How To Prevent Cock Blocking Once and For All!

November 11, 2011 69 Comments Men Attract and Approach, Uncategorized

Hey guys, Shogo here and first off… happy 11/11/11!

Now it’s been a while since I wrote anything about bars and clubs.  To be honest, it’s been a while since I’ve been out to any clubs.  But I’m going to be out on the town this weekend with some friends, so I figured I’ll put you guys in the right mindset with a question that comes from an email I got last week:

Hey Shogo,

Thanks so much for the coaching call yesterday, I got some great advice out of it and can’t wait to put it to use.  One question.  Could you help me out with cock blocks in a bar or club, they can be very annoying and ignorant I find and I’ve been cockblocked now and again.  So what could ya say to the guy to stop?

J, Ireland

Hey J,

Here’s how I feel about cock blocking.  I never get cock blocked.  It just doesn’t happen to me. So what that means is that cock blocking has nothing to do with another guy being an asshole, swooping in and taking “your” woman.  It’s got everything to do with YOU.  You can learn all the quick and witty comeback lines and banter you want to be prepared for a so-called cock block, but it’s not going to stop it from happening to you.

Because cock blocking only happens to certain types of guys.  And it happens to them over and over again.

Guys who are very hesitant about expressing themselves to a woman.  Guys who don’t claim their space.  Guys who keep their distance and are afraid to get close out of fear that he’s offending her or coming across as “giving her the wrong idea”.

When you do that, other guys will notice it and see that there is no chemistry there.  Maybe you just look like friends.  Maybe a guy is an asshole, and sees an opportunity there to come in and take her away.  In any case, she’s clear for the taking to any other swinging dick who walks by.

Cock blocking happens to guys who don’t intrigue women.  If she is interested in you and the conversation you are having, she will stand there and listen to everything you have to say.  When she’s not into you, her eyes will start darting across the room, hoping for her friend or some other more interesting guy to come rescue her.

When that starts happening, you’re done. Nothing can save you.  She’ll pray for someone else to come join the conversation.  She’ll be totally open to starting a conversation and flirting with another guy who’s around her.  And a guy who sees that will jump right in.  Sometimes she’ll start a conversation with another guy.  I can’t tell you how many times I’ve gone up to the bar to get a drink, and a girl standing there will turn and start talking to me while another guy was just in mid-conversation with her.

Then I’d look over her at the poor guy’s disillusioned face and give him a little shrug.  Does that make me a cock-block?  Does that make me an asshole?  No.  It means she was bored to death with the other guy and wanted talk to me instead.  It means the other guy needed some coaching—not on how to deal with cock blocks, but on how to keep her intrigued.  Because I’m no better than the guy who just got shoved out of the picture.  But I’m much better in conversation.

Cock blocking happens to guys who don’t claim their own space and walk over with confidence and start great conversations with women everywhere they go.  Cockblocking happens to guys who talk to one or two women a night, and then CLING onto those conversations like their lives depended on it.

Sound familiar, victim of cock blocking?

You sit in the corner of the bar, waiting for what to say to that one girl you’ve been looking at for the past 45 minutes, then you finally get up the guts to approach her and hope it really works out because this is your one shot for the night.

Instead you try and try and try with that one girl you finally approached, even when there’s no chemistry.  And the more you try with a girl who’s only lukewarm about you, the longer you stand there struggling, the more likely some guy with dimples and a great smile is going to wink at her and jump in to the rescue.

So you’re still asking why you need to start conversations with women everywhere?  This is why.  Because when you start doing that, you will start having an abundance mindset.  You’ll start approaching women everywhere.  When I go out, I talk to girls everywhere.  Quick, 30-second conversations.  If there’s no chemistry, if she doesn’t want to talk to me, I move on.  I don’t stand around in a shitty conversation, struggling to make things happen, and wait to be cock blocked by some guy she likes better than me.

You think you’ve been cock blocked, but you really just cock blocked yourself.

