What an amazing weekend in London.
The bootcamp just ended and as always i am sad to see the guys go. Someone once asked me what type of guys take my bootcamps?
Do you know what my answer was.
Guys who become my future friends!!
So here’s to a great weekend that i just spent with my future friends.
Thanks to:
Justin
Pete
Re Pete
Pradeep
Sarish
Clive….wherever you vanished 2
Chris
Ameet
Contstantin
Hakan
Ashley
Rogerio
And a huge thanks to my new ace coach in London Adam C and my coach in training Markus from Austria for all the help and amazing job they did with the guys this weekend.
And of course the weekend would not have been a huge success without the insight from my friend Eddie and a cameo from one of my ex clients Chris who joined us for the Sunday night dinner!!
Looking forward to my next bootcamp in NYC and all the future friends that i will meet!
One other thing I love about London is that I get to watch the NFL games late at night!!!
Onto to today’s topic…something that we went over in detail this weekend.
What is it with every guy and the street approach? Why does every guy want to get every single woman that walks by?
Here is why: because these guys don’t have an abundance mentality to begin with.
The fact is that I don’t care about a lot of the women that walk by me on the street because I can go out and meet women anywhere, any place, any time.
Why am I going to approach them when I’m totally intruding in their personal space? You don’t really want to do that.
Picture when you’re walking down the street in a rush. You don’t want some stranger walking over to you and breaking your concentration – you’re in a hurry. You’re trying to make it to a meeting, and you’ve got some person trying to open you up with some lame conversation. You don’t really want that.
What about when you’re hanging out with your buddies, just having a good time, and some stranger puts themselves right in your face. You don’t want that either.
There is only way that you’re going to work street game, or whatever you want to call it. For instance, today we were walking down the street in Santa Monica and this woman was walking towards and tripped – she literally almost fell on her face.
So as she walked by, I looked at her and said, “I saw that!” She said, “aw, man, I was hoping that nobody saw that,” and then we started talking.
It all comes back to the same thing: if you can observe something that will get her to stop walking, go for it. But if you see somebody and you’re very in tune with the universe – why would you stop someone who’s in a hurry?
You don’t need them all. You don’t have enough time to date them all anyway! And you’re only looking to find that amazing connection. There are plenty of women to sleep with and have fun with.
You don’t need them all. It’s all about abundance.
If any of you want to do some one on one coaching this week in London let me know…i have some time free on Tuesday and Wednesday.
Here is a great way to meet women on the street. Use the Tree Guy to help.
I’m still completely overwhelmed that this amazing weekend is over, and at the dawn of an incredible new outlook and horizon.
Everyone at the bootcamp was fantastic, and the people there I was truly touched by know who they were.
I learned that few things are more sweet and fulfilling than being in the moment with a potential new friend, and the NLP sessions on Saturday rocked my world, despite hearing many prior to the BC.
Warm wishes to everybody, and I know we’re all gonna push each other on the group and blog section to their absolute potential in relationships, health, wealth and other endeavours, whether its in 5, 10, or 20 years time.
i just miss a perfect opertunity with a best buy girl again. i dont know why i keep making excuse to not talk to her. i been seeing her 3 time already and she already gave me the smile and eye contact, and already show me that she want to be approach. but why can i do it. a few hour ago at best buy i saw her and she was turning off the tv. why couldn’t i just go up to her and say ”hey i been seeing u around here lately and i was shy. so tonight i saw u again and im not let another opertunity pass me by. so what ur name” why can i just walk up to her. now i beat myself over it .man i shoulda talk to her. i think i lose her forever cuz now she know that im not a man and im weak.
Don’t beat yourself up over it. I used to do the same thing. Get used to speaking your mind/ talking about the obvious things with girls (and people in general) everywhere. Even if you say something and the conversation doesnt go anywhere, you’re still doing something about overcoming shyness. Take all the small victories. David has talked about all these things before, and i think its great advice.
David,
So I work at starbucks and Im 18. Everyday hot girls are coming in and some of them will flirt with me so its easy to be playful and friendly right back. Others will be all business and in their own head so I dont really say anything to them. So with my situation, do you see it as I cant really make any moves since they’re on a mission? What are some things you would say to get a conversation going with the ones who dont seem to talk?
Sometimes the ones who look like they dont want to talk are the ones who end up talking to me the most! I dont feel comfortable asking or giving digits at work with my stupid apron on (lol) and with 50 people around me, but outside of work i do fine.
