Drunken SexIf you already subscribe to my newsletter (and if you don’t, you should subscribe at the top of this page) then you’ll have probably seen a similar message from me last week. But I feel it’s worth repeating because it’s so important.

Christmas is here, and New Year is around the corner. During all my years coaching men and women, I’ve learned that at the end of the year, people do what I call an inventory of their love life over the past year. Maybe this year hasn’t been good to you relationship-wise, or you haven’t met a man you’ve connected with yet. You start going to Christmas parties, and quite often, you’ll start to think to yourself, “What the hell. It’s been a while since I’ve had sex. I’m just going to let my hair down.”

 It’s right about then that the nerdy guy from accounting who makes suggestive comments to you all year, starts to look quite cute swaying under the mistletoe. Before you know it, you’re having end of year sex with someone you’d never normally sleep with.

I’m asking you from the bottom of my heart, don’t do it!

So what you haven’t met your dream guy yet, and it’s been a few months since you had sex?

You’ve waited this long for the right man to come along, don’t throw it away just because it’s the end of the year and you don’t care anymore. The reason I’m so passionate you avoid end of year sex with someone you’re not attracted to, isn’t that I don’t think women should enjoy their sexuality. In fact, those who read me regularly know that could be further from the truth.

The reason I want you to avoid sleeping with someone for the hell of it is that I’ve seen how bad it makes you feel. I’ve coached so many women who come January have to completely rebuild their confidence, because they feel like they let themselves down. They slept with someone they’d never normally hook up with, and now they feel bad about themselves.  I have so much respect for you as women, and I don’t want you to start the year on the wrong foot because of a drunken mistake.

If you do happen to “slip up” then don’t beat yourself up about it. The second Midnight comes on January 1st 2014, put it out your mind and start again. Just trust me. I have some amazing information coming your way next year, so whatever dry spell you might be experiencing, don’t just hop into bed with Joe from Accounting, or even worse, that guy from Match.com who looks nothing like his profile picture.