Here it is.
It’s the weekend.
Saturday.
Are you doing everything that you want to do this weekend?
Are you spending it with friends that you really want to spend it with?
Are you going to be active—reading, going to the beach, going to the pool, hanging out?
Are you doing the things that are most important to you?
Or are you doing what a lot of people do: chasing the weekend.
A lot of people are just going out there and just chasing the weekend, hoping that they’ll meet people, hoping that they’ll connect, hoping that they’ll be in a social situation that will give them the results that they want.
But, the weekend is not about that.
If you do what you love in life, you’ll attract people into your life.
It really does work that simply. When you do what you love in life, you’ll actually attract people who are doing the same, exact thing, so you’ll have common things to talk about, and then it’ll be really simple to go get a date, because you’ll want to hang out with somebody who’s doing the things that you want to do.
That’s what the Power of the Weekend is all about. It enables you to go and do the things that you want to do, and it enables you to go and attract the people into your life, instead of just chasing.
You won’t find me on a weekend drinking with friends. I find that boring.
“Let’s go out and drink!”
Well, what if I’m not thirsty?
Why do I need to alter my head to go and have a good time? Why do I need to drink? Why do I need to go stand in a bar or a lounge and suck down a cocktail or two, when I really don’t like to talk to people who are drunk?
You get my point? The weekend is all about creating exactly what you want from your life.
I’d prefer to go to a juice bar. Hang out and go get some juice. Talk to people about being healthy.
I do what I love and that enables me to have conversations with people who are like-minded––people who are just like me in ways that I want them to be.
Here’s the deal: If you’re a smoker and a drinker, you’ll never be with someone who’s a non-smoker and a non-drinker, so for you, going out drinking, partying, is your cup of tea—you’ll be able to go meet somebody exactly like you.
If you’re a workout guy, and you go and you hike and go to the gym, you should be meeting women in those situations, because you enjoy doing that. You’ll never be comfortable with somebody who sits on her ass all day long and doesn’t work out. You’re not going to push her into a gym that she doesn’t want to be in, nor are you going to get her to hike up hills and mountains and everything else when she doesn’t want to do that.
So I want you to look at every social situation that you’re in this weekend and only do things that you love and then look around and start connecting with other people that are doing the exact same thing.
That is what the Power of the Weekend is all about.
Your videos are fine… (I think it sucks to record people without letting them know, anyways…) Your audio products work and you make a lot of sense there. But here, in written words, you excel. Your writing is clear and you deliver on your points.
This one hits me straight in the middle of my belief and I am just nodding even now while writing this comment:)
Yes, attending the (for you) wrong events sucks, especially so popular weekend parties (my case). People are very rarely real persons there and they are unaware of themselves-therefore simply fakes.
Thanks, I think over the stuff I love to do and already have few ideas how to involve more people into it and share all that vibe.
Nice post!
Thanks
The power of just going out in everyday life!
I’m in the process of moving my mom to another location. So I had to go to a couple of stores to pick up some things. First I went to the hardware store. Mostly guys in there, I suggest you single women go there! I went to the dollar store, a beautiful gal was at the checkout waiting for her balloons to be filled. I was behind mom and her sister along with her daughter who kept going back and forth talking to her mom about how she has to buy her own makeup now…lol
The beautiful gal walked out pretty quickly. I bought my stuff along with a donation for the kids whose parents are serving over seas. I get into the car and right next to me, sitting in the car is a beautiful chick. I felt like it was the holiday not the weekend! lol We stared at starring at each other, she had a “puppy eye look” then I smiled and waved to her, she turned away, looking down as I pulled away.
Just a couple of hours later, I pull out to go somewhere, and there were 4 beautiful gals in their cars, two in each car going in different directions. Two of them staring at me intensely while the other two glanced. I tell you it would been quite a feat to start and conversation in the middle of the intersection, lucky there was no accident! lol
It was a day not to beat myself up but to be reminded of all the abundance that is out there, just waiting to socialize!
Isn’t it funny how the best days are the ones where we get out of our own damn way and just enjoy what’s going on.
