought dating was not in the cards for me. I found myself single after 39 and never really knew how to date. Listening to all my girlfriends' dating horror stories, I was scared to even try. Until I purchased Date to Win, I'm happy that I did it. Now Im looking forward to dating. Pardon me, if my grammer or spelling is incorrect. Its late and I was debating to respond.
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Mike says

2011-10-03 23:17:23

Interesting guest blogger. It sounds like to me, most women tend to love the simple things life ("romantically wired"), a man taking charge of the date and being confident on who he is. Sadly, she got burned by an investment banker who most likely was using his status to give himself confidence rather than natural confidence coming within no matter if he has 50 dollars or 50 million dollars. He feels the same about himself. In a way, she was lucky, he could have strung her along even more.
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leannes says

2011-10-03 22:44:09

The good part about the "Julie's" and "Finch's" of the world (oh - did I just mention those two together?) is that they are showing us our fears. We can use this insight to work on these fears to improve yourselves even more... I just don't get why so many of you men bag youselves out on here. The fact that you can even be on here, articulate what is happening for you in your world, are prepared to seek assistance, will put you streaks ahead of many other men! Kristin, Paula - is it true what I am saying? Leanne Leanne
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Intern Dan says

2011-10-03 22:37:26

Tom, how am I supposed to know that watching your favourite John Hughes movie is a ploy to get my attention? I've never been a huge John Hughes fan. Breakfast Club was good but when I saw it at the age of 12 (I wasn't 12 when it came out, just ended up seeing it at 12)I wanted to see Molly Ringwald naked and she doesn't get naked in the movie and my interest went away. If you want to talk to me or get my attention, I'm on the blog every day. If you have a question, just ask me and I'll be happy to answer. :) As far as ignoring you goes, when I see you start going into your downward spiral of self-loathing I usually make a comment on it. I try to be an objective 3rd party and tell you that things aren't nearly as bad as you make them. If that's not enough, let me know what you need and I'll see if I can accommodate it. And for the people ganging up on Julie, isn't she just doing to guys what that guy did to Denise? The guy who was a jerk to Denise was a playa and Denise was a stupid chick... yet now when it's a woman doing it she's a whore and the guy is just there, not a stupid dude. I don't really support anyone being a jerk but it seems like there's a crazy double standard going on here.
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Bob says

2011-10-03 22:29:26

Hey Brooke, what are you doing on David Wygant's site? Cant you find a man on your own. You seem to be a little older now than in your picture on this link. :) https://images.search.yahoo.com/images/view;_ylt=A2KJkK4VmYpOVmEA8eGJzbkF;_ylu=X3oDMTBlMTQ4cGxyBHNlYwNzcgRzbGsDaW1n?back=http%3A%2F%2Fimages.search.yahoo.com%2Fsearch%2Fimages%3Fp%3DBrooke%2BShields%26fr%3Dchr-greentree_ie%26fr2%3Dswent%26b%3D1%26tab%3Dorganic&w=1024&h=768&imgurl=impulsemagazine.net%2Fwp-content%2Fuploads%2F2008%2F05%2FBrooke-Shields-Photo.jpg&rurl=http%3A%2F%2Fimpulsemagazine.net%2Fbrooke-shields%2F&size=96.3+KB&name=Brooke+Shields+Photo&p=Brooke+Shields&oid=98bce2635d29bac2d1f52b8239b0bc22&fr2=swent&fr=chr-greentree_ie&tt=Brooke+Shields+Photo&b=0&ni=56&no=22&tab=organic&sigr=11a250hbj&sigb=13b3r5snm&sigi=127gtc0ig&.crumb=IEh36/BNnDQ
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leannes says

2011-10-03 22:21:51

Another lesson to men...don't ever, ever underestimate a females intuition. That would be a very, very silly thing to do...! :) ;) :)
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leannes says

2011-10-03 22:20:06

Actually, you know what? I am going to put all of you out of your misery. "Julie" what is your real name? I can bet my bottom dollar you're a man. Nice photo "Julie" of Brooke Shields that you are using for yourself. For the rest of you on here who beat yourself up about who you are, please be thankful that you are not someone like "Julie".
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leannes says

2011-10-03 22:14:30

btw - everyone, back off Julie. She knows what she wants and that's her choice. It is not the least bit what I am interested in, but doesn't make it right or wrong - just different. For me - I am after someone that I share security, love, passion, happiness and joy with. What about everyone else? What exactly are you seeking?
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leannes says

2011-10-03 22:09:58

Hi Julie, I love your look. Gorgeous. Who is your beautician? Leanne
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Bob says

