Here’s a quick post today about what your texting habits actually say about you.
Let’s say, for instance, you’re in an argument with somebody.
You text back and forth, there’s no resolution.
There’s never going to be a resolution via text. For those of you who want to partake in text arguments, I strongly suggest you get on the phone the minute the argument starts to happen via text, because every word will be analyzed, digested, broken down, and literally thrown back in your face if you continue to be an 11-year-old with a phone in your hand texting somebody.
But yet human beings, we’ve become so passive in our lives.
We’ve used and abused texting on so many levels that we’ve actually decided that texting is far better than actually communicating.
So if you’re in some type of brouhaha with one of your loved ones…
And instead of calling them up on the phone, and texting them, you’re just telling them that you really don’t want to really solve the issue. You’re hoping to solve it passively, which is texting.
And misinterpreting as well.
How about before you go to sleep at night, when you’re in a relationship…
How about when you want to talk to the person that you love, or the person that you’re with, and you’d rather just text them at night instead of actually having a 5 or 10 minute conversation about your day and about how much you love or want to be with them.
What is that texting habit actually saying about you?
It says that, a) you’re either really good at multi-tasking.
Or b) you’d rather watch that Netflix show, half pay attention to that and half pay attention to the person you’re with on the other end of the phone than actually have a full-blown 5 or 10 minute conversation and actually connect like an adult should.
What you’re telling somebody is they’re not important enough to get on the phone and say goodnight to. That’s what you’re really saying. You’re really telling somebody you know what, I like you, but I don’t like you enough to stop watching reruns of Modern Family right now.
So instead of getting on the phone and saying hey, I love you, I like you, I really enjoy talking to you. I can’t wait to see you again. I’d rather send you some half-assed emoticons.
Instead I’ll send some SMS messages, half pay attention to you so I can concentrate on the TV show I’m watching.
I’ve got no problem if someone wants to zone out, watch a TV show, howl at the moon, or anything else. But when it comes down to a real adult relationship, saying goodnight verbally is far better than sitting there and zoning out watching TV and half-assed texting somebody.
We have just abused the hell out of texting.
I’m not a lover of texting. I think it’s abused. I do like it during the day. I think it’s great to be able to check in, when both of you are slaying dragons and working and really don’t have the time to, well, get on the phone and have a full-blown conversation. But I’ve got to tell you.
For those of you that text friends while you’re driving, you’re an idiot, and let me tell you, I’ve done it as well. I’m also an idiot. Because eventually what’s going to happen is that you’re going to look down at the important text coming in from the important text conversation and you’re going to, well, you’re going to miss something in the road, and something bad will happen. But yet we do it as adults all the time because we think nothing will happen to us syndrome.
We believe we have the nothing will happen to us syndrome constantly so, well, we’re just not going to fully pay attention. I’ve seen people do it with kids in the car as well.
No conversation is important enough to risk what can happen on the road, so your text habits are telling something about that as well.
You truly believe that nothing bad is going to happen to you, which means you’re not fully present and fully aware of the dangers of the road. Once again, I am equally as guilty about this, and it is something that I am trying to stop on a regular basis.
Imagine while you were driving, doing nothing, if you actually picked up the phone and actually called the person. It’s a hell of a lot safer, and it’s a hell of a lot more rewarding to have a real conversation.
So, Mr. and Mrs. Texter…
Stop avoiding people and start treating them with warmness and kindness and actually start communicating again.
Maybe your relationships would actually be more satisfying than having to read words on a screen, and maybe you’ll learn the art of being present far more.
Nothing drives me more nuts than when I’m with somebody and it’s late, and it’s after hours for work, and they’re staring at either social media or texting a friend of theirs. I don’t care if they’re texting a work thing, but when they’re sitting there texting a friend, it’s just basically saying you know what, you’re not important.
Our conversation isn’t that important, so I’m texting my friend Joe or Mary right now, because well, they’re just having a text moment, but I need to get back to them. No you don’t. You don’t need to get back to anybody.
We’ve been trained to get back to people.
Be present, folks. Reach out and touch someone. Call somebody like in the old AT&T commercial.
And stop the ridiculous habits that you have when it comes down to texting.