And I hope you were moving your mom to a new, better place.
David – your blogs are challenging me lately. I am thinking about why I do the things that I do. I have “rules” in my head about where is okay to meet men and take men, and where it is not okay.
There are some places that I keep as my “safe havens”. I will not share these places with any man. Lap swimming at the local pool, particularly if I am swimming with a club, and surf lifesaving clubs are off limits.
Nor will I ever date men that I meet from these places. It’s about not messing in my own nest. It’s also about needing my own space and time to myself.
That is a very narrow minded, closed way of thinking. Why on earth would you “limit” your possibilities. Esepecially when the types of men you would meet would be doing exactly the types of things you enjoy…Very odd and illogical.
I understand this concept of have your things that you enjoy..and making sure you spend time doing the things you love to do..
In my relationship and even before then, I always loved my zumba classes, its all ladies anyway..And it is my little “haven” of doing nothing but putting all my focus into dancing, and zumba and enjoying music and celebrating with other women..
However, I would say though keep your heart and mind open everywhere, because those are the times where you never know..It really is great practice keeping your heart open at all times to everyone, all the time.. especially in the places where you are doing the things you love..
And if you were to find someone there, it doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy and love each other and spend your own time to yourself to regroup..That is healthy..
Leanne, I really get where you’re coming from. When I’m at the gym I’m in my own world. It’s my time to focus on me and on my workout.
Now, I don’t have any hard and fast rules about not meeting people at the gym I’m just in my own world there.
When you go to these places are you actively thinking about NOT meeting men? Or are you just focused on yourself and your own stuff? Having your own time is healthy and improves all the other aspects of your life.
People get very confused when I don’t want to hang out on the weekends. Why wouldn’t I want to pack every ounce of fun into two nights? I’m sorry, but I do a lot during the week, and I need the weekend to myself so I can decompress.
I so wanted to do a lot for my weekend like hit up some Spanish bars and hit on some HB’s there.I procrastinated and talked myself out of a would’ve been good weekend.
What did you say to stop yourself from going out and having a good time?
I go to the gym to work out, not to meet people, if I do have a small talk with someone that’s fine. I have no problem with a woman sitting home while I go to the gym. The gym isn’t my hang out.
Hmm I love this article..It felt inspiring to read..the power of the weekend yes..I loved my weekend..did everything I wanted to do..
I went to a fair and they had a bluegrass band playing, I admit its not music I normally like hehe
But they were good, the guys were really into playing their instruments and it was cute, there were like 3 people watching, I actually got up and started dancing lol I felt good about opening my mind and doing something I wouldn’t normally do..(dance to music I don’t like)
I guess I looked like I was having so much fun, more people came over to watch them play lol aww
Wow…David, you lay it out like nobody else ive seen. say it how it is, and own it…you live by your own words. thanks for this blog, it is a true source of inspiration for me.
I’m usually guilty of going out on the Saturday afternoon, just in the effort to socialise because I haven’t been going out and meeting people during the week.
And, the less you go out during the week, means the more pressure there is to meet people on the weekend so you end up conveying an energy of neediness.
So, I think it’s important to try and do what you love throughout the week. Get to the gym in the evening if you can, try and out a new cafe on your lunch break. And, make sure you are open to conversations, and not so focused on getting what you want and leaving without talking to anybody!
This is great advice; makes total sense, Ben!
TO ANYONE WHO IS DOING ANYTHING LESS THAN WHAT THEY LOVE:
Once chance. One chance is all you get on this planet.
If, like me, you can’t simply drop everything to do what you love, at least begin moving towards it.
As a quote, ‘Life is a journey’ is useless. ‘Life is a journey, enjoy the ride’. Whatever. ‘Life is a bowel movement, enjoy the release.’
No, life is a journey from WHERE YOU ARE to WHERE YOU WANT TO BE. If you are not making that journey, ask yourself this:
WHERE ARE YOU GOING??
Change course and set sail for wherever it is you want to be in life, you will find ‘the journey’ a lot easier to enjoy.