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Debunked says

2013-06-15 12:47:14

HaHA he chose that pic because HE ALWAYS GETS COCKBLOCKED. Such a shame down in flame
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Andrew says

2012-10-13 02:13:02

Go suck your moms cunt, your a bitch like the rest of the hoes.
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Sean says

2011-11-15 14:40:43

What a load of horse shit. I mean really you are the guy who gets walked on by the other guy who is born to be the alpha male or you are the alpha male. You can't change. You can't suddenly change and become the alpha male who gets all the women
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Tom says

2011-11-14 13:14:22

@Shogo Has nothing to do with PUA terms, your right, but you STILL do not understand the term. let me re-write what I wrote since you didn't read. from post #54 "You don’t understand what cockblocking is do you… when another man pushes or punches you, when another man yells at you, and when another man provokes and embarrasses you is cockblocking. it’s not when another man talks to your woman, it’s when they offend you." when someone offends you there is no suck thing as "you let yourself get offended" or "you cockblocked yourself", learn what cockblocking is man. I doubt you have been cockblocked, and in the blog you said that you cockblocked and shrugged someone, not only was that cockblocking but that was bullying and showing insecurity. when someone offends me I cannot offend them back with words because when speaking I always lose, however the way I can get them back is by offending them back with violence. and it is all legal, it is called "self defense" on of the many reasons I am not in prison now. also I have no social skills so of course violence is my only solution, not to others who do have social skills, but for me because I lack the ability to "own" someone verbally, I can only "own" someone in fights. (NOTE to coaches this comment was not negativity or going off topic. I had a civilized disagreement with shogo ON THE TOPIC. Thank you, Tom Avery)
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Shogo (Coach) says

2011-11-14 12:51:08

The term "cockblocking" has existed way before PUA terms ever did. Bob, get your head out of PUA bullshit. Stop reading that crap, it's bad for your head and bad for the way you see interactions with people. And KJD, I'm glad you get it. It's all about living your life and interacting with people in a way that makes you uncockblockable. Nice term :) Phoenix, yes, I will write an article about some insight into what "chemistry" is and how to spot it. Good call.
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Bob says

2011-11-13 18:10:41

KJD, Good grief, it is no wonder you people need help. Read what I already adamantly stated in #18. Does anyone read the blog comments anymore, other than their own remarks?
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Tom says

2011-11-13 17:45:27

@KJD " If you just stood there and let yourself be cockblocked that’s your own fault." Nope, I kicked his ass and fired him. and that is EXCACTLY the point. don't just stand there and let someone cockblock you, kick his ass.
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theresa says

2011-11-13 16:58:27

And if that was a ploy to go to my work website don't bother, there just gonna say how they all vomited on themselves.
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KJD says

2011-11-13 16:56:52

And Mr. Bob would you be so kind as to give us a lesson in the definition of cockblocking since we apparently don't understand?
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KJD says

2011-11-13 16:54:34

Tom Think back to when this happend and give me a little more detail, do you remember what he said? I can only tell you how I would handle the situation if I know what happend. If you just stood there and let yourself be cockblocked that's your own fault.
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Theresa says

2011-11-13 16:36:20

@roy, thanks for the advice although that won't help me, i have decided nothing will, totally embarrassed today at work, my fat stomach was there for everyone to see, talk about embarrassing, the thing is no one likes me and its all about revenge seeking from one to the other over and over again. seems like you are in a good place, good for you, as for me never will get there, same old shit over and over again, heres to the next person embarrassing the shit out of me again.
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Tom says

2011-11-13 16:35:50

@KJD and how did he embarrass me? telling me to shut up and don't even try and hit on the woman. then he pushes me. I had fire and bust his lip. @Bob Agreed.
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Bob says

2011-11-13 16:32:21

Okay...cool. Shogo has no idea of the definition of "cockblocking" and none of the readers seem to either, so Shog is allowed to "fake it till he makes it", as a "dating coach". Good grief, Shogo is a fucking joke, who has now idea what he is talking about, and no business teaching, coaching, and writing about subjects that he is ignorant about. Fine... Let's move on.
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KJD says

