How many of you get stressed out with the thought of asking a girl out?

I remember when I used to have literally lip quiver moments when I would ask a girl out.  When I was 23 years old and was living in New York City, I probably did the same thing you guys do.

You always say to yourself, “Today is going to be the day I’m going to go ask out the most beautiful girl I talk to.” 

You almost challenge yourself.  Then as the day goes on and you start talking to girls, you don’t ask any of them out. Sometimes you just plain old chicken out, and didn’t even talk to them.

There was one day all this changed for me. It was in the summertime, right before my birthday. I was about to turn 24.

I was tired and frustrated I was letting girls I was attracted to walk by me. It’s not as if I wasn’t getting dates. I just wasn’t dating the ones I really wanted to. So that day I decided I was going to make a change.  The minute I left my apartment, I decided that the first girl I saw, I was going to flirt with. Not only was I going to flirt with her, but I was going to ask her out.  I was just going to do it and see what happened.  As I got out onto 80th street, I made the right turn to Broadway, which is two blocks away.

As I walked down 88th street, I saw the usual homeless people, the usual crazy people, and no girls in sight. I actually felt relieved because I didn’t have to do it yet.  As I was walking to H&H Bagels on the corner of 80th and Broadway, there she was.  An absolutely breathtaking, tall, beautiful blond, with an incredible figure.  She had to be a model. She was 5’10” and just stunning.  She walked out of the bagel place. I thought to myself…

“God, I hope she goes left or right, because I really don’t want to do this right now. She’s so beautiful, there’s no way in the world I’m going to be able to use her as my first girl of the day to talk to and get her phone number.”

Sure enough, as fate had it, she was walking directly towards me.  I made a pact with myself and I decided that this was going to be the day that I was going to stop this crazy approach anxiety.  This was going to be the day that I was going to break through all my fears.

As I got close to her, I started getting nervous. I really wanted to do this, because I was so tired of living life in my head.  As she got to me, I thought to myself, “What am I going to say?”

I noticed there was a bag in her hands. I knew she walked out of the bagel place. So, I literally said whatever came to my mind first.

I looked at her and I go, “Hey. Did you get me breakfast?”

She started laughing. I started laughing. I couldn’t believe I even said that. I was on the way to the bagel place anyway. She goes, “Well yeah, I got bagels, what do you like?”

So I went with it.

I said, “Got sesame or a poppy?”

“I got sesame,” she says.

She takes out the bagel, and I decided to feel ballsy.

I said, “Do you have any cream cheese?”

“Yes I do,” and she whipped out the cream cheese. I started to feel a little guilty at this point so I told her I was going to the bagel place anyway. “Hey, I’m going to the bagel place right now, you don’t have to do this at all. I can go buy myself a bagel.”

“No, I want to.” She said.

So we talked about not much; about bagels and breakfast and what I was going to do that day, I was going to go to the beach that day. At that moment, I just said to myself, “I’m going to do it.”

I looked her in the eye and said it, “Let me take you out for a drink.”

My lip was quivering, my face was turning beet red, I mean I couldn’t believe it.  She was absolutely stunning.  You know what she said?

She looked at me and said, “I’d love that!”

She wrote down her number on a napkin.  I took that napkin, put it in my pocket, and ran all the way home.  I remember that.  I remember that day as if it was yesterday because it helped me overcome that fear. I realized that you don’t have to be suave, you just have to be authentic and real, and you just have to ask for the number.

Today’s video goes deeper into this.  It really will help you how to find out how to get a girl’s phone number.

What happened with me and that girl? I ended up going out with her and dating her for a couple of months.  So you never know who your next girlfriend’s going to be.