I’d rather masturbate than have a one-night stand.
I know, atypical stance on the matter, but its true.
Let me tell you why: 
Firstly, my hand is not going to talk to me incessantly after we have sex.
Second, I won’t have that moment when I’m about to cum and I look into her eyes and I realize, “Holy shit, this a mistake!”
If I masturbate, I can just go right to sleep. No ifs, ands, or buts about it.
And third, I won’t have to talk with her, hang out with her, and pretend we like each other after the deed has been done.
One-night stands suck.
I haven’t had one in so long and I’m happy about it.
I used to love them. It was like a sport to me. I enjoyed it. I enjoyed slaying my prey and I enjoyed those moments of escape.
I was like an escape artist. I’d figure out many ways to leave and I never liked spending the night.
When you spend the night, you never get a good night’s sleep, and the whole time your bed is aching for you to come home because your buzz is wearing off—the buzz of the one-night stand, that is.
I don’t miss it. And for those of you who think you want it—consider how you really feel.
If you’re some physical dude that just wants to get off and have sex and you don’t really care about connecting—fine, I get it. I can understand why the one-night stand would be really good for you.
But for somebody who just dreams of having a one-night stand because you think it’s cool to have one or you want the validation that were you were able to bang a girl on the same night that you met her…let me tell you:
The “validation” isn’t worth it at all.
You’re just going to end up wanting to leave. You’re going to end up wanting to not be there and you’re going to end up feeling like shit.
Now I know a lot of you are chronic masturbators and you’re probably sick of jerking off.
But one-night stands are not the answer.
Why don’t you not think about getting laid and think about connecting. When you connect, sex is great. They blow one-night stands out of the water!
Seriously, I think one-night stands and three-ways are some of the most fucking over-hyped sexual experiences in the world.
Three-ways? Had one. Wasn’t exactly what I thought it would be. Did it open up my fantasy and satisfy me in ways I never thought? No, because all I was craving at the time that it happened was to be alone with the woman I was with and hoping the whole thing would be over.
Think about what you really want. Do you really want a one-night stand or do you just want to connect with a woman and have great sex and get to know her? Start setting an intention for who you are, what you’re about, and what you want, so you don’t have to have that validation-seeking awkward moment during your one-night stand.
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Now tell me some of your one-night stand experiences. Tell me how you managed to escape or maybe what you wanted to say to her at the end.
Let me know in the comments below.
From a woman’s perspective…
I’ve had one actual one night stand. I’ve had a few ‘we’ve gone through the 3-Date ritual so you don’t have to feel like a whore stands’ …all boils down to the same thing.
For a woman, you really don’t know each other well enough for the sex to be all that great. You might not even orgasm because he doesn’t know your body yet. So, it’s a rather frustrating experience. He gets off, falls asleep next to you and you’re still keyed up and can’t even get off because he’s RIGHT THERE.
It’s pointless.
Granted, it’s nice to feel another body. But it’s an emotionless experience and leaves you feeling empty in the end. They look at you with these dead eyes and hump away, in interesting new fashions with fascinating new noises. But…they don’t know you or really care to.
None of these experiences have made me feel bad about myself, mind you. I am a grown up and I did it on purpose. BUT. No more. I agree with David…I would much rather masturbate.
I hate one night stands with a passion. I totally agree with Dave on this one. I’ve had quite a few one night stands back in my old bartending days. Hated every one of them. But, when you are meeting women in a bar, or club, one night stands are what you generally get. Another reason I have no motivation to go out looking for women on Friday / Saturday night.
Yeah, I’m 100% with David and Melissa.
I’ve only had maybe one one-night-stand and that was one too many. David is right, it’s all ego/validation that you’re craving in the moment. And what does that do for you in the end? Nothing. It’s all BS. Connection is something we all want but are sociologically afraid I guess.
