he is not into youWhy are you so hung up on this guy?

Every day I get emails from women swooning over Mr. Wrong, and it doesn’t matter how long it’s been, these women are so hung up they can’t give it up. Some of you have been hung up on Mr. Wrong for a year or more!

It’s almost like a disease running rampant. Recently I did a special on email coaching, and almost every email that came in was from women trying to figure out how to get the wrong guy to love her. Every story was almost the same. The time frames might have been different, but every story went something like this…

“I’m with this guy, but he seems to be getting very cold. We don’t see each other as much as before. Sometimes he doesn’t even call or text me for a week!

I want to get him to love me again, like me again. What can I do? How can I get him to fall for me?

I don’t understand this. Why would any woman who cares about herself, or has the tiniest bit of self-respect, continuously try to get the wrong person to like them or love them?

There’s no getting somebody to love you. There’s no magic word, formula, or game to make somebody love you. Either a man naturally falls in love with you or he doesn’t. If he does, he wants nothing more than to be with you, consumed by you. He loves to be around you. He can’t possibly be without you.

I remember one time when I was in love; I went away to D.C. for the weekend on business. I was supposed to come back on a Tuesday. I was so in love I had to come back Sunday night. Another night without the person that I loved was driving me nuts.

When a man is in love, he’s going to climb mountains, cross-rivers, and swim oceans to be with you. If you’re with somebody that isn’t doing those things, they don’t want to be with you.

Sure, they like the sex. They might even enjoy your company, but they’re not making much of an effort. Why? Simply – they’re just not into you as much as you’re into them. The trouble is women like to stay in these relationships because they’ve invested time. They get attached to their role in the story, as a victim.

Whenever a woman invests time in a guy, they feel like they have to keep chasing the relationship. It’s like you don’t feel you can cut your losses. If you took that exact same strategy and applied it to the stock market, you’d be bankrupt the moment you made a bad decision or invested in the wrong stock.

All successful people in the world know a big secret to success is to cut your losses. I don’t care how much time you invested in this so-called perfect man.  This perfect man that’s not perfect for you because if you paid attention, you would realize that he’s just not into you.

Cut your losses. Stop taking your friends out to dinner. Stop over-analyzing things. Instead, ask yourself this question…

Why do you do this to yourself?

The amount of time you spend trying to find a way to get Mr. Wrong to love you, is time you could use proactively finding a guy that actually deserves your amazingness. You could use that time to find a man who deserves your love, and a man who deserves to be with you.

There’s plenty of men out there, so stop trying to hang onto Mr. Wrong, and use that same energy to go out there and work on yourself so you find that amazing Mr. Right.