First off, I’m going to come clean:

I have never used a hooker in my entire life and I’m damn proud of it.

I’m not against hookers—there are guys out there that need hookers.  They just can’t get laid and these women provide a service.

There are other guys out there–like a friend of mine—who’s just not into relationships. He says that if he can afford a high end hooker, he would, because he pays her to leave.

That’s what a lot of guys do.  They don’t want to deal with women.  Women frustrate them, women annoy them and they’re not open to it.  So they get a hooker and pay them to leave.

There are other guys that defend their addiction to hookers by calling them “girlfriend experiences”.

They go out to dinner with the hooker and they have fun with the hooker at dinner and she’s nice to him–really nice to him in every way, shape, or form—and then they go back and they have sex and she lingers a little bit afterwards and they talk and cuddle and therefore it’s the “girlfriend experience”.

Wake up.

That’s not a girlfriend experience.

You know what a girlfriend experience is?  A girlfriend comes over at 10:00 at night, snuggles up into bed with you, laughs, and you make love.

That’s right, there’s a big difference between screwing a hooker–who’s trying to get you come cum quickly—compared to gazing into the eyes of a woman that you’re connecting with emotionally that’s cool, fun, and fantastic.

And then you drift into your girlfriend’s arms and you may just cuddle your way to sleep. Oh, I’m sure the hooker cuddles with you for five or ten minutes, just like the baby nurse did in the hospital.  (And then she couldn’t wait to get away you’re your little screaming ass and pass you off to the mother.)

Hookers don’t give you a girlfriend experience.

Your girlfriend comes over and she lingers and she spends the next day at your house and you order in food and you walk and you talk and you have fun and you share things and you open up.

Hookers are for quitters.

Sure, there are a lot of married men that use hookers because they can’t screw their wives anymore.  They married the wrong type of woman.  They are no longer attracted to her anymore.

They don’t like the way their wife’s body looks anymore, so they get a hooker.  They go get a “happy ending” massage.

But I find single guys that are addicted to hookers are quitters.

They’re afraid to go out there and get into it.  They don’t believe that there are great women out there for them.  They don’t lead an abundant life style, and don’t believe that there are women out there that they can actually connect with and enjoy.

So then they rationalize the hooker, er…the “girlfriend experience”.

A client of mine said to me once, “My hooker tells me all the time that she would see me even if I didn’t pay her.”

Really?  Try that and see what happens.  It’s a business.  Their business is dicks. Their business is to get you off.

I’ve lived in Los Angeles; I’ve lived in New York City, and I know a lot of escorts.  They can’t wait to get the hell out of your house! No matter how much fun you think you think you’re having with them, you’re paying them and if you weren’t paying them, they wouldn’t be there with you.

Period.

The bottom line is hookers are a crutch—they really are. Sure, you got laid. Sure, you got off. You’re feeling better now. But what an empty feeling.

I’m after incredible experiences.

I want to feel like a King all day long, so I work my ass off and I do things that keep me expanding and growing.

It’s not easy; it takes courage and awareness, but it’s satisfying.

It’s the stuff life is made of.

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Let’s be honest here today, how many of you, have experienced hookers as substitute girlfriends?

Let’s talk about this today and let’s get raw and open.