no sex or datingRight now, I’m sitting in the Admiral’s Club in JFK, eating a very disgusting JFK breakfast. It’s amazing in today’s day and age, at an airport the size of JFK that the variety of food available isn’t much better than a mall in Paduca, Kentucky. This is some of the worst airport food you can get.

Anyway, forget the food at JFK, I probably got you to read this with the headline, “David Wygant No Longer Dating Or Having Sex.”

Why would David Wygant, a dating coach, write about not dating or having sex?

It’s true. I’m over it. At least for now. I’ve been over it for about a year. I could care less about dating. I could care less about having sex. Neither of them fulfills me in any way. Now, all of you know I’ve dated a lot of women over my lifetime. I’ve had many relationships, and I’ve had a lot of sex. In fact, I’ve had so much sex that even if I didn’t have sex for a few years, I’d still be way ahead.

Do you want to know why I just don’t date or have sex anymore?

The truth is, I find it boring. I’m really not interested in going on a date. I have no interest in getting to know their stories, and sharing who I am. I’d rather hangout with my friends. I have great friends all over the world. I’d rather sit and have dinner with them. It’s fun and it’s easy. It satisfies me in so many ways.

With a date we have to talk about who we are, what we’ve done, and what we want to do. You have to be into it, and where I am in life, I could care less about what some stranger has done. I don’t want to know how they grew up and became the person they are now. As for sex, it comes with a lot of responsibility. I’ve enjoyed not having sex. In fact, I love it. I don’t have any uh-oh feeling anymore.

You find yourself turned on by someone, then suddenly you’re having sex and you realize, “Oh shit. I can’t believe I just did that.”

Then you have to lay in bed staring at the ceiling for two hours, and then play nice in the morning. I don’t have any responsibility for having to pleasure a woman who’s in her head. I’ve dealt with my fair share of women like that. I remember when I was really into sex. I remember I’d have sex with a woman, and I could feel how far into their heads they were. They couldn’t cum. You can feel someone’s energy, and you can sense the panic and desperation. I don’t miss any of that. I don’t crave any of that.

Granted, I love sex. I just don’t want the responsibility that comes with it. Most people don’t realize there’s a responsibility that comes with sex. You have to be authentic and real. If you just want to have sex, you have to tell the person so you don’t hurt them. You don’t want to lead people on a false path. It’s just the right thing to do.

When you have sex, you need to be responsible. You have to make sure you have birth control. You have to be honest about your history. You have to treat the person amazingly. You have to make sure when they wake up in the morning they feel amazing about being with you. You have to tell them how you feel. There’s so much responsibility that comes with sex. To be honest with you, I don’t want it right now. I’d rather just watch football, play fantasy football, hang out with my friends with zero responsibility, and just enjoy my kids and my life.

It’s amazing. I read emails from all of you. I hear how badly you want to date. I hear how much you want to get laid, be a ladies man, and have lots of sex. I get it. It’s what I teach, and I’ve been there. It’s a lot of fun. It’s great to meet new women, have great sex, and to get intimate. But you’ve got to be able to give that energy. I don’t have the energy to give. I don’t have any interest in it. That’s how I feel right now. I’d be inauthentic if I actually dated, if I actually went out, and slept with women.

Why You Need To Understand What Dating Is Really About…

I don’t think enough people realize the responsibility involved. To live your life as an authentic man, you have to be honest with everyone you meet, whether you want to date, have sex, whatever it might be. It’s about speaking your truth, but the problem is, most people don’t ever speak their truth.

Too many men lead women on because they want to have sex they haven’t had it so long. The woman is under the impression she’s going to have a great relationship, when all he wants to do is blow and run. Dating is all about being open and honest. Dating is about doing the work on yourself. It’s about getting in touch with who you are, writing down what you want, how you want to feel, and who you want to feel it with. I don’t want the responsibility of all that right now. I just want to connect with great people, have great friends in my life, and at the end of the night, give them a hug, wish them well and then go home. Do I enjoy sleeping on my own every night? No.

Do I miss physical touch? Absolutely. Do I get a two-hour massage every week with a happy ending? Sorry no. To me, physical touch and intimacy is very different, and something I cherish and honor. It’s something where you need to give so much of yourself. You need to be present for someone else. You need to be able to satisfy your partner’s needs, unconditionally without any ego. I’m not in the mood for that right now.

I like my life. In fact, I love it the way it is. Does that mean I’m never going to be open to dating and sex again? Of course not, but for now I could care less about dating, sex, or relationships. I know a lot of the reasons which I don’t feel like sharing right now, but mostly, I don’t want the responsibility. Right now, I’m going to hop on my flight. I got upgraded. I’m going to sit back, relax, enjoy business class, take a nap, and watch movies. I’ll be very satisfied for 5-6 hours. Just as satisfied as I used to be having sex and dating. Then I’m going to go home, workout, see my kid, and I’ll be satisfied in every way.

For the rest of you, I’m with you, and I’m here to help you on your path to dating and happiness. That doesn’t mean I need to do the same thing. My life is fun, and I like it the way it is!

Want to know how I got to where I am today, and why it’s easier than you think for YOU to live the life of your dreams too?