Recently I did a podcast about what your past dictates, what you can learn from it, and how you can formulate a whole new future. One thing you should know about me is that when I coach others (by doing things like creating my podcasts), I really learn a lot about myself.

I learn about my own issues and my own “stuff,” like my own fears that I may not even have realized I had. I am not talking about fears having to do with when I coach guys how to approach women. I have zero apprehension about that.

I go deeper. So ever since I recorded that podcast, I have been thinking about it and one word keeps coming up: resistance.

I have realized that I have had resistance in a lot of my relationships. Giving in seems to be a big theme Giving in seems to be the big theme. Giving in and losing control seem to be big themes.

Now granted, there are things that you can’t give in to in relationships — things that you are very passionate about or which are part of your core belief system or whatever it might be. Even if you are passionate about certain issues, though, you can still discuss them and learn from each other.

You can find common ground, or you can compromise and find a new way. People who practice resistance tend to never compromise or, if they do, they do it without really compromising.

So I find resistance — resisting things — to be my theme. I seem to resist things that I may or may not want, or that I may or may not have ever thought I wanted. I seem to resist people in certain situations, and maybe resist letting go or letting go of control.

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I seem to attract people who have the same issues because of the the law of attraction. I believe in the law of attraction.

The law of attraction is basically that you’re going to find someone with whom you share certain traits, because the two of you still need to learn certain things. It’s the reason why you are put on this Earth together at the same time.

It is so both of you will teach each other and help each other grow. So grow through your resistance or whatever your issue might be.

Now I want to go even deeper. I want you start thinking to yourself about all of the people you have attracted, and about all of the lessons you’ve had to learn. Were you able to blast through that lesson with somebody, or did those lessons repeat themselves with the next person and the next person and the next person you met?

Life is a mirror. You’re going to attract someone who is exactly where you are at right now in your life.

So resistance was the word that came up for me. I am sure if you look deep inside, some of your words might be different. Some of you may not be able to come with any words. I know myself so well that I was able to come up with a word for myself. So take some time to see if you can find a word for you that represents what you have to learn.