2011-11-13 16:22:35

Tom using a direct quote "@KJD Nope, one time I did everything right, and some cockblocker a work embarrassed me, he ruined it." Out of your own mouth that was what you said cockblocking was. I don't see it saying he pushed, punched or yelled at you.
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Jean says

2011-11-13 16:01:06

When I read these thoughts of David or Shogo they look like common sense, but in reality it often becomes too complicated to pursue that common sense.
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Tom says

2011-11-13 14:38:17

@KJD "Uncockblockable Tom would continue on in the conversation with this girl confidently or made a funny comment or just rolled with it." You don't understand what cockblocking is do you... when another man pushes or punches you, when another man yells at you, and when another man provokes and embarrasses you is cockblocking. it's not when another man talks to your woman, it's when they offend you. you want advice kid? kick the cockblockers ass, don't let them step on you.
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KJD says

2011-11-13 14:30:37

Tom you obviously didn't do everything right if you allowed yourself to get cockblocked. Uncockblockable Tom would have handled it smooth and not got upset. Uncockblockable Tom would continue on in the conversation with this girl confidently or made a funny comment or just rolled with it. You claim to be a bad ass fighter so let me ask you... Do you know anything about Jiu Jitsu? using an opponents force against themselves? Apply that type of mentality to getting cockblocked. Someone trys to embarrass you go with it make it funny either funny about yourself or about them get the girl laughing and continue on as the smooth mover you are. Don't get upset and ruin the effort you have put into a situation.
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Tom says

2011-11-13 13:14:27

@KJD Nope, one time I did everything right, and some cockblocker a work embarrassed me, he ruined it. not only was that person fired but I kicked his ass, and I felt better. when someone cockblocks you, THEY do it to you, no one asks to get cockblocked, assholes like Shogo do it to boost their ego. The solution to cockblockers is kick their ass and embarrass them back. he prevented you from getting the girl, now you prevent him as well, so neither of you get her.
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KJD says

2011-11-13 13:04:56

@Bob and Tom You can only get cockblocked if you allow it to happen. It's a simple concept... It's not about recovering once you get cockblocked it's about being uncockblockable.
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Phoenix says

2011-11-13 11:48:48

Shago could you please define what you and D avid exactly mean with chemistry?An article on this could be very helpful, thanx
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Tom says

2011-11-13 10:38:35

@Bob I actually agree with you on this one thing, Shogo sucks. all he does is use is lawyer degree to get women, and thinks he knows everything about the dating life. hell, even I probably know more than him. 1 guy who I want to write blogs is my man @Intern Dan. him along with @David are my favorite coaches. can't wait for dan to finish internship in January.
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Roy says

2011-11-13 07:01:58

Theresa, How can you know if a guy is settling for you that early on in the interaction? Do you worry about being 'settled for'? If so, working to remove that worry in and of itself will make you more interesting as a result. Are you worried about not being interesting enough? I know that feeling. Working on this worry is always a good thing. Think about things in your life that you want to do but haven't. Now think of ones that you can connect with meeting the men that YOU would not be settling for. Maybe it's hiking and biking, maybe it's going to more sports games, maybe you're a bit of a handywoman and could take a class or workshop at a local hardware store. I started taking yoga classes not just for my health but because I've decided that the kind of woman I want in my life does yoga to be beautiful inside and out. Even if you pick interests that most men do not participate in, just loving the things that you do makes the answer to 'what do you do for work/fun?' a lot more interesting. Keeping him intrigued? Granted it does require effort on your part but realize that it's never going to be 100%. If he loses interest, nothing can change that. If you can convince him to date you at that point, then he is settling for you, and you don't want that. The thing that sucks about attraction is that you have to both be completely open and vulnerable, yet not let rejections hurt you. But in order to find the one you really want, two people must open up, see each other completely, and decide where to go from there. Also realize that a lot of men never give up the hunt for the paradoxical 'perfect woman' who can be a crazy whore in bed, a master of social proof in public, and a calm friend when it's needed. So don't work on yourself thinking that these men will see the light, some of them are just doomed. My favorite new saying I hear from my yoga instructor often enough: "Find that place between effort and ease". I've been applying that thought to just about everything lately, and it works for me when I listen to it. Self-improvement is a lifetime of work, just take it a moment at a time. Hope this helps :)
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theresa says

