What do you crave the most in life?
Most people crave three things:
They crave love.
They crave wealth.
And they crave health.
Love is a different definition for all of us: how we want to feel in a relationship, how we want to be treated, how we love ourselves, our friends, family, and the people around us.
Wealth is a totally different definition for a lot of people too. Some people just want enough money to be able to do the things they want to do. Some people want to conquer the world and have more money than anyone else. Some people’s view of wealth has nothing to do with money, but with living a healthy life with money there to give them the experiences that they want.
And health, we all would love to be just healthy and live forever. We’d all love to be able to never get sick or be able to beat a cold and feel good every day.
Do you realize that you control your destiny and the three most important things in life?
Love, wealth, and health, it’s all up to you. You control your destiny in all of these. You really do.
Now granted, you could get sick and come down with cancer––something you had no control over––but in general your overall health is determined by how you take care of yourself.
The foods you eat, the water you drink, the way you work out, the amount of sleep you get. You’re really responsible for your own health. As far as wealth, there’s no limit to what you can make in this world, the only limit is the way your mind thinks.
You can determine whatever you want to do when it comes down to wealth. How much money you want to make, the type of job you want to have, the type of wealth you want to create…all up to you.
And love…love you can fully find on your own. There’s no limit to love. There’s no limit to the amount of people that you can fall in love with. The only thing that limits you in your quest for love is yourself, your mindset, and the way you feel about yourself.
Love, health, and wealth—all three things you are fully capable of having however you want.
There are no excuses in life but the ones that you put forth for yourself every single day.
It’s amazing how many people would rather live an excuse-filled life rather than a life filled with love, wealth, and health.
How about you?
Man is not the creature of circumstances, circumstances are the creatures of men.
We are free agents, and man is more powerful than matter.
- Benjamin Disraeli
Well written. Thank you
“It’s amazing how many people would rather live an excuse-filled life rather than a life filled with love, wealth, and health.”
It certainly is an amazing phenomenon. But I still struggle with motivation… Or shame about my current situation. Shame/guilt is a killer for me.
What are you ashamed of?
Grr Dan!! Thanks for asking but its hard for me to talk about. Especially in a public board. I think I might rejoin David’s private forum again. Lets just say i’m not where I want to be in my life. I work and go to school but I don’t have a career or $ yet and I really want a nice place and I’m ashamed I don’t.
Kudos – this is some advanced she talk Jiu Jitsu Dan! Find a talking point that’s too personal for someone to delve into, then delve into it anyway and watch them blush and squirm. Love it !!
I think he’s practicing for his next female encounter. I’m on to you Dan.
Not all of that is quite true, if something is in your DNA, like a bad mutation which causes cancer ( I have a friend who is dying of cancer), that is something you don’t control and it’s one of the hardest things some people have to face. But the point is true, one should put themselves forth everyday.
You could add “peace” to your list because being a “peace” with yourself makes putting forth yourself that much easier.
If only it were as easy as David protrays, in his unrealistic, optimistic, ramblings. (lucky me, experiences, and beliefs, that he has been fortunate enought to live, assuming anyone can do what he has)… In reality, Life does not work this way, in such and optimistic outcome. Life is by it’s very nature full of challenges, inequalities, unfairness, injustices, and pitfalls. A person can make all the right moves, have all the right objectives, and motives, and still fail miserably and end up with none of the big three he states. Saying so, thinking so, and doing so, does not make it so. Just live your life as best you can, don’t worry about what doesn’t happen as you expect it should, and make the most of however your life turns out. If you expect these perfection in your life, you will usually be disappointed and end up depressed.
Its true, there is so much in life we have no control over..becoming ill, cancer, loss of a loved one..
We must indeed make the most of what we have in our lives and strive to be our best “self”..
I do believe though that we can enjoy the process of being “hopeful” for more good stuff to come into our lives without being discouraged with it “not happening”..By not feeling so “attached to the “end result”.
I agree with you on this topic. It’s unusably vague and general to me. I mean, who in the world would say “no, i don’t want any health, love, or wealth?”.
The big question, of course, is how do you get it? There’s a lot more to it than motivation + mindset + effort.
There are countless books on success, answering that very question, and you will find motivation + mindset + effort at their core.
But I get why people convince themselves that they know better, convince themselves: “it is not that simple.”
