Freezing in the Moment By David Wygant

So we were talking about freezing in the moment – when you feel like your feet get stuck in concrete, and your mind is fluttering all over the place.

But step one is believing that you can do this. Step one is watching it, learning it. That’s why I tell guys all the time: if you can concentrate, and you can learn this stuff, and you can practice – the more practice you get, the less apprehension you will have.

It’s all about practice. A newbie called me up on the phone and said, “I want to learn how to do this in an hour.” I said to him, “fine. I can give you the foundation, but you have to learn it, live it, and keep building upon it.”

Nobody can change somebody in an hour. I can change something about you in an hour. I can take a newbie, and make them a newbie in stage one. I can take somebody who is average to sometimes really good and I can make them REALLY good. I can take somebody who is really good, and make them excellent. I’ll always take you up a level from where you are. Sometimes I’ll take you up two levels, but the key is to really be able to do it on your own.

Practice as much as you can, all the time. Step two, when you freeze up – you can do a couple of different things. One – I like the visualization of picturing her naked. I really do. That will create a very playful smile on your face. I tell women to picture men as a big life like version of Scooby Doo.
That way they can realize how goofy men are and smile at us with a playful smile.

Because then I’d walk over, and I’d be cracking myself up. If that doesn’t work for you, write something really funny in your Blackberry, or on your cell phone – make it a screen that you can get to. Read it really quickly, and make sure it makes you smile.

Maybe it’s a picture of something – maybe you need a visual picture of a hot naked woman that makes you smile. Maybe it’s a picture of you with an ex-girlfriend that’s really hot, and you look really good with her – you put that picture up. Whatever makes you feel good.

If you create a warm emotion, you’re going to be able to create an emotion when you talk to her. You’ll be able to talk to her without that apprehension. Watch: right now I’m going to look at my Blackberry, and here’s something from a woman that I’m hanging out with – see the smile? I got this smile, because I’m thinking of something pleasurable.

So then I walk over with an observation – and I’m just thinking pleasurable thoughts. I say, “hey, I like your hat.” And you just do it like that. You just said something very visually nice, and you said something that was mellow, and you got a visual impact.
When you speak you speak with power and conviction in your voice. You own your words and speak with no fear.
Get an audio recorder and work on your delivery.

So that gets rid of that apprehension. But you have to keep practicing that all the time. You have to practice that look, and that whole thing. And you have to keep approaching. But if you approach five or six women a day, that apprehension is just naturally going to go away. You’re not going to care anymore what she thinks.

Client 1: I know what you mean. You mentioned a lot of stuff. When you gave me that hat to try on, and told me to ask her how it looked on me, it was one of those moments – whoa. And you can’t do anything. You can’t remember anything.

But I did it. And I’m excited to get over this, to practice this. So I did it, and I feel like the next time I am going to have a little bit more control over what I do, and be able to have a little bit more fun with it. And it’s going to be easier – at least in that situation. I’ve done it, and I know that I can do it again.

David: Because you saw that it works! It worked for you. She went over and she didn’t take your head off. She didn’t bite, she didn’t kick you in the nuts, and she didn’t tell you to fuck off. She was actually nice.

Client 1: It’s not that I expected any of these things – it’s more subconscious.

David: But you’re subconsciously thinking it.

Client 1: I suppose, yes.

David: Yeah, you’re not thinking it, or saying it to yourself. You’re not thinking, oh my god, she’s going to take my head off. But it’s subconscious programming.

Client 1: Yeah, or I’m more afraid because I have absolutely no idea what is going to happen or how she is going to react.

Client 2: Yeah, for me it’s more that I have no idea what is going to happen.

Client 1: I think that’s important because we could write a whole separate blog about the topic of assumptions and expectations.

Client 2: Do you remember the thing we talked about this morning?

David: Yes, assuming things. Alright, let’s start with that.

Man, that’s a tease, right? And do you know what’s great? If I’m teasing you right now, and you want more… think about it, if you’re reading this and thinking, fuck, man, what an ass – he’s not giving us more! He’s not telling us about assumptions right now. How does that make you feel?

You love it. You loved to be teased.

Do you know why you loved to be teased? Because you’re a human being. Human beings like their minds to be intrigued and teased, that’s what it’s all about.

So think about it – think about how annoying this is going to be. I might post the next blog, what – two weeks later? Maybe a week later? It depends, it will be whenever I feel like it. I’m going to pull it out of the archives, I’m going to listen to it, and I’ll think, damn, this is good, I want these guys to hear this.

What a tease. But you know what? That’s what you do with women, too. You tease them. Foreplay starts in a woman’s mind, so you want to tease the hell out of her.

So we just had some good mental foreplay!

Todays video is all about how to meet women right now….tonight!