I spent a recent weekend with one of my clients and I had a great conversation that I wanted to share with all of you.
David: I’ve seen this for so long – and every single guy does this.
What do they do? They go from being whatever they were when they started (perhaps shy or introverted) to being way over the top.
What they forget along the way (on their journey to being way over the top) is to really listen to the other person when they are having a conversation.
You have great conversations, but what I saw last night (when you randomly approached that drunk women – and that’s all they were, just drunk, stupid women. The whole point of last night was NOT to approach and just to observe. I don’t know, but they all turned me off! Every single one of them – their behavior, the way they walked, talked, the way they carried themselves. They had so much negative energy – I didn’t like it at all.)
But you went up and you like announced yourself – like boom! I’m here! The fact of the matter is that you are much more Zen-like in your personality than that! You have to really tone it down a little bit and just observe more.
You’ve proven to yourself that you can walk up to everybody – great. That’s the first step that every guy needs to do. That’s where the over the top thing comes in.
Now, you need to say to yourself, I can approach anybody, congratulations, I know I can do it. Congratulate yourself and give yourself a really big pat on the back – it’s a big step.
Now you need to become really keen to everything that is going on in your environment. The reason why I didn’t really talk to anybody last night was that there was nobody there that was interesting to talk to – not one woman. None.
So today when we walk around, we’re all just going to work within our own environments. It is our environment that gives us the clues.
Don’t worry about missing a woman. If you miss one, that’s fine. You can’t have them all, because if you do, you go into pick up mentality and that’s really not attractive.
Do you remember Dragnet? It’s like, “here we are downtown in a city in the US. Five guys walking around picking up women…”
It really looks like that! It doesn’t look like five guys just having fun. It’s all about having fun and having a good time.
You just have to tone it down a little bit and go in there with what I call an action plan: what do you see?
I see it very quickly – I see it like THAT. You guys might see it in a minute. You’ll miss a few more opportunities but that’s okay. Eventually, you’ll see it in 50 seconds, then 40 seconds, then 30… and then you’ll start seeing it in an instant.
Observe, take in the environment, look around and see what’s going on around you. What do you see?
There are so many tourists out here today! This is far better than LA. LA is a great place – but here it’s mellower, more laid-back – there are endless amounts of people down here today.
July and August are tourist months here. That’s it. If you’re going to come to Seattle, you’re only going to come in July and August. That’s why this is great place to do this because it’s a target-rich environment.
Client: There’s the Danskin Triathlon tomorrow morning at 7:00 with 4,000 people!
David: That’s not fun at 7:00 am!
Todays video is a shocking one.
Have you ever opened a woman using dead bunnies?
A dead bunny opener?
Hmm… I’ll have to think about it…
so are you going to cook me these bunny for dinner?
I put up a dead bunny challenge and so far no one has taken me up on it
whats going on is everyone out playing the last week of summer.
last week of summer….. i cant believe time passes by this fast. but i can’t wait to start school again as a new person next week! i’ll definitely will miss not being able to work as much though….
i’m going to e-mail you right now
lets start posting those bunny lines in the blog
“i don’t know what turns me on more. You or the dead bunny!” lol jk
haha, I am way over the top sometimes. I think it is more effectively called male overcompensation. Something that we all suffer from.
This is pretty interesting…I’ll have to think about this.
YOU:
Yeah. Looks so sad. But don’t worry, I was promised by the shopowner that these bunnies aren’t really dead. They just didn’t need all their fur anymore as they have all recently moved to California and are now hopping happily in the garden of the Playboy Mansion
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Her:
Probably with a startled look: WTF?
You:
Alright, that’s probably not true. But I liked the thought. And you looked so sad I just had to do something. Hi. I’m Sammy.
We need more info.
There is no way I would know how to open someone on the subject of dead bunnies without knowing how they were already reacting to it. If someone was looking at them with tears in their eyes I wouldn’t dream of a humorous opener, but if someone was macabre enough to be playing with the bunnies like puppets then maybe a humorous opener would work. Like you say David, we need to read the situation and gather information, so give us the info we would be reading if we were there.