It’s called fear, and it’s the reason most people in this world, in practice DO say “no” to love, health and wealth. They say “no, I’m to scared to aspire to greatness, in case I fail. So I will settle for less than love, health and wealth, and convince myself that the formula for success is a matter of luck, genetics, and any other non-controllable aspect of my life.”
Fear – that’s really cute. I don’t think I’ve ever geen confused with a fearful person. You kick ass Boodoo but in this case I’m going to burst some bubbles.
It’s not just motivation. Motivation is necessary but not sufficient. The helpful parts of Wygant’s material for me are:
* Practice your smile + eye contact with strangers
* Keep a journal of observations
* Make observations out lout about people standing in line with you
* In conversation, zero on in interesting EMOTIONAL talking points. Don’t be a talker. Practice this with your friends.
* Talk about personal subjects, not abstract ones. Like all the topics in this blog.
* Throw in a healthy dose of Wygant-esque stealth innuendo. For example I ‘touch upon’ talking points these days or ‘wrestle’ with issues or get ‘tied up’ in things etc.
THAT’S the useful stuff for me. In the end I think it’s about SKILLS not motivation. You won’t get skills without practice and motivation but motivation alone won’t get you skills if your approach is all wrong.
Oh, wait, before I get labeled as a negative nancy I should point out:
Yes, I think EVERYTHING is a learnable skill! ANYONE can succeed. But you need a good teacher + curriculum and SPECIFIC drills and exercises not just motivation.
Actually ‘Outliers’ is a great book for that topic. ‘Gifted’ / ‘talented’ people CAN pick things up easier at first, but in the long MASTERING a skill takes about 10,000 hours of GOOD practice for anyone.
I appreciate the compliment!
You’re right rolf, it’s not just motivation. You say skills are required too. Yes, but that is secondary.
But how are skills developed? Time & effort invested.
At this point it is so obvious that it almost doesn’t need to be stated: without passion and motivation, you will not have the patience to invest time or effort to develop the skills you need.
So, as skill ultimately comes from motivation, you can begin to see a ‘tree’ of requirements for success; at the top you have your industry-specific requirements, in the middle you have more general ‘skills,’ but all requirements for success draw down to some very simple fundamentals, all of which are functions of simply the way you think.
bob, it’s perception – thinking that someone has it easier than yourself is ridiculous – everyone has struggles in life, and what breaks one might fuel another’s success – and why? because it is how we choose to deal with pain. that is the only difference in life – how fast we choose to move. typically those who move the fastest have actually had to endure the most pain at once, realizing that if they stayed in their comfort zone they would die – and those who choose to stay and whine about their misfortune in life have typically found a way to get comfortable in their misery (pain that is spread out more evenly so you can better develop a pain threshold or numb it). no one has it easier than others – life is quite fair in that way actually; you just don’t know other people’s full story, and thus we tend to assume that our own story is so much more very painful than anyone else’s – which is both vain and also gives us an excuse not to take action and come up with a solution rather than just joining in on the blame game. and who cares about anyone else’s easiness/ difficulties/fairness in life anyway – all that matters is your perception and how you choose to live life and overcome your obstacles – and you will find your way and be happy just by being…. you. and yes, sometimes the things you thought you wanted then may change… but it will seem right, because you have connected with your core being instead of focusing on others and what you think and they think that you think that they think that they might think and on and on it goes.
David likes quotes from successful people, here is one…
“You can’t generalize it, This is America, Anyone can do it, That’s just not true” – Bruce Springsteen on becoming wealthy
I believe in love, I believe we can have what we wish for..I believe though we need to feel gratitude for all that we have already in order to have more..
Everyone who has nothing better to do than attack me, days after my last post..
All this “John want’s pity” talk,, shove it up your asses.
You people are the reason this blog sucks.
And David, go ahead and ban me. I’m not posting anymore. I just logged on to read your latest article, and read through the attacks in the comments..
“john want’s pity”
“john’s negative”
blah, blah, blah.
You’re real big people behind the safety of your computer screens.
here’s my response to your latest posts directed at me..
Boodoo,, take your email address and shove it up your ass.
Pam, nobody cares what you think. Take your positivity and shove it up your ass too.
Zach, you really ARE an asshole.
and, Nathalie,, it’s been very nice conversing with you here, thank you for your very helpful fashion advice, and good luck with your coaching endeavor.
Bob, Collin, and other long time regulars.. good luck to ya.
Everyone else.. UP YOURS.
