I know where you’re coming from. Online dating isn’t always easy for a woman. You sign up, throw up what you think is a good profile, and within an hour your inbox is flashing like crazy. You jump back onto the laptop like an excited schoolgirl. Your Prince Charming has to be in here somewhere right?


If you wanted to see dozens of pictures of a man’s penis, or just wanted to strip naked on a webcam while some guy pleasures himself for two minutes then you’d be in business. The trouble is, you’re looking for a relationship, and none of these guys invading your inbox are what you’re looking for.You scratch your head, trying to work out where all the good-looking, honest men, who actually want a relationship and not phone sex are hiding. How would you feel if I told you some of it is YOUR fault?

That’s right. It could you be your fault you’re attracting the wrong men. The truth is, the majority of women don’t know how to write an online dating profile, and the result is frustration and disappointment. Now, today isn’t all about the pictures you post (although those are important too!) but about the style of writing you use on your dating profile. Here are 4 styles of profile guaranteed to turn men off, or attract the wrong kind of men.

1. The List Profile – This dating profile looks more like a shopping list than anything else. You list every single trait you hate in men. You describe everything you dislike about the male population, and threaten any man displaying these traits to stay the hell away from you.

You know what this tells me right away?

It tells me you’re the kind of woman who likes to break balls. You’re going to pick at every little thing your man does wrong, and you’re going to make him feel like he’s dating his Mom. The only men you’re going to attract with this profile are co-dependent men who want a Mom, not a girlfriend. Probably not what you’re looking for right?

2. The “Man Hater” Profile – This is written by the bitter, heartbroken woman, taking her angry revenge out on Match.com. You can hear the anger in her voice. You can imagine her bashing at the keys as she spills her fury on the keyboard.


What do I always say? Just because one guy cheated on you, doesn’t mean the next one will. Just because one guy let you down, doesn’t mean the next one will. Don’t take it out on every other guy that comes your way. It tells us you probably have trust issues. You’re probably the type of woman that’s going to keep checking our phone and pockets for evidence of cheating.

Not attractive!

3. The Disney Profile – Wow, this profile is great. You want to find the one. You want to get married within weeks. You want at least ten babies. And before you’re 50 you want to ride into the sunset for a lifetime of passion and romance. Now, don’t get me wrong. I love romance. I love connecting with a woman. But don’t get over excited!

Let me meet you first before I decide whether I want to marry you or not. When you write a Disney profile it tells me you’re outcome dependent. You’re dating with a goal in mind. You’re looking too far ahead, and you’re already creating a fantasy about who I am before you’ve met me. You’re not going to attract emotionally evolved, relationship ready men, because we don’t like the pressure.

4. The “I’m Fun Trust Me!” Profile – This is a mystery. This is the profile that says nothing except, “I didn’t really want to come on this site. My friends made me. I haven’t got round to writing this yet, but I’m a fun, down to earth girl. Write me!”

OK… less is more, and your dating profile is just there to interest me enough to message you, but you have to put something on there!

What happens if you don’t write anything?

All we have to go on is your picture. Guess what kind of men you’re going to have messaging you?

That’s right. You’re going to have an inbox full of Mr. Webcam and Mr. Masturbator. If that isn’t what you want, then write something on your profile!

Check out the video below, because I talk a lot more about dating profile no nos, and explain what to put on your dating profile if you want to attract evolved, attractive, relationship ready men!