Thanks man, Dan
PS- Come on up to the SF area and ill give you free drinks!
well i was thinking of doing bootcamp with david but i guess im gonna have to save up for maybe like 6 more month. with college now im dead broke. but i will try to make it by summer of next year.
yeah, David’s bootcamp is not just about becoming a more powerful man. but you also meet friends that you will like to see over and over again for the rest of your life!
As for street approach, i believe rich will have a nice story to share about his last wednesday night!
That was a blast!!!
I got so scared and terrified at first… ha
Almost like I first talked to that girl in Amsterdam and my face looked like a tomato
But then that one opportunity arises where you know JUST what to do, to have a small conversation. And you finally start feeling good about yourself, and when you’re feeling good about yourself, it no longer matters and you’re going like dynamite!!
I feel so empowered I feel like I drank three V’s again…
Pete
Dan,
One of the most important things I learned this weekend may help you. Here it is:
In order to allow someone to open himself/herself up, you share of yourself. I saw this happen in front of my eyes time after time. Adam would speak to someone in his big, hearty enthusiasm, and the person would remain rather cold. He then simply shared a little bit about himself on the same topic, with warmth and VERY animated. BOOM. Smile, conversation, connection.
Basically you alternate between giving of yourself (story) and inviting people to open up (question/challenge). Now that I can have a conversation like this, I actually rock at IM, chat, and e-mail conversations! But a real conversation is the most challenging and exciting…
There ya go. Practice this with me
Pete
That was a blast!!!
I got so scared and terrified at first… ha
Almost like I first talked to that girl in Amsterdam and my face looked like a tomato
But then that one opportunity arises where you know JUST what to do, to have a small conversation. And you finally start feeling good about yourself, and when you’re feeling good about yourself, it no longer matters and you’re going like dynamite!!
I feel so empowered I feel like I drank three V’s again…
Pete
[sorry if double-posted]
Random Pete – Justin told us what you did with the blocked toilet – what the hell were you thinking?
Warm up Pete – why didn’t you stop him?
I thought the sight of your feet on Saturday night was bad enough.
My feet are killing me after 4 day’s of non stop walking and only one blister. The lack of sleep only started to get to me Tuesday morning.
David gave me a complete makeover on Monday. I’ve got rid of my old clothes, until I get the leg length on my new jeans altered all I have is shorts to ware.
The boot camp has impacted me profoundly – I can honestly say that I am no longer the same person that I was on Friday night.
Going through David’s products is one thing but actually experiencing everything he talks about – that blows your mind.
The Eat where we had lunch on Saturday was funny. The girls behind us spent half the time just staring at us instead of talking to the guys they were with.
The Dinner at whole foods was even better, group of girls having a hen night on the next table while all 16 of us were huddled around the table eating and talking to each other having a good time. Then at closing time we were invited to the wedding and then back to their place as long as David striped for them.
Hi guys. Just read some of your comments. I’m glad everyone has progressed alot from the first day i met everyone. You guys are all great and i hope we will all have some kind of reunion in the future.
Rogerio – thats only one of the stories! FYI I washed my hands thoroughly after the ordeal!
I bought a cool pair of Vans today and I’m gonna get the sexy boots Eddy had from Aldo. So no more filthy flipflops and falling apart Vans for me..
Really I feel like I’ve gone from bumbling idiot at the introduction to being a confident, powerful man this week at university. I’ve absolutely no problem with the majority of approaches. And while i may not be scoring phone numbers or dates, I’m working on the building blocks, and I know I’ll eventually have the confidence to score a sexy surfer/raver girls number and have a great relationship.
Absolutely incredible weekend, I dont have a laptop at the moment, but im going to get round to emailing for a client list so we can create a group on facebook and understand our sticking points etc and share our successes
Rogerio,
LOOOL. Random Pete and Constantin are so crazy I love these guys :p
How about eating the art at the gallery? Because it looked like truffles? :p
I was sleeping while Turbo Pete was operating our toilet…
Pete!
So you finally got your new pair of shoes! Grats! And not a moment too soon
Great to hear how amazing you are doing and that you are building things up step by step.
I wish I was in a fresh new university right now instead of an office internship, but that is NO excuse! I’m keeping the energy going and improving baby step at a time
Maybe we should keep going by ‘Pete’ and no one will be able to keep us apart on the blog!
Suresh – really enjoyed your company and wish i spent a bit more time talking to you. Hopefully around christmas will be a good time for all and anyone outside the country can crash at mind. So if anyone is straggling behind we can all boost each other back to the same state. Been hit with a downer tonight but i know negative emotions are just part of life, and its how we use them to our advantage or disadvantage is how we move on in life.
