It’s a term we’re all familiar with by now.
Donald Trump says CNN is fake news. Liberals say Fox is fake news.
People talking about how this or that was hacked by the Russians and yada yada.
Ok. But that’s not what I want to talk about today.
The point is, we live in a world where most of us basically believe whatever our friends post on Facebook, and nobody checks their facts.
So basically, most people look up something on Google and believe whatever they want to believe.
So this is an article that’s going to be about the “fake news” in dating — because there’s a lot of it.
I really don’t give a shit about CNN or Donald Trump or the New York Times or whatever your politics are.
What I definitely do give a shit about is the dating advice going around the Internet that absolutely makes me want to strangle someone.
So let’s take some time today to set the record straight.
Okay, let’s say you’re getting to know a woman.
You’re sleeping together.
You enjoy each other’s company a lot.
And then you come across some so-called dating gurus and dating experts who honestly aren’t dating experts or dating gurus at all. They’re more like immature little boys who still don’t understand the way the female mind works.
They tell you, when you go away and you’re not seeing her for a few days, don’t text her. These are the exact words from these so called immature dating experts.
The reason why you don’t text her is to create some anxiety in her, keep her wondering.
Anxiety in her?
Have these men ever been around a woman!?!?
I don’t think they’ve ever even touched a woman. Maybe they believe they’ve touched women because they watch porn and they still believe the movie Weird Science from 30 years ago is going happen, some woman they’ve created is going to come out and basically suck their dick.
You want to make a woman feel safe and secure.
Because the best relationship is an open relationship, or a relationship where communication flows naturally.
A relationship where communication just flows on a daily basis, so you can create a safe haven between the two of you.
Here you are, you’re hanging out together, you’re creating this beautiful safe haven between the two of you, and then all of a sudden you vanish for a few days after creating this safe haven and you don’t text her for a few days because you want to create anxiety.
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By the time you get home, and you text her, and you’re excited to see her, she doesn’t really want to see you… and you wonder why.
All because you read some really ridiculous anxiety-ridden manifesto on the Internet from some guy who doesn’t have a fucking clue what he’s even talking about in the first place.
And what happens next is that you’ve lost the girl that you’ve actually started to build trust with.
The number one desire that women have is to feel safe.
So you are basically taking the safe feeling that you made her feel and you basically flushed it down the anxiety toilet bowl.
It’s absolutely insane, but that’s some of the advice that goes around the Internet.
Men wonder why that women tend to lose interest.
Your job as a man, like it or not, is to make her feel safe right from the get-go.
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You’re playing with her on Bumble or Tinder, you get her phone number.
You pursue her, you ask her out, you tell her to text you when she gets home.
You give her a good night text and you make sure you make her feel safe.
You’re authentic, you’re real, you’re vulnerable, and you’re open.
You have conversations to express your needs, wants, and desires, and you allow her the space to express her needs, wants and desires.
When you’re not involved with her for a few days because you’re out doing man things, traveling the world, slaying dragons, or whatever it might be…
You make her feel fucking safe and secure, and you check in, and you continue the flirting.
You continue the safe place that you have created with her.
If not, you’re going to go back to your hometown and you’re going to go see her and she’s going to want to go slay a dragon with somebody else.
Don’t cause somebody anxiety…
…unless you want to date a low self-esteem crazy narcissistic bitch that’s going to cut your balls off while you’re sleeping one night.
You want a real quality woman.
She deserves a real quality man.
Be a real quality man.
Step up and give her the experience that she needs. Don’t listen to someone who says cause anxiety in her because that’s going to make her want more of you.
That’s high school bullshit that will only attract somebody with low self-esteem who likes to be beaten, and likes to literally be treated like shit.
Not the girl you exactly want to bring home to mom (unless your mom lives in a double wide and she’s a hillbilly).
And there’s nothing wrong with double wides and being a hillbilly, but hopefully you get my point and my humor in that.
Some of my best friends are double wide hillbillies, and I enjoy them immensely.
But anyway, back to the point: you want a woman that actually is a woman.
You want a woman that you can treat as a woman and you want to make a woman feel safe and secure.
Now, if you’re one of the guys who’s actually believed bullshit like this, listen: I want to help you out.
Truth be told, it’s not your fault for listening to advice that might sound good, but is actually complete and utter nonsense.
There’s so much garbage advice out there that, in my brand-new course, Words to Win Her Over, we actually spend the first week deprogramming all the myths and lies you’ve been sold about texting women.
If you REALLY want to know what communication is all about and how to attract a mature, evolved woman, I suggest you sign up before enrollment ends…
So, while everyone else is busy following the B.S. advice of all the so-called gurus out there, you can enjoy spending 2018 as the one guy who actually gives women what they desire in a man.