2011-11-13 05:36:35

@Roy, i meant to say me not us, but I hear sometimes that guys don't want to settle, so if a guy is interested enough to go on a date but realizes he is just settling, is possible to change that or is he just not interested enough to continue? I guess it has to do with the blog as Shogo mentioned if you are not interesting enough than they will look for someone else. I guess the next question would be how do I become more interesting and keep the guy intrigued?
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Bob says

2011-11-12 23:20:41

Wow, does anyone here realize that shogo had no idea what the hell he was talking about in this blog?? He has no idea what "Cockblocking" even means. Come on guys...Why are you even commenting on a subject that the author has no idea what he is talking about?
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Collin says

2011-11-12 19:59:47

@John, I don't shop there either. It's pricey. That's why I said you don't have to shop there to get women. They've got really nice stuff though. I've got a dress shirt from a thrift store that is probably 20+ years old that's still in great condition.
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Roy (the teacup gentleman) says

2011-11-12 19:23:41

@Theresa I dont quite understand the question. Could you explain it a little more?
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John says

2011-11-12 16:05:21

Nah,, couldn't go out last night,, had to work too late. I was just at the mall, because I met some friends at cheesecake factory, ( everyone was a couple except me),, and after they left, I walked around for a while. Every good looking girl I see makes my stomach sink, and I just feel really depressed. They just don't like me. I've gotten too fat, too old, and I'm just not good looking, or cool looking enough. That's just how it is. I'm just gonna stay in the house by myself tonight. I really have no where to go, and just don't feel like putting up with the disappointment of getting nasty looks from women, and having to watch every other guy in the world get everything he wants. @collin,, btw,, I checked out Brooks Brothers,, and two words,, BULL - SHIT! Also, I looked at Banana Republic,, j crew, and even Macy's, and dillard's,, and can't find a decent, solid color, button down shirt ANYWHERE. Everything is either vertical stripped, or plaid.
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Collin says

2011-11-12 15:39:50

By the way John, I saw a girl last night who couldn't have been more than 4'9" or so. Compared to her, you're Yao Ming.
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KJD says

2011-11-12 14:30:31

I can agree with shogo on this... If you are getting cockblocked you were doing something wrong before the cockblocker ever got involved. When a woman is truly interested she won't be paying attention to cockblockers wether they are other guys or even her own friends. I'm a little bit gifted with a quick wit so other guys trying to move in usually just gives me a chance to make the girl laugh so I don't mind :) Don't look at it as an obstacle look at it as an opportunity.
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Brian says

2011-11-12 14:24:06

@Tom Make sure you stay friends with Jenny so you can meet her hot friends. As for the blog, it's all about confidence. The easiest way to stop cockblocking is to just continue as if the guy didn't interrupt you, or involve him in the conversation. Cockblockers are trying to get a negative reaction out of you, so if you give them a positive reaction they'll be lost in their tracks.
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Tom says

2011-11-12 14:05:48

*Smarter, not smarting... lol But anyways, me and Jenny are just friends, that's the way it is and I'm not mad. the reason I am mad though is because I wasted my time and looked like an idiot last night. but all is better now, new day. I don't think I ever really liked her either, I just wanted to have sex with her because I haven't in years. I've been sexually deprived for a long time, it really hurts. perhaps a prostitute could help that, but that's a risk in itself. @John Don't worry man, you'll get a woman who'll kiss the ground you walk on soon, I could tell, you just gotta go out there, catch that ball, but don't just catch it... run with it. that's my problem, I catch the ball or take the ball away, but I never run with it.
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Tom says

2011-11-12 13:39:39

Also, I would like @Intern Dan to start writing blogs, he's 100x more smarting than Shogo, and knows what he is talking about. 2 coaches I have tremendous respect for, even if we had our problems, we will always be friends, and I will always respect them no matter how mad I am or no matter what I say, and those 2 coaches are David Wygant and Dan. Shogo doesn't help build confidence at all, the guys who do are David and Dan, Shogo just brings confidence down. And Shogo, don't take offense to that, take it as constructive criticism, you need alot of improvement kid.
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Tom says