2011-10-03 21:58:06

Julie, Are you a glutten for punishment, or just needing male attention? Do you realize that men use girls like you for their pleasure, conquests, sex bragging with their friends, one night stands, and nothing more? Have you ever had a REAL, CARING, relationship, where you care more about what is in a man's wallet, his looks, and what is in his pants? Men use GIRLS like you to get a nice fuck, get their rocks off, have a little sex fun, and then go off to find a real genuine WOMAN. As long as you keep up your attitude, you will be nothing more than a man's play toy, and used until you are an old maid. In this case, I suggest you read some of Wygant's advice for women, and grow up.
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Tom says

2011-10-03 21:07:57

@Julie because you are a whore slut. women like you have ruined my life. however I can say one thing, I least I stand up for men, I stand up for the men who women like you have done wrong. I stand up, and I call you what you are, a materialistic whore. and yes I called her a whore because it's fact, sorry for being politically incorrect, I have listened to David, David teaches people how to say what's on your mind and that is what I am doing. if any hypocritical feminist have a problem, oh well, I speak my mind, so sue me. Thank you David Wygant.
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Brad says

2011-10-03 20:49:17

Then why are you wasting time here Julie? Seems a bit odd that a "hot" woman (notice the quotations: your words) would spend time talking herself up on a blog about dating. Who are you trying to impress? I know girls like Julie, because I noticed them when I helped men with online dating. She's the profile that wants a man who's 6'2, educated (preferably a masters degree), rich, athletic build, generally attractive, yet every time I would sign online those girls would be online. Coincidence? I think not. It's amazing how entitled some women feel simply because they were born with a vagina. You claim to use rich men for sex, but are you married Julie? Seems like you're the one being used.
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Kristin says

2011-10-03 20:06:04

@Tom I understand and i was not meaning that in anyway.I just dont like to see anyone talk like that about them self @Julie NO ONE CARES, NO ONE, AND IT OVER YOUR SELF
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julie says

2011-10-03 19:48:08

I will only have sex with the hottest, richest, men. I am hot, so I can have any man I want, so why would I ever settle for anything less. If you are not tall, handsome, and rich, then don't bother talking to me.
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David S. says

2011-10-03 19:30:21

She may say a guy doesn't need a big wallet in the relationship but trips to the beach all the time will get old. Its pretty difficult for guys to always have to come up with these smart, little places to go in order to not spend a ton of money. In order to have fun doing things together you have to have money. Talking to each other will get old on dates eventually especially if the guy isnt a good listener. You have to create memories together! Plus most guys will want to spend money on their girl anyway.
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Tom says

2011-10-03 19:17:27

@Kristin I like to have my privacy on here, that is all. I talk bad about myself, not because I want to, or looking for pity, but because it's face, it's reality.
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Kristin says

2011-10-03 19:01:35

Can i asks why you talk so bad about your self ? why dont you put a real pic ? it cant be that bad right
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Tom says

2011-10-03 18:50:12

@Kristin 35.
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leannes says

2011-10-03 18:46:34

Money is to women what sex is for men...It's not the b all and end all BUT it's important. It's not for the reason that you men think. Whether we all like it or not, we are born with homrones that drive us towards replication and maintenance of our species. It is very instinctive for a female to need to know that you can look after her, keep her fed and sheltered if she has your offspring. women produce hormones everytime their child touches them. Men have tesosterone. This gives you much greater focus, visual acuity, sharper distance hearing - all of the things needed to hunt. Men are far more able through their testosterone levels to be alone. We cannot fight our most fundamental and basic biology, so stop trying. Men and women need to stop being offended by this, accept it, and embrace and enjoy the differences. Leanne
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Kristin says

2011-10-03 18:07:44

Tom how old r u ? Just asking
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Tom says

2011-10-03 17:59:20

Finished watching another childhood film, weird science. I wish life really was like that. imagine creating my own woman, how I want her to look, make her adore me, make her funny, charming, cute, everything I want in a woman. plus I was really good with computers in the 80s and 90s, I knew all the codes and special and still unknown tools. also, Intern Dan, why have you been ignoring me, why has anyone ignored me here? when someone is in need of help, I try my best to help.(I helped John) I mean for Christ sakes I've been watching my childhood john hughes/80s movies since I got home from work.
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Intern Dan says

2011-10-03 16:52:09

I think calling Denise a stupid chick is a little harsh, isn't it? I think most of us go into a relationship whether it's a 1 night stand or something more feeling happy and hopeful and not thinking about getting played. How horrible would life be if we all just went around trying to find how people were going to screw us over.
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Thomas says

2011-10-03 16:06:05

Dan I remember when marni said that it really got me thinking. I was on the bus home reviewing the day in my head and I put it together that everytime I've turned a girl on its because in that situation I had a strong masculine polarity which allowed her to identify with her feminine core. It's such an important concept to understand because in a lot of ways its the basis of creating attraction.
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Tom says