One night stands are not bad, and can be pretty fun, when you’re at a party with a bunch of people and everybody is drinking. But most of the time I’ve had a drunken one night stand with a woman I just met, it is some amazingly fun drunk sex. But the next day we are both feeling awkward of the whole situation. Lol its like we are both asking ourselves what did we get into and what’s going to happen next? To stop that from happening, ill just tell her something like this before we have sex: Listen, I’m not going to be your boyfriend, your counsellor, or your best friend. We are going into that bedroom to have some amazing casual sex, and I am going to give you the strongest orgasm you’ve ever had. Then grab her hand and take her to the bedroom
For the most part I would much rather get to know the woman before having sex with her. Because then I actually know what I’m getting into. Pun Intended.
I love mindfucking them. Meet her, connect with her emotions, and mindfuck her. After that she will literally rip your clothes off and rape you.
Goddamn I love women
Tim
I used to talk like that and its complete bullshit.
Heres the deal…
You may think that you have these magical sexual powers but there is no chance in hell you will give her the best orgasm of her life.
That from a woman takes a connection of the mind heart and body.
Your man speaking right now and thats it.
Sure you may fuck her good but give me that same woman and have a connection with her and the orgasm you give her will look like mark sanchezs passing stats:)
“Mark sanchez’s passing stats”
Hahaha.. I can’t believe hs went there. lol.
Prediction : Cincinnati WILL dominate Pittsburgh this weekend, and lock up a playoff wildcard slot.
Mark sanchezes passing states eh? hahaha now that’s skill. Do I smell a challenge?:)
But you’re right, building a connection is a lot more fun, and the sex is 1000x better!
Listen, I dont have any magical sexual powers, but I do have this stuff called alcohol and weed:)
Just in case you didn’t know David, it is extremely easy to have a one night stand with women when everybody is getting drunk and high lol. Especially when I am in college, all of the girls are 21 years old, and they are literally describing how they want to feel my dick inside them, and begging me to fuck them.
Idk……….. maybe that’s cheating;)
I think David would probably agree with me on this one. Getting back to the one night stand aspect, as Tim said “Listen, I dont have any magical sexual powers, but I do have this stuff called alcohol and weed:)”
Why would you want to have sex with a totally hot woman, and use alcohol and weed, so that the magical experience may or may not be remembered. We’re talking about giving her the best orgasm possible right? Wouldn’t a man best achieve that sober? Just sayin’.
Totally agree with David!
If its good the first time and she starts building a connection with you, it’ll just get better and better. I believe for a girl sex is 50% in the mind, and she won’t get that from a total stranger.
Also one night stands can develop into a successful relationships.
Thanks, David. I was about to tell him the same thing. If a man tells me he’s going to give me the ‘orgasm of my life’ I feel compelled to tell him, ‘Thanks, but I gave myself 6 fantastic ones before I hit the shower this morning…I’m pretty much set.’
That being said, women are really not as interested in sexual promises because more often than not, they fall flat…especially if there’s drinking involved….And, we don’t really care! Giving me a sexual promise is like giving me lingerie on my birthday. It’s a gift for you- not me.
Now…promise me you’ll come over and paint my wall or fix my garbage disposal…ooohhh, baby. Now we’re talking.
Agreed Melissa – I typically roll my eyes when a man is going to give me the best orgasm of my life. Alway big talk !!
Dave, you’re very right – if you connect with a woman through her heart, you will be yours.
I’ve never told a woman that I was going to give her the orgasm of her life. Can’t even imagine myself saying something like that.
You gave yourself six orgasms before you hit the shower?! I could only gave myself one. But mine was a real blast! :p
Sorry, I really can’t resist bad jokes. It’s a weakness I have. Whenever I feel one coming I just have to spew it right out.
Melissa, Damn girl, I love you already
LOL!
Thanks for keeping it straight. I agree with you and David, as I tend to find out that he is right on the money about what he says.
Who wants drunk sex with a hot girl? It’s all about connection anyway. I wanna know I matter to a woman, as she matters to me.
What good is a connection that lasts for a few hours, maybe all night? It’s like the older generation usually says “feed a man a fish and he eats one meal but teach him how to catch his own fish, and he can eat any time he fish.”
I personally feel that a one night stand with any woman, Melissa, is like saying to her “You’re OK to have sex with, that’s as far as it goes.”
Melissa that is sooo true.I have gotten lucky on more than one occasion because of my handyman skills!