Thanks pete. I enjoyed your company on our last day. You have a great head at such a young age, which is brilliant. Yes, we should all meet up during the christmas period and try out speed dating or lock and key event. Do you have Constantin number/email address? he always made me laugh. top bloke. How comes you was hit with a downer?
Suresh – thanks man! Thats a massive compliment coming from you, really appreciate it. Ive got to admit it came from obsessive, massive amounts of reading and researching, but thank you all the same.
E-mailed Dave for the list (or you could all just post here…)
My address is peterwcox@hotmail.co.uk. Great idea for speed dating, talk about overkill though! 10+ DW graduates!
Havent got Constantin’s no. or email, but it’ll get sorted soon. Haha. And yes, awesome guy. Got lots of potential! I’ll keep checking into my uni computer every day to update all of this, and get it sorted (no laptop).
Downer came from a little small thing that got on my nerves, but I’m back on track now. Made me remember how a tiny gust of wind can really throw you off course, but some great advice is to just ride it out like a wave, and get back into approach mode. Ty to Justin for getting me back in!
Pete – I suggested to Suresh we all go to an event just to crash it, take over and have a good time, not actually do any speed dating.
Pete if your going to get a laptop get a Toshiba their rock solid (speaking from experience in IT where we had a pool that were lent out to hundreds of users a year not one ever stopped working). If you can get one with extended warranty included even better. If you treat the laptop right you wont need it, just don’t take it surfing lave it on land.
I was also down on Sunday but made myself interact with people. On Monday I broke down completely and then went on to have a brilliant 2 days with Ameet, Pradeep and David as well as Adam, Hakan and Eddie who couldn’t believe the pony hair sneakers I bought.
Hey guys.
It’s fantastic to hear you all have improved so much from the bootcamp. If anyone fancies coming with me on day game missions just email me at justin_rickard@hotmail.com and I’ll try to find time. I’ve found myself becoming a LOT more playful and funny, if any of you guys think this is something you feel you need to improve on then come and hang out with me for a day.
Now more importantly, lets talk about me
Since the bootcamp I have felt totally different inside. I feel relaxed and comfortable in my own skin. I have been able to articulate myself better (even with a cold which I couldn’t do before) and come out with comedy and whit all day long (if I may say so myself). My mind is more relaxed at work and as a result I am understanding how things work better, and when explaining complex issues I am making more sense as I am no longer panicking inside. I’m making my boss laugh quite a lot too!
I have no approach anxiety any more. It’s gone altogether.
I have been meeting people in every day life, two women in particular on the train and in a bookshop (as a result I had to buy a book I didn’t even want so it didn’t look like I had walked in there to take her number. however it was a prop for conversation and one for future contact). As David would probably say, I’m “book guy”. She’s putting up a bit of resistance as she’s the sort of person who will make men work for her to prove themselves, which is fair enough in my opinion. I’m that man lol
I am going to Spittlefields market tomorrow, its going to be CARNAGE!!!
I’ll let you know how it goes, a full day of it should yield some results!
Adam kind of summed up what he does when he talks to girls at the end of the bootcamp when we were almost collapsing of exhaustion in the market on Sunday. And this really hit home with me so I’ll share it. Don’t think of this as a script, they are not in any particular order either.
1. Ask the deep questions about emotions experienced, showing genuine interest
2. Find positive qualities based on what she said and complement her on them.
(if you like something about them, tell them. it also shows you are listening)
3. Tell a story relating to what she talked about or relating to the emotion talked about
4. Reveal a bit about yourself
(if early on for example it could be why you’re here, later on it could be about how you grew up or what your life goals are (if you don’t have any, get some as it shows you have your sh*t together lol) ).
After having a decent conversation, just think if you did these four things. If you missed any, try to include them into your next conversation. I have found very attractive girls responding very well after doing all these throughout the conversation. They’re great training wheels.
Hope this helps
Justin
Pete that IS overkill indeed :p
That will make some people very happy
Justin,
I’ll be around whenever I am in London! We’ll have fun and visit some more of those amazing London markets…
And Whole Foods.
And… why don’t I just emigrate?
Thanks a lot for sharing your experiences cuz you’re on fire my man!
To be honest I was feeling rather jealous last weekend of how amazing you were doing. I know – don’t compare yourself to others right? But let me just be honest here
However, I kept it up and now I’m ONTO it! It’s a fucking blast!!! And an addiction already…
I know where you’re coming from when you say the anxiety has gone. It nearly has for me. When you’re feeling so amazing and knowing you can talk to anyone anywhere… who the fuck cares
It’s utter freedom.