2011-11-12 13:34:48

There is only one way to deal with cockblocking. forget about what shogo says, because he takes a PUA approach by being cocky & mean to other men to get his way(How he shrugged at the guy when he took the guys girl away, no offense but I don't listen to people like that, that is something a high school bully would do. immature of him) The way to deal with them was always in my face. when I would get cockblocked, I always thought that I lost, when in fact I won... I know, sounds crazy right? I thought it was crazy too until I really looked back at my experiences to realize that I won. everytime someone would cockblock me I would fight them and leave them hurt. looking back... that is how I won. just like the guy in 2007... in 2007, someone cockblocked me, then winked at me and gave me a grin, so I POLITELY excused him and my girl he stole, from their conversation and I politely punched him in the jaw and lip. I busted his lip politely, and I felt his jaw crack on my knuckles. he got the girl, so I got to punch. that is fair. looking back, I did win. when you hurt the cockblocker, you prevent them from doing anything that night with your woman, just like he prevented you from talking to her. so it is all fair. so the solution?... beat up the guy who cockblocked you, especially if he did what the guy in 2007 did to me with the wink and grin, or what shogo did with the shrugg. you can't let people step all over you like that. the only reason shogo got away with that was because the guy he cockblocked was a chump. guaranteed if it was a guy like me, shogo would've been crying. so I taught 2 things here, #1. how to deal with cockblockers(you fight them) and #2. I taught Shogo that he shouldn't bully others.
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Jeremiah says

2011-11-12 11:38:12

@john why dont you go do something about it instead of whining? no ones gonna hold your hand
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Collin says

2011-11-12 09:05:00

@John, you should have come out last night. I could have found you a college freshman.
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john says

2011-11-12 06:45:47

Congratulations everybody,, I got to sit at home alone last night! WHOOOPPEE!
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Collin says

2011-11-12 01:45:22

@Shogo, T-top. I doubt I'll get to drive it though. She's a cool girl, but there just wasn't a whole lot of chemistry there. I'd be willing to take her out again to see if something might develop, but I'm not optimistic. I mean, I took her swing dancing. If that's not guaranteed to heat things up, I don't know what will.
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Godfather says

2011-11-12 01:43:53

@Tom: I meant to say uncomfortable earlier.
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Godfather says

2011-11-12 01:37:34

As for this blog, cock blocking can happen to guys from either another man or women interfering with the conversation. I think it is worse off when the women interferes because they can be very protective of their friends. The worst is when you seem to have a great conversation going with the woman you are talking to and her friend suddenly comes out of nowhere, grabs her hand, and leaves with her before she even finished speaking to you. I have had this incident happen to me multiple times. This blog reminds of that episode of Simpsons called the Blue and Gray. If you are a Simpsons fan, I would recommend watching that episode. It is a hilarious episode of where Moe feels lonely and decides to attend a dating seminar with Homer. They end up going to the thing and get some advice for attracting women from a dating guru guy who tells them that a woman will determine in the first 6.5 seconds whether or not she wants to sleep with a man. The guys then try to show the dating guru guy how they will approach a woman in the first 6.5 second time frame. Later on in the episode, Moe asks Homer to be his wingman since he knows Homer to be a chick magnet and Homer agrees to do this. They both end up going to a club together where they see this one guy talking to a girl. Homer then plans to use the cock blocker technique on the guy. He decides to approach the guy talking to the girl and distract him and before you know it, Moe swoops in and takes the girl away from the guy while Homer is talking to him. When the guy turns around and looks for where the girl is, he spots her making out with Moe.
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Godfather says