(sorry Dave.)
aw you too, John…my pleasure about fashion..Wishing you good things in life and luck in perhaps starting a blog…
well thank you..
And, Btw,, I’m not “leaving”. I’ll still check in and read David’s articles. I am just not planning on posting anymore. (at least not regularly.)
I haven’t posted in several days, (ever since I told Dan I wouldn’t post anymore.) I just felt some comments left by others deserved a response.
Anyway,, thank you. I wish my attitude, and outlook on life were as uplifting and positive as your’s. It’s no surprise that out of the people who post on this blog, you are the one who is really successful in your relationship.
Best of luck.
oh, and about the blog,, I’m still trying to settle on a topic. I don’t want to invest money until I have a solid plan.
But, it IS going to happen, and it WILL be a success!
Oh wow that feels fantastic to read about the blog, John..I feel excited for you..
Feels good your not “leaving”..
See ya John,
All I can say is, Just go for it, saying something is better than nothing and if she walks away, fuck that bitch, if she thinks her pussy is that good, tell her to eat it herself…then go talk to someone else.
Yeah, right John. You’ll be back. You always are. For a guy who’s on the verge of 40 you’re awfully immature. Don’t be whining about your problems in a PUBLIC forum if you cannot deal with hearing people’s opinions about them. When 98% of the forum cannot stand your attitude and disagrees with you, you KNOW you have a huge honking problem. You didn’t even answer Dan’s question about why you post here in the first place, which affirms for me that you DO thrive on pity which is your motivation for coming here. And actually, a lot of people here do care what I think and have listened to my comments.
“I’m so ugly, I’m so fat, women don’t like me, wah wah wah.” You ever wonder why that is? Cripes, maybe you need to spend a night out on the streets with homeless or visit a cancer ward to get some effing appreciation for your life. Pathetic.
Christina
If you actually believe this ridiculous statement, you are as naive and idiotic as a damn ants brain! Of course some have it easy and some have impossible cards dealt against them, that no matter what they do, they will fail and die a miserable life. How can anyone with any intelligence assume everyone is born with equal opportunities? Such is the ignorance of communist ideals. Some will thrive and make good, while others will fail and die. This is natures way. The lucky and strong survive and thrive, while the unlucky and weak die and whither. I cannot believe anyone would assume otherwise. Some are born to be great while others are destined to fail and be miserable, no matter what they do or what the circumstances…
(no one has it easier than others – life is quite fair in that way actually; you just don’t know other people’s full story, and thus we tend to assume that our own story is so much more very painful than anyone else’s) Are you for real???
Bob, I’m on vacation this week,, Thinking of taking off and heading to FL. I need to get away for a while.
Where should I go? Suggestions?
John,
Sorry, was staying up at the Hard Rock and just got back home to check messages. I always have liked Fort Lauderdale for vacation. But I bought my house in Palm Bay, near Melbourne. It is a quieter area with a lot less tourists. It has great fishing charters too if you like to fish and lots of outdoorsy people there. You can fish the Indian River, or go out the jetty to the ocean and catch the big ones. Marlin, etc.
Houses are still a steal there, so you might want to look around for an investment rental, or vacation share. You and a couple buddies could buy a nice house for in the 50′s near the ocean/river. If you go to Fort Lauderdale, I like to stay at the resort called Lighthouse Cove. It is reasonable, big condo type units on the ocean. Nice pool and bar area too. I will be heading down as soon as the grass stops growing here at the ranch, and I can button up my place here. Plan on staying at least six months this year. Still haven’t decided if I want to sell my ranch or stay here summers, FL winters.
Sorry about the communist statement if I offended. I meant it in the broadest sense of the belief that everyone should have equal opportunities and share the resources and wealth of a society equally. It is a good concept, but with peoples greed, does not seem to work in practice. I meant that everyone is dealt a different hand. Some get the good cards, some get the rags. I don’t believe in everyone having an equal opportunity, or that belief. Nice to think so, but not realistic, and I am a realist. I hope the readers understand that communism is not a “bad” word, but simply another view on government. Don’t let “society” cloud your judgement on words and beliefs.
Bob,, thanks. I was thinking about going to FL. I don’t know if I’ll make it all the way down there this time around. I’m actually in Gatlinburg right now, relaxing in the Smokies. Went to a little bar in Gatlinburg, and met a girl from Ukraine. Too young for me, but unbelievably beautiful.
Going up in the mountains to run some twisty roads, and take in some mountain views.