All this… in seven days??? I love it!!
Pete just told me he’s also on a roll and I’d love to hear from the others!
Thanks Justin – and Adam! – for sharing Adam’s explanation of what he does. I missed that and I’m still waiting on the audios
I actually got most of these down by watching and listening during the weekend, then getting out all week and and trying that myself. But this really puts the missing spices in my conversations!!!
Utter joy,
Re Pete
wtf I never repeat myself ^^
Now we know why David is making a member’s area…
To keep bootcamp students from taking over a blog.
I just the comments that Justine had left and im very proud of how each and one of you have grown since our first meeting. Justine, you were the diamond stud when i watched you in action, especially when you were trying out the red scarf. You looked and felt very confident, and had no fear with girls at all. You even looked sharp with the clothes you bought from the market. I can understand why pete felt a bit jealous, but pete did fantastic himself. Has anyone kept in contact with Adam during the week? ive called him 4 times, left a voice message and sent two text messages and he still hasnt contacted me back. I find it pretty rude. Rogerio told me he wanted to talk to me about something, thats why i called him.
Guys keep up the good work and keep working on the ladies!
hey suresh
he has been dealing with some personal issues this week after the bootcamp and he will get in touch with you.
no need to leave another message….he has been crazy with a deadline that he had to take care of.
how are you?
hi david. just sent you an email. im ok. lonely as usual. did you get home safely?
i did get home safe and sound very tired when i got home i had a brutal time falling asleep when i was in london.
i saw your email.
jeans….cool shirts.
have you been to topman?
or to h and m?
you can get some fun shirts and some great things there for a budget.
also i would look into some shoes as well.
rogerio can help you find some things he really knows what looks great since he went shopping with me. i would also bring justin with you.
he also has a great sense of style.
you need to look younger and it will really help you. i would also cut your hair……
what kinda hairstyle would suit me? how old do i look? i agree about rogerio, he certainly has a great sense of style. i ususally buy my clothes from a cheap market stall or i go to sportworlds and buy t shirts and tracksuit bottoms. i havent been to topman or h and m.
hows your dog?
you look 30.
if you get your hair done right you will look your age.
track suit bottoms does not look like you care what people think and women will not be attractted to a guy in track suit bottoms.
jeans
cool trainers
not running shoes.
fun shirts that show women that you are young hip and fun.
take rogerio with you
i forgot to ask you david, would you be able to list everyones email address/numbers, so that we can all contact each other and also for when we all meet up.
suresh
dog is great she was very happy to see me last night when i got home.
i am working on a bootcamp list and will have it our to everyone on monday
30? man, i thought i look about 19-21. i even thought i looked younger than pete and justine. girls say i look super young. no problems i will contact rogerio and will arrange sometime.
whn you smile you look young when you all serious you look 30!!!
david, im glad to hear your dog is great. with the bond you have , i’m not surprised she missed you. everyone from your bootcam miss you too. i think your dogs name is daphine.
wow. am i that bad?. wow. im a little shocked, but appreciate your honesty. thank you. next thing i have to lose the glasses to make myself even more younger.
her name is daphne good memory!!!
i miss you guys i really had a great time with all of you last weekend.
you guys were my favorite bootcamp!!!
not bad at all……you are a great person but you need to let others see you as i saw you.
thats all…..
you need to let yourself out!!!!!
hair and clothes will make a huge difference
i was joking about the ‘am i that bad’. it was suppose to come out in a humorous way. i always let myself out, but i guess it needs alot of work. i agree with what your saying. i need to comeback looking super sharp like the rest of the gang from bootcamp.
thanks david, i sent texts to the guys i had numbers for, saying how i blessed i felt to have met great people.
yes you need to look as sharp as the other guys….when you do you will see how everything changes for you.
its all part of the new you!!
i agree. just have to stay strong and continue to practice what i learnt during bootcamp.
yes that is the exact mindset needed
i mediate twice a day which helps my mind to relax. i also listen to alot of music, mainly 70’s disco/funk.
thanks david. your a living legend!
i was suppose to say meditate. i saw marcus on youtube. man, he’s a completely different guy. fantastic.
thanks you just out a huge smile on my face!!!
i was about to go meditate as well……some yoga and deep meditation before i go out!!
you are a great man yourself suresh
i know crazy stuff see all it takes is work.
you will be the next markus
ok. i will let you go now. take care and have a great time where ever you are!
i dont know about that. hes about 6ft4. im a pint size guy. id have to stand on 10 yellow pages to reach his height lol.