Maybe other people have figured out how to do it, but I’ve found that looking for one night stands distracts you from finding a woman to build a real, deep connection with.
So glad the Jets dumped Mark Sanchez! I’m a Patriots fan and hate the Jets with a passion along with all teams New York.
I do however feel bad for the Jets that they have to deal with such terrible players. I would love to see Darrell Revis come to New England but I doubt that will ever happen.
I like the Benglas over Pittsburgh though, I think they can upset.
Anyone se the Patriots 49er’s game? That was a great fight by the Pats, too bad they turned over the ball but, it happens when you play in the rain. Sometimes you need to lose in order to win.
Doesn’t need to be a big upset. They only have Pittsburgh fav. by 3 points, and that’s just because they are at home. Cincinnati has a history of beating Pittsburgh at Heinz field. It’s going to be a good game, regardless. It’s a MUST WIN for both teams. Cincinnati has momentum, and Pittsburgh has home field advantage. Cincinnati has a better record going in though, and except for that close loss to Dallas, all of the Bengals recent wins have been blowouts. I’m looking foreward to tomorrow.
Pittsburgh can’t seem to play agains’t middle of the road teams. I’m pulling for the Bengals.
John
Your Bengals won!
Big Ben threw an INT and blew it lol
Pats played awful and had way too many starters out on defense, but still not an excuse. Pats looked very beat up and the Jags were playing for their lives.
SF lost, they looked beat up too. I just sat back and laughed every time SF tried to run the ball to score points…You can’t against Seattle, You have to throw it which they seemed to figure out late in the 4th quarter.
Haha, Technoboy. If I am bothering with one, I might as well go for the follow ups…doesn’t subtract much time from my schedule.
And yeah, my Pats put up a bit of a fight, didn’t they?
If only the Pats played liked that for 4 quarters, 28 points in less than a quarter?
They didn’t even have Gronk and Edleman!
Least they know what to expect from the 49er’s if they seen them again in the SB. 49er’s head coach said “Didn’t surprise me, very Brady like, No one else to compare it too!” lol
Brady plays best when he’s pissed!
Drunk and high sex may be fun, but these college-aged women will not end up in their 30′s pining away for the day at that dorm frat party when she had the orgasm of her life. Just sayin’
I was tricked into a one-night stand. My boss asked me to come to the office on the assumption that he needed me to do something for him. I also went because he totally changed my set-up – said he would be giving me my salary on a personal basis – so I needed to get my dough from him. I brought my daughter with me.
When I got there it turns out there was no one at the office. He made everyone get out, and made me wait downstairs at the restaurant before letting me come up.
When I came in the lights were low, he was playing music. I got out my stuff and got down to work as expected, but all of the sudden in the middle of it, he demanded I kiss him. I was completely taken by surprise,and though I repeatedly declined, he persisted so I gave in.
I told myself it was just going to be a kiss.
When we had some I tried to push him off but he was too strong for me.
He did me on the desk.
He totally mindfucked me for 2-3 months before I gave in. Was I attracted to him? Yes, in a confused way, almost as if I was under psychological warfare and didn’t know what was going on, but yes he stirred my sexual desires.
Did I want to have sex with him? No. And I said no. Repeatedly.
Just because my body wanted it, doesn’t mean I wanted it. Desire is a chemical reaction. But to let someone access my body just like that, no way, I am not stupid.
So, I was wet, taken by surprise, and duped into sex, but I didn’t want to! Was that a one night stand or rape?
-Typing this from the weird world that we live in
What your body wanted xxSalomexx, is not even an issue. He manipulated the situation, key word “duped”, and when you said “NO!”, he should have stopped. It was rape. My apologies for what that man did to you my dear. No woman should have to go through that.
thanks Larry. It’s not your fault. I also acknowledge my fault in the matter – for being stupid or naive, that is. I’ve wizened up since then
From a guy who’s had mostly one night stands in his life and hardly ANY real relationships, I agree, they suck.
You just feel worse and there’s nothing fulfilling about it. Yeah it’s nice to get laid but these days I’d rather not.