What is loveThe definition of love is to be able to look at somebody and say…

“I’m willing, I’m able, and I want to fulfill your needs and your desires. I may not be perfect.  In fact, I most likely won’t be.  But on a day-to-day basis I understand the things you need and want from your partner. I understand the things you desire, and I’m willing to grow into that. I’m willing to do, and give you what you want.  I may slip. I may not be perfect, nobody is.

But, whenever anything difficult comes up, I will lead.  I will allow you to say that you’re not satisfied, not happy, not fulfilled, and I will take it on board and listen.”

That’s how simple love is.  It’s a love contract, and I think it’s something we have with our kids, with our friends, and all the people we care about. But when we’re with somebody who we’re in a relationship with, we tend to get frustrated and not listen to each other. A love contract is simple.  It’s something that I believe all of us have the power to have.  When you love someone like this, you’re growing.  You’re stepping outside your narcissistic world and into yourself. You’re becoming a better person.

This is not as difficult as we make it out to be.  In fact, it’s pretty damn easy if you’re committed and want to do it.  I’m so open to doing it, I’m so willing to do it, I can’t wait. I don’t think in my whole life I’ve ever been able to say that because it’s taken this long for me to understand what love really is.

As we age, we realize we don’t have as much time left on this planet, so the little things we used to argue about, the little things we used to fight for are really not important.  What’s important is connecting, building and sharing an amazing life with another person. At this point in my life I’m ready for it, I desire it, and everything else seems trivial.  I used to be a workaholic. Now I just want to spend the time loving, being, expanding and growing and I’ve never been able to say that.  I have my faults.  I will screw up.  I will certainly make someone I’m with pissed off and angry.

But I’m willing to listen, grow, expand, because the only thing that I want expanded now is my heart, my soul, and my well-being.  It’s time we all opened up to the possibilities of what love has to offer, because that is really why we’re all here.