Suresh,
Thank you for the kind comments. It’s strange how during the bootcamp I didn’t feel I was doing quite as well as you guys thought I was. I was impressed by watching how you all were applying David’s teachings, each conversation you had got a little better each time.
In future please don’t put an e on the end of my name, that makes it a woman’s name lol
I think a good practice for you would be to use MSN Instant Messaging with me (or any of the other guys), me pretending to be a girl. Then after each comment I’ll give a suggestion of what you could have said. This will allow you to come up with funny whitty comments quicker and quicker until you’ll have it during conversations. It’s all long-term training. Every day is prescious so why not start asap?
Suresh, we all started from different levels. I had been actively talking to girls since 16, at 20 I was making many many approaches night after night at university nightclubs. This all set me up for the bootcamp to add some finishing touches as I learned so much from doing this. Although you started from a slightly lower experience level with regards to talking to girls, you will learn a lot quicker than I did if you put the effort in. If you have free time, just pop out to the food shop and just make small talk, you’ll get more and more comfortable until it goes completely. Then it will be the most fun you’ve ever had.
Justin
Justin
Suresh,
David’s right about the clothes especially the shoes, every where I go women just keep looking at me. Before the boot camp it probably would have freaked me out – now I’m getting a high off of it.
I’ll be more than happy to go shopping with you. I’m going to keep the glasses maybe not the ones I wore to the boot camp but I’ll certainly be getting some funky ones to use as a prop.
Justin is right, we all started from different positions and stages in our lives. Everyone is different so everyone’s development is going to be different. It took real courage to get yourself to the boot camp and to take part, be proud of yourself you’ve done what the vast majority of people would never do.
I thought that I would have been a nervous wreck on the days leading up to the boot camp as well as during. But that didn’t happen – I was completely calm, felt at ease but most importantly I was happy that I was achieving another part of my goal – that of changing my life completely this year.
Remember by attending the boot camp you planted a seed within yourself – David, Markus, Adam, Eddie and Hakan (with his hypnosis session) came along with a dumper truck full of Miracle-Gro and dumped it on the seed. That seed of yours has a lot of issues to get past but once it does there will be no stopping you. Don’t believe me, then think back to Saturday when we kept having to look for you.
First thing I want you to do is get yourself a DVD called: My Neighbour Totoro. Watch it a couple of times when you first get it then when ever you feel down watch the DVD.
Next call me up and we’ll arrange a time to go shopping, if Justin or any of the other guys can come along even better.
Rogerio
Suresh – I wasn’t jealous…I was very much inspired by how well Justine (
) did that weekend. He’s gonna become a fuckin’ superstar at this, and call himself Natural Justin. 
We’ve been texting a bit this week, and his texts have really helped me.
Perfect example, in uni library now, went in with a weak hello to a staff member and only got a weak smile back. Who gives a shit? She was either bored, wasnt attracted to me, or I went in too weak. But I just did one of my 5 approaches today, and you can bet I’m going to dissect it again like everything else this week. Just had a deep conversation with a guy about London yesterday, and we’re gonna hang out a bit later tonight, fucking awesome guy.
At this stage, I do not care if I get numbers/lays/whatever. Its only important to me that I’m making small gains and building momentum, and the only way I can do this is practicing on an abundance of targets and getting out of my comfort zone.
Pete spot on, one step at a time.
Went shopping with my sister today, stopped at a shoe store where she wanted to try out some shoes to go with the jeans that I bought her (David I’m still getting the discounts – my sister was amazed).
Any way a cute shop assistant came over and we started talking about the shoes that my sister wanted, I started playing around asking if they would look good on me. We tried looking for a size 10 so I could try them out just for fun. Pity they didn’t have any as the socks that I had on were hilarious.
Went to Molton Brown later on and spent some time talking to the shop assistant trying out the different products. Ended up getting some free testers for myself and sister.
Rogerio
Excellent stuff I’m hearing. I’ve been working on my portfolio of new friends. Sometimes when I get the train now I get people waving at me, stopping me to say hi as I’ve talked to so many strangers and had cool conversations with them. I’d advise it as it is good practice for talking to those you want to try to get something out of. It’s fun having people you know around you more too.
You guys up for having a facebook group dedicated to our progress, including examples of pieces of magic we have or will come out with? It may help us see each others’ way of thinking. Pete told me one today, brilliant mate!
Who can be bothered to make it?
Justin,
Petes already created a facebook group called: David Wygant – Bootcamp Graduates
Can’t wait untill the forum is up and running.
Rogerio