Dear David WygantToday I have a very special “Dear David Live” podcast for you. You’ll hear myself and Gregg dealing with some of your emails live, including one from a lady dealing with the common problem of, the guy who promises to leave his girlfriend. It’s something I get hundreds of emails a month about, yet women keep making the same mistake. Anyway, here’s her email, and my response. And if you’re in a situation where you’re dating a man with a wife or girlfriend, pay CLOSE attention to this!


I’ve been seeing a man recently who has a girlfriend. He keeps telling me he’s going to leave her. I know I’m stupid, but I really love him. Anyway, he called last week to arrange a date but I couldn’t go. Now he isn’t returning my calls. Is he a pathetic man boy who is punishing me?

I know it’s my fault, but I really love him and it’s killing me. I so wanted to believe he was going to leave his girlfriend for me. Now I’m dying inside!”

David Says…

It’s not your fault he won’t leave his girlfriend, but it IS your fault for getting involved with a man who already has a girlfriend. I’ve said it so many times before, but if he’s messing around with you and threatening to leave his girlfriend, what do you think is going to happen when you’re the girlfriend?

That’s right…

It isn’t going to be long before he’s telling some woman he’s leaving YOU. Is that what you really want from a relationship?

The reality here is that he isn’t calling you for one of two reasons. Either he’s realized he’s best off staying with his girlfriend, OR he’s found himself another booty call that’s more accessible. If a man is serious about a woman, he’ll get out of any relationship he’s in before he gets involved with you. The next time you fall for a guy who is already connected, here’s what you do differently. You say, “Look, I really like you. Yes, I’m attracted to you, but there’s no way I’m getting together with you until you clean up your house.”

You tell him he has to leave his girlfriend, BEFORE you’ll go anywhere near him. I guarantee you’ll find out very quickly whether he’s serious about you or not. I also guarantee that 9 times out of 10, when you give a cheating man that kind of ultimatum, you’ll never hear from him again. I’m sorry you’re hurting and I’m sorry you have a broken heart, but if you get anything out of this, it’s a lesson that married or guys who are dating, or terrible boyfriend material. Don’t date married men!

If you check out the podcast below you’ll also hear us answer some other live “Dear David” emails, including one from a woman asking how important a woman’s appearance is to a man, and another from a lady who wants to know how to forgive herself for constantly choosing the wrong men!

There are some amazing insights on this podcast so tune in, share with your friends, and don’t forget to send in your “Dear David” questions to me. We might answer your question the next time around!