David,
I emailed you this, but I will post it so those who cannot come up with anything have a better idea of how this works
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Hi David,
Depending on what kind of girl she was (age style etc) I would say something like…
“Man, that is a little different then doing you’re usual dinner run at safeway” or something lik that. If she is interested or interesting she can laugh and respond to that one, no problem.
Or I could say, “You know, As unappealing as that looks I have had Waaay worse” in a funny tone.
Or if she is looking at it you could jokingly say with a smile “OK, please tell me your not that hungry!”
Theres actually a lot, its really not what you say but how you say it …and where you can take the conversation from there!
Dan
“Have you ever seen that much dead animals?”
i sent u an e-mail already.
Is dead bunny good at this time of year? I heard they’re only good in October.
Just from what I see in the video, I would basically say what u said David “What do you think about these hanging bunnies” or I may say “Wow, I can’t believe what they show in public. What do you think they got planned with those bunnies?”. I just want to get them talking about what they think, then I’ll react to whatever they give me.
“Man, that’s looks delicious… c’mere, let’s get some for dinner.”
“So does this mean Easter is canceled this year” ? Then listen to her response. If her response is short then a quick recap like ” I was walking to the starbucks over there when I saw this and I still have not figured out what its all about, I mean are these for sale? Who would want one? What would you do with it? Are we supposed to cook these things?
I’d look at her, smile, and lean over and whisper “You know you’re a red neck when…” If she doesn’t start cracking up, finish by saying “you’re selling dead rabbits at a stand”. If she doesn’t laugh at that point you better hope she isn’t the one selling the rabbits!
David..
I have an important question for you…that I think would really help in my own personal journey through life..What is/was your greatest fault? Thanks, not sure if you are going to answer this, but Id really love to see a blog on it! Thanks david
This would look great on you……taking the fur from it and turning into a bunny jacket or scarf maybe…lol
hahahahah
“OMG! They still multiply even after death!”
DW: behavior, not behavoir. Sorry to be dick.
This is clearly the only way they can figure out how to stop all the hoodlum bunny rabbits from coming here and harassing everyone.
“Man, Richard Gere must have been here…
Oh, wait… that’s GERBILS… nevermind…”
lol
Bunny Opener ” Which one is Bugsy”
“They do taste like chicken”
this is grotesquely hilarious!
poor bunnies
i guess i’m excluded from david’s little challenge
JustMe, we do offer help for female clients : )
rey – lol. i know! i have no crisis in my dating life or anything, but i’d looove to get more insight in understanding men
i was just now browsing through david’s products, and the email coaching sounds very interesting. i am willing to try out of pure INTEREST! how’s that? :p to make changes? why not?
haha
however, i live in norway.. so how would that work? what would it cost for ME? i’m a poor student on a budget
otherwise i enjoy reading these blogs.. plus alot of other stuff on the net (not ONLY about dating)
theres always phone coaching ;p but hey we don’t even know if your line kicks ass yet!
You see I have verbal diarrea so whether or not my line kicks ass my phone bill would surely kick ass O.o
I’d feel sorry for David who’d have to put up with my talking
how’s that for an EXCUSE?
PS: How much would he charge me?
lol thats why you get free coaching if your opener beats everyone else!
how would I open a MAN with dead bunnies??
i should be reading about “american civilization” for the seminar group tomorrow..damnit!
i hate/love challenges like these..
here’s a REALLY lame one, feel free to laugh at my expense:
“awww, you really didn’t have to shoot these bunnies for me, you know.. ”
a somwhat cocky opener
and the winner is: JustMe!! An unknown blog commenter.. She gets free phone coaching so her dating life will improve and she can attract any guy she might want!
yuck, I’m a semi vegetarian.. the thought of eating those poor dead animals..
Rey is such a pimp… he’s my idol…
“This is what happens to rabbits when they take too much Viagra…”
Ha ha! I was the guilty one in approaching those drunk chicks in Seattle! And one of them got all “handsy” and started groping me. Remember that David?
haha, you crack me up brad!
Is it wabbit season?
Glad you all had a good time in Seattle!
“You know, I never believed in the ‘lucky’ rabbits foot”
Hahaha so who’s won? xD
I vote for Mark and Jason.
And JustHer deserves the originality price since her line was so adorably cute
Can’t stop laughing from this blog
Who won?
Thanks for this
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