The other night I was out in New York City.

I was there for six days.

Did a great boot camp; it was a blast, great group of guys going through so many different ways to approach women.

Went through the dos, the don’ts, went through everything.

And then guess what I witnessed?

Two men doing what I consider to be one of the lamest approaches ever.

Let’s set the scene.

I was out in New York City with a lady friend of mine, talking, laughing, having a good time. Finally, after drinking eight waters, I needed to go to the bathroom.

Maybe I was gone five minutes; had to go up a flight of steps. I come back and there’s this dude sitting next to her. In my head, I’m like, “Alright, they’re friends.”

He sees me and quickly scurries away just like a mouse would scurry away from a mousetrap.

I sit back down and she starts laughing.

“What’s so funny?”

“Two of them approached me. It was such a great approach. It was crazy!”

“Tell me more.”

“Well the first guy came over, and basically started asking me all these dumb questions. Wanted to know exactly when we were going to hang out, and so forth.”

“Did he even listen to what you said?”

“No, not at all, didn’t listen to a word I said. He basically started asking me out within the first 15 seconds. So he left, obviously realizing I wasn’t responding.”

“What did the second guy do?”

“Well the second guy walked over here and asked me how come I didn’t like his friend.”

“That was his opener?!”

“Yep. He said, ‘How come you don’t like my friend? I guess maybe you like blonde guys instead of dark guys.’ And that was the extent of his conversation.”

“How do you feel about that, as a woman?”

“Ridiculous, because men have no clue. Why can’t they just come over and start talking? Why do they have to sell themselves?”

“Yeah, a lot of men just don’t get it.”

. . .

But, you don’t want to be one of those guys. You don’t want to be one of those guys to go over, talk to a woman, and then immediately turn her off with some stupid, clever pick-up line.

No, you want to be a real man, one who understands how to approach women with confidence and charm.

Confidence and charm, my friends.