The Big WhyToday I’m going to introduce you to “the big why?”

I’m going to explain what “the big why” is, and why so many people around the world suffer with it. In fact, there are so many people struggling with “the big why?” I’m pretty sure a ton of my readers will be suffering with it right now. It’s the illness where you crave someone who doesn’t feel the same way about you.

I get emails every single day from men and women saying the same thing. “I’m with this guy/girl. I love him so much. I’d do anything for him but he’s getting more distant by the day. I’m going to lose him I know. He said he doesn’t think we should be together. What can I do to get him back? It will kill me to lose him?”

There are like a million different versions of that email too. Every day I hear from women pining for a man who doesn’t feel the same way about them. I even had this conversation with a friend the other night. We were out for dinner and she was asking me to help her with a guy she’s crazy about.

“David, if there’s anyone that can help me with this it’s you. I’ve met this guy. I’d do anything to be with him, but whatever I do he won’t commit to a relationship. He just wants to be casual. He’s told me that himself. What can I do to turn him around?”

I told her straight, “You’re suffering from the big why. Why the fuck would you want to be with a guy who doesn’t want you?”

Why do you ladies insist on chasing men who have already told you they don’t want a relationship?

He doesn’t want a relationship. He doesn’t want to commit to you. He doesn’t want to be your boyfriend. He doesn’t want to give you children. He doesn’t want to have sex with you. He probably doesn’t even want to be your buddy anymore. Why would you want to be with a guy that didn’t feel the same way about you?

Is your esteem that low? Do you enjoy the pain and suffering of unrequited love? Maybe you feel like you’re not good enough or don’t deserve love?

When I see women suffering like this, it makes me feel like they think so badly of themselves. They must feel like they’re pathetic, disgusting beings who don’t deserve to find love.”

Sorry if it sounds like I’m being rough with you, but if you’re chasing a guy who isn’t into you, then you need a David Wygant slap around the face. You need a jackhammer up your butt. You need something to shake you out of it, and make you realize you’re chasing a lost cause. If a guy tells you he doesn’t want to commit, that’s it. Don’t try and change his mind or win his heart.

“How Can I Get Him Back?”

How can you win him back? Why would you want him back if he doesn’t want you?

We’re in a society full of women chasing guys who aren’t interested in them. It’s crazy. You might believe this guy is your perfect man or Disney prince, but he doesn’t feel the same way. At the end of the day, it’s how they feel that counts. You have to move on. You have to forget him, and find a guy that does want to be with you. I’m telling you there are thousands of men out there who would do ANYTHING to love in the exact way you need to be loved.

I know you probably think I’m an asshole right now. I know I’m being tough, but sometimes you need it. If I didn’t do this, you’ll spend the rest of your life chasing men who don’t want you. I’d rather be on my own that with a woman who wasn’t committed to me. Being alone is great. It’s so much easier, and you don’t have to chase a fantasy.

Don’t be so frightened of being on your own. I promise you once you move forward and see the light, you’ll feel so much better about yourself. Once your confidence is back you’ll start seeing how many men there really are out there who want you. You’ll start to see all the men who won’t make you chase that “big why?”

I hope this message gets through to all you ladies chasing men who aren’t interested in a relationship. I don’t mean to be harsh, but sometimes we need tough love. I hope you shed the odd tear. I hope some of you are mad at me. “What an a-hole that David is!”

Whatever emotions I stirred up in you today are there to move you forward!

Get your life in order, and stop chasing men who don’t want you. They probably don’t deserve you anyway!