2011-10-03 15:37:48

After watching movies from my childhood, I finally figured out what I am. You know who I am everyone? I'm Ducky from pretty in pink, but more specifically Lucas aka Corey Haim, and every other guy is the cappie aka charlie sheen from the movie lucas. try to figure out what that means.
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KJD says

2011-10-03 14:43:29

Gotta agree with Bob on this one, most likely the guy knew he is a pretty good catch and it was a fling in his eyes. Charm you with his money power and dick and throw ya back in the pond for another day. For some guys the hunt is the excitement and he may not have been looking for anything other than some thrills. Send you away on cloud 9 thinking there was a future to be had while really his only concern was the next fish in the sea. I know guys and girls like this... Overall they aren't really bad people, they are happy with the lives they lead.
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Bob says

2011-10-03 12:55:31

This chick is so stupid, that she doesn't even know she was played by a playa! If you want a man that will STAY around, you need to cut the average Joe some slack, don't expect him to know all the player rules, and know how to deliver your huge check list of wants, and turn ons you list so precisely. He never intended to see you again, and could have cared less that you were "hurt" and your feelings for him "vanished". ("I was hurt, and will never feel the same about him. All his Great Looks, His Huge Cock , and and Bank Roll. All vanished, as fast as it rolled in.") You think he lost sleep over you? He wanted to have some quick sex and fun with some "strange", and knew you were am easy mark, on vacation. Vacationing women are the prime target for PUA's because they are looking for their "prince", and easy marks while they are in the mood, that vacations put you in. Women need to realize that a situation like this is only a fling, and not get emotionally involved, and all upset, when their foreign, "prince" rides off in the sunset.
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Kevin says

2011-10-03 11:50:27

That's like saying Men only want hot blondes with big tits :P
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Paula R says

2011-10-03 11:37:31

@Kevin: The last comment was meant to be a joke! :P It's because John always says women only want a rich, good looking man with a huge cock!
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Kevin says

2011-10-03 11:35:09

Paula, How big do you consider to be a big cock? The thing is that you won't find too many women who are going to say "Another inch and I would of married him"!
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Intern Dan says

2011-10-03 09:21:40

"But, it was the way he presented himself before the date, and how he took complete ” Control ” of the date . That was the Biggest turn on to me !! I was impressed with the way he was the MAN.." Women want men. Plain and simple. A man with the courage to be himself and take control over the situation. When a guy is being "A MAN" he creates the conditions in which a chick can be "A WOMAN". Guys, if you can make a woman feel like a woman she will totally let go for you and rock your world. I was interning at bootcamp where David was working with Marni the Wing Girl and she told me that she knew she had done her job right with a client when she started feeling like a woman around him. That's how important being a MAN is to a woman. It's the difference between attraction and no attraction.
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KC says

2011-10-03 09:04:41

I'd say the guy is a player, with his set of attributes he definitely has an edge over the average joe, but is not necessarily better. In regards to anyone that thinks size matters, trust me it doesn't. Girth maybe a bit but for the most part skills trump size almost every time. I'm not well hung, but the girls who I have hooked up with have said I'm one of the best if not the best lover's they've ever had, because I know what I'm doing.
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Paula R says

2011-10-03 08:19:46

On a date, I mostly want to have fun, get to know the guy and have a good conversation. I couldn't care less if he pays or we go somewhere expensive, because that's not what it's about. We could go to a pub, a park, a driving range or nearly anything else! Actually, I'd probably be uncomfortable if a guy took me somewhere fancy, because I don't really like dressing up. It's not about the amount of money spent, a date is about the expirience! Also, the quality I like most in men is authenticity. I can't handle phoniness in any capacity, especially in dating. You can't afford to buy me a five-star dinner? Tell me, and we'll go to the neighborhood pub! Dont take me anyways! It's like David said about his friend who was dating the rich woman and took her on a vacation he couldn't afford. That's just really shitty for everyone! Authenticity is also important so that a girl is dating YOU, not a movie-version of what you'd like to be. I myself would like to be like Angelina Jolie in Tomb Raider, but I actually am someone who falls down a lot and is not nearly coordinated enough to fight like she does. If I were to tell stories about how I'm an archaeologist type who fights bad guys, people would wonder! I fall down WAY too much! If I were to be telling you about Lara Croft's adventures, I'd be depriving you of Paula the Clumsy Oaf, who is not as sophisticated, but definitely pretty cool too. Long story short: I want to date a guy as he is, not as who he'd like to be. No pretending. If he's working his way to being a great boxer, he should tell me just that, not that he's a prizefighter. It's not just lies that trap you, it's simply acting some way that you are not. You'll get found out as they get to know you, so it's just not good for making stable, lasting relationships. I also love a man with a huge cock . ;)
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Kevin says

2011-10-03 06:08:01

He's a player.
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waterboy says

2011-10-03 10:18:14

Well, i ain't well hung but i can use my fingers and tongue for climactic effect.
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