2011-11-12 01:05:53

I don't think Tom it is a good idea to get into a fist fight over some random girl who gets stolen from you by another guy in a club. It is not worth it to do this to end up gettin kicked out of the club, getting arrested for assualt and battery, and having the whole rest of your night ruined because you couldn't handle your own emotions. I also think Tom you are over interpreting things when it comes to women communicating to you that they are not interested in you and when women are interested in you. Now I don't know you and I don't know this girl Jenny, but I can tell you based on what you have wrote on the past several blogs, she is most likely not interested in you. I am sure this may be hard for you to hear or understand this, but realize that women can have a tendency to communicate indirectly. The fact that you work with this person makes it even more likely that she will be doing this. When you are at work, I am sure you know as well as I do that is important to portray a professional manner at work. Knowing that you are a manager at Best Buy, her smiling at you is her way of being courteous and respectful to you. It should not be something that should be interpreted as her being interested in you. I also do not recommend dating women at work since it is not worth getting in trouble or possibly even losing your job over this. One area you can get in trouble is having conflicts of interest. She is considered a subordinate and company policy would not allow you to date anyone who is considered a subordinate to you. I wouldn't recommend dating anybody from work at all in my opinion. Another area you can get in trouble is she can file a harassment complaint on you if you continue to bother her or make her feel at comfortable at work. I think you need accept everything the way it is right now, learn from your mistakes, and move on. You asked about why can't men and women get along with each other. I don't think that is the right question you should be asking Tom. The thing you should be asking yourself Tom is this: How can I get along with myself? When you can be able to answer this question, you will know how to answer the other question.
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Jeremiah says

2011-11-12 00:55:01

@ tom im sorry man :(.
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KJD says

2011-11-11 23:58:40

Had a good night tonight ;) Never fear, always put yourself out there... The only way you lose out is when you don't speak your mind :)
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Tom says

2011-11-11 22:38:28

Why is it so difficult for men and women to just get along? why is it so hard to find woman who will truly like you and not lead you on? I was born in the 70s, at the wrong time man. I wish I was born in the 19th century when it was easy to get a woman and have a family.
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Tom says

2011-11-11 22:31:45

I didn't go to her house, didn't have the guts to do it. she called and apologized for her attitude, and I apologized as well. truth is, me and her aren't good for each other. imagine if we were a couple? it wouldn't work. this is probably the 1st time in my life that I can say that I gladly accept with open arms, being put in the friend zone. I wish I could lie and say that the date went successful, I wish I could tell you guys that I fucked her brains out, but I won't lie to you guys, lying about having about having all the women in the world won't help me get help from the coaches, I was, am and always will be honest on this blog, not once will I lie about a so-called success. when there's bad times I'll be honest about it and when there are good times I will as well. so yes, with Jenny, I quit the pursuing because I realized it would never work. the hunt for a woman continues. back where I started, feel like I went in circles in a desert.
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Cicero says

2011-11-11 22:04:02

Great stuff Shogo. That's an empowering message - taking responsibility for the outcomes you generate. Listening to David's podcast from the other day, I was reminded of where I was a year ago. I emailed David around the end of 2010 to tell him my New Year's Resolution was to do his bootcamp. The bootcamp in LA last February was awesome - one of my best weekends of the year! As I mentioned at the time, I flew up to SF for a job interview the next day after. The experience of the bootcamp put my head in a great place, I nailed the interview and got the job. ...so thank you!!! The increased salary has paid for David’s bootcamp several times over. But... I've been so focused on work in the last 9 months, I haven't invested the time to really max it out my personal life. I want that to change in 2012. So for me it’s back to basics. You say that I need to “intrigue” her – sure easy for you. You’re Shogo! I’d like to be able to “walk over with confidence…claim space…avoid being hesitant expressing myself…start a great conversation,” but executing on that is easier said than done. Can you offer some specific tips on how to get started? What was it like for you when you were less experienced and feeling your way through things? Any examples? Thanks again!
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Lynnie says

2011-11-11 20:15:37

Good read. I found out what Cock Blocking is. Never heard of it...
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Tom says

2011-11-11 20:09:27

Fuck this, I'm going to her house, confronting her face to face.
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Pat says

2011-11-11 19:40:49

@Tom What happened man? Just stay calm and strong and don't let this ruin all the progress you've made over the past few weeks.
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Tom says

