ChangesI talked to a couple the other day. They were having problems with their relationship and they wanted my help. I asked them what the main issues were and the guy pipes up, “The biggest problem here is that she doesn’t accept me for who I am. She always wants me to change, and I don’t see why I should change because SHE wants me to.”

So I asked him, “How is it she wants you to change? Is there anything she wants to change you’d be happy to compromise on?”

The guy looks at me and says, “Actually, most of the changes are things I want for myself. But I just can’t change as fast as she wants me too.”

Then I start listening to all the excuses he comes up with…

“It’s too hard for me. She wants it all too quickly. I’m so busy with work.”

I could go on…

I started thinking to myself, “How the hell old is this guy?”

It turns out he was in his 40’s. His girlfriend was in her 30’s. The next thing, she jumps into the conversation. “I want these changes because I know you’ll be happier.” She exclaims.


What’s the deal here folks? Do you think love knocks at the door and says, “Hi I’m love. How are you? I here fully evolved and ready to serve you exactly as you want me to.”

It doesn’t work that way. When you meet someone and decide to start a relationship there are bound to be changes in your life. Especially if you’ve been on your own for some time. You’ll need to make sacrifices somewhere, and change isn’t a bad thing.

But you know why so many people find it hard to change?

It’s because we all are so stuck in our old patterns. We get comfortable with all the old stories we tell ourselves.  How many of you have struggled when it comes to meeting women?

How many of you keep telling yourself the same old stories?

“I’m not good looking enough.”

“I’m not tall enough.”

“I don’t have enough money”

“I keep trying to meet women but nothing works.”

It’s all a bunch of BS guys!

The only way to grow in life is to change. The only way to evolve is to change. The only way to live the life of your dreams is to change. Sometimes change comes knocking at the door. When it knocks at the door, whether you’re ready for it or not you had better accept change.

Because in reality, just by making a few minor changes in your life, all of a sudden everything starts to manifest itself and start working for you. I am so tired of the excuses that people have. If you want change, desire change, and somebody comes into your life and supports you in it, then change.

Lose your old habits that are no longer serving you. The problem with this couple’s relationship was simple. She wanted him to change because she knew he wanted to make changes, but he didn’t want to put in the effort to make those changes. She was breaking his pattern of not doing anything, and he didn’t like it.

He was so stuck in his old patterns he just made excuses. She was really trying to motivate him, and he was pushing her away and actually making it her fault he couldn’t change. So today, I want you to ask yourself a question…

How many old stories are you hanging onto? How many old patterns are you still repeating? Do they serve you?

I bet they don’t, so what are you going to do about it?