Here is a great question a reader just asked me. He asked, “David, how do seem open to people and be yourself if they reject you?”
Here is the answer: Who cares about what someone who rejects you thinks about you?
The only question that matters is asking how you feel about yourself. When you wake up in the morning and look in the mirror, how do you feel about yourself as a person?
We’re not in this world to please other people. Sometimes people just don’t connect with you. Sometimes people don’t resonate with what you said. Sometimes there is just no chemistry with another person.
So if you really love who you are, you practice a lot of self love, and believe in who you are as a person, then you will never feel rejected. If all you ever do is admire and respect yourself, then you will never walk away from a rejection feeling rejected.
I never feel rejected. If someone doesn’t like what I have to say or isn’t into what I have to say, then I’m fine with that.
Why am I fine with that? It is because there are so many other people with whom what I say does resonate, and I still love myself regardless.
So it all comes down to how you feel about yourself. If you are someone who spends their time trying to get approval and validation from others, it means that you do not feel secure enough about who you are as a person.
So you need to spend the time really getting to know yourself, respecting yourself, and loving and admiring yourself. Call it mental masturbation or, for those of you who are fans of Saturday Night Live, “Stuart Smalley” yourself.
What ever you call it, do it every single day. Do it and you will never be rejected again.