2011-11-11 19:14:13

Just got off the phone with Jenny and she's upsetting me, all she has to do leave it alone, she "flaked" on me and I wasn't mad until she got condescending. now I'm feeling upset.
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Tom says

2011-11-11 18:56:30

She wasn't at her house, and she didn't pick up my calls, I called her 20 times, no answer. I didn't leave any voicemail either. but it's cool, this isn't the first time it's happened to me, much worst things have happened. and hey I deserved it, as fairness for what I did to her the other day.
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Tom says

2011-11-11 18:48:12

@John You were right.
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Bob says

2011-11-11 17:23:54

This is not the typical form of "cockblocking" from what I have learned. Shogo needs to at least do some minimal PUA study, to learn the various terms and definitions of the subjects he is writing about, if he wants to speak with authority as a "dating coach". What he speaks of above is simply a girl who is not interested in a guy who has approached her, and is looking for a rescue. Cockblocking is a well know problem for single guys, especially lone wolfs, who try and approach a mixed group, with a girl or girls included, who he may be interested in getting to know. Cockblockers, generally, are good, guy friends (and even the girls can be so called "cock blockers", I call it a different name :) )of a girl or group of girls, that she usually comes to the bar with. Many girls will only go to a bar with some "guy friends" to serve as "protectors" and "nuisance alarms" for them. Most guys who are "friends" with girls, that they bring, or meet at the bar, still think they may have a chance of getting out of "the friend zone" at some future date. So, these guys will jump in front of, interrupt, bow up to, and generally give you a hard time, if you come to their table and try to make time, or talk to the girls in the group. Also, many times these guys take their job a little too seriously, and will even interfere with a guy that the girls may indeed be interested in. So, yes, cockblocking is real, and can happen to any guy who appoaches a mixed group. As Collin stated, the best way around Cockblockers is to either have a wingman as the "non interested" distractor. Or, befriend the ENTIRE group, get to know the guys, act and even ignore the girls, until the guys lower their "shields". Then it is quite easy to swoop in, and remove the girl from the group, before they even know what happened by asking her to go with you to get a drink or any of several methods. The problem with this scenario is that you can waste a lot of time befriending the group, only to find that the girl is as boring as cardboard, once you did all the work to get to her, and wasted half your evening doing it.
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theresa says

2011-11-11 16:47:02

Shogo, Silk thong, ummm, ok. Is that your plan for tonight? This should be an interesting blog tomorrow. If anyone is reading this in the ny area, they r going to be following u tonight, lol. So, ummm how can u be someone they think of as not settling? What sets us apart as from settling to not settling, or is just personal preference? John, go to the bootcamp, get a date and than tell us what your plan is. Hey we never heard what Collins plan is.
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Shogo (Coach) says

2011-11-11 16:36:37

Ugh 69 stingray, rad. Always wanted to drive one! Convertible or t top?
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Shogo (Coach) says

2011-11-11 16:33:26

Theresa, yes this blog works for women as well! Tom, if you were really going to do the Ghost move you wouldn't bring a second shirt. Thw whole point is is so that you have to go shirtless, she'll try to wash the shirt, and then you have to stick around while the shirt dries. If you bring a spare shrit, you'll just get one dirty and change into the new one, then go home with a dirty shirt. Duh. Personally I would wear a silk thong to the date, then spill the wine on my pants so she has to wash my pants while I sit on the couch in my thong. Who knows, maybe she'll wash the thong too :)
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john says

2011-11-11 16:21:17

Well, whooptie doo to all of you.
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Collin says

2011-11-11 16:10:30

You're not the only one with a date tonight, Tom. My date's dad owns a Boss 429 Mustang, drives a new Boss 302, and is currently restoring a '69 Corvette Stingray. Talk about hard to compete hahaha
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Tom says

2011-11-11 15:54:32

Well gonna read the blog when the date is over, tonight is unpredictable, but hopefully it is unpredictably good. Write to you later, I'm heading out to her, wish me luck, bye.
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Intern Dan says

2011-11-11 15:53:00

HAHAHAHA I LOVE CHRIS HANSEN!!!
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theresa says

2011-11-11 15:48:13

Tom, I hope the shirt thing works for u, that's hilarious but at the same time sweet. U make me laugh. I hope tonight goes well for u. I can't believe I am going to say this but I'm excited to hear the details tomorrow, that is if it went well and if you were able to pull off the shirt move, lol. Does this blog work vice versa too? I am assuming yes? Thoughts?
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Tom says

2011-11-11 15:36:11

@Collin, Also, do you think I will do well tonight? do you have confidence in me for tonights date?
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Tom says

2011-11-11 15:35:12

@Collin I know, but he shouldn't have shrugged at him, that's a form of bullying. no need for Shogo to make him feel bad, just showed he was insecure about something. Someone did that to me(as I wrote above) and I hurt him politely, that's what he was looking for so he got it, I politely punched him 2 times in the jaw and lip, prevented him from having a good night. and it was fair because he wanted it. what shogo did was looking for some trouble. I have no tolerance, like John Cena says, "You want some, come get some" When someone cockblocks me, he should expect me to at least politely bust his lip. I'll do what I did in 2007 for now on. Anyways Collin, does the Shirt trick work?and do women really like scars on a man collin?
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Collin says

2011-11-11 15:23:16

@Tom, Shogo did not take that guy's girl. She didn't want to talk to him anymore and took the first opportunity she saw to bail on the conversation. That guy should have been more interesting.
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Tom says

2011-11-11 15:11:29

Also, this may sound stupid but I brought an extra shirt because I plan to spill a drink on my shirt(like the guy from ghost) so I could take it off and show my body. specifically my bullet wound on my collar bone. I heard women find scars on men attractive, so I am confident this can work.
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Tom says

2011-11-11 14:50:55

"Then I’d look over her at the poor guy’s disillusioned face and give him a little shrug. Does that make me a cock-block? Does that make me an asshole? No." Actually that does make you an asshole, you took his girl away, ok... but NO NEED to shrug and put it in his face, you probably hurt his feelings, different guys react different ways. some may cry, some may smile back and some are like me, let me tell you what happened in 2007. in 2007 at a party in manhattan, some guy cockblocked me and I didn't do anything, I controlled myself until he winked at me(much like you shrugged at the guy) and gave me a grin. it hurt my feelings in all honesty, and I had to do something. so what did I do Shogo?... I excused them from their conversation in a polite manner, and then I punched him 2 times in the lip and jaw, then I told them politely that they may continue their conversation. of course they got mad, but I told them "that's life", and left before a fight ensued at the party, so I got the last laugh and I felt proud. fairness had taken place there. if he didn't wink or rub it in my face, he wouldn't have gotten a cracked jaw and busted lip. so what did you learn here Shogo? don't do it again, you don't know who you mess with when you do, lucky for you it was a nice guy. now you have more knowledge shogo. Well now off topic and in positivity and the Present time, in about 2 hours I got myself a date, I will do whatever it takes to make this night successful. even if I don't have sex with her, even if she puts me in the friend zone I owe it to her. and no she will not flake, in fact she told me she is already dressed, and all I have to do is pick her up by 7.
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Shogo (Coach) says

2011-11-11 14:46:34

I just thought it was a cute pic of Chris Hansen :)
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Collin says

2011-11-11 14:20:28

More to the point, you left out another important aspect of cock blocking: the friend trying to "protect" the girl's dignity. I don't know a sure fire way to get rid of the cockblocking friend without the help of a wingman, but why do you really need to hook up with her right then? Get her number, invite her out with you the next night, and hook up with her then. You'll have the opportunity to make a sober assessment of whether you actually like her (or just like her boobs), and she'll be more relaxed because she'll feel like she knows you better, which makes the experience more enjoyable for everybody involved.
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Collin says

2011-11-11 13:53:13

You do realize that the picture you chose is a pedophile joke, right?
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Jamea says

2011-11-11 13:08:21

Thankyou i found this really helpful.
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