I might make Ft. Lauterdale another time.
You’re up in the mountains? I’m jealous John. I’ve always liked the idea of just getting away from it all but haven’t found the time + balls to actually do that yet!
Oooh wow mountain views sound amazing..I have never seen the mountain here..I forget how our country has such beautiful landscapes..I remember seeing beautiful mountains overlooking lakes and how peaceful and majestic it felt to just look at..
All this talk of mountains and beaches makes me want to take another vacation..hehe
Bob, please don’t misuse the word communism while calling someone an idiot. It bothers me. No one is “born” to be anything. We are born into this world as almost blank slates, and our environment shapes us. This is how it has always been.
Some people DO have it much harder than others. However, in a first world country like America… the playing field is quite even IF THE PERSON IS GIVEN THE PROPER KNOWLEDGE AND MENTORING AS THEY GROW.
Bob, I am going to recommend two fields of study that will lift the weight of ignorance from your damaged brain.
Behavioral Neuroscience
Evolutionary Psychology.
We aren’t as HELPLESS as you’d like to make us believe.
Brian you have expressed my sentiments more precisely than I ever could!
Right on, Brian.
Brian,
Sorry you are so easily offended by the word communism. It is actually a great idea, in equality and government for people,the concept, I think. (No I am not a communist) but does not work well in practice it seems.
And yes, we are born a blank slate, but everyones slate is differnt. Some are born on a cardboard one, and others a gold plated slate. And it is a fact that most people are not “GIVEN THE PROPER KNOWLEDGE AND MENTORING AS THEY GROW”. I know I wasn’t, but through a lot of work and hard work, and admittedly some luck, achieved more than I ever set as my long term goals. I have seen others work harder than me, and fail miserably, with not enough time or assets to start over. Life is not fair, never has been, never will. You have to just do the best you can, and go on whatever happens.I will study your fancy twenty dollar word, subjects though…
Ever hear celebrities talk about how they worked hard to “do what they love”?
They always bring up the parents for pushing them and believing them, they get involved and have a support system in place.
I, and I’m sure many others didn’t have a parental involvement or any “support system” in tact. I never did, my parents wanted me to hurry up and the out of the house as my mother called it “I’m sick of raising kids, I’ve had a hard friggin life. It’s time for me to have a life”
All us kids are grown up and moved out. My parents still sit at home like slugs just like they did growing up.
Funny thing is that just because David did it, he thinks everyone else can! It’s absoultly impossible for everyone on planet earth to be rich and successful.
It’s a lot of things, lot of hard work, lot of connections, good timing and some luck.
If you want to be rich, you have to sell something! Not everyone loves to sell shit, therefore not everyone will be rich. Unless you hit the lottery, become a pro athlete, movie star,singer or given an inheritance.
David is successful because he SELLS dating advice
” if you want to be rich, you have to sell something! Not everyone loves to sell shit, therefore not everyone will be rich ”
If we change this to relate to dating:
” if you want a woman, you have to approach! Not everyone loves to approach, therefore, not everyone will get a woman. ”
If you want something, you have to get over whatever is holding you back to get it.
I do approach :/ So nice try.
….that wasn’t my point….
you’ll always have obstacles in front of what you want. You’re willingness to get over these obstacles will make you move forward and not stay stuck in your comfort zone and never achieving your full potential.
you want to be rich, but don’t want to sell stuff. Then you have the possibility, but you CHOOSE to not pursue it because you don’t like it…So YOU’RE the reason you’re not making more money.
I’m not saying it’s easy by any means, it’s hard work. Which is basically why people rarely get rich, because people hate to work.
David is successful because he does what he loves, he works his ass off, and he persisted through hard times.
Take some time and read some books on success by successful people, and you might yet change your views.
Or continue making up excuses “oh he’s only rich because [insert flimsy 'luck' explanation]” and see how far it gets you.
Hey Boodoo.. I asked David recently if he had ever considered putting out a product, or line of products, pertaining to business, and entrepreneurial success.. and he told me he has that product coming out soon. I am really looking forward to checking that out.
(David.. I hope that wasn’t a secret. If so.. sorry I leaked.)
Btw… Sorry I told you to shove your email up your ass last night. I got a little pissed when I read all of that John, and “pity” bullcrap,, because it’s so far from the truth. Yeah, I got a little down on myself, and vented some frustration out on the blog.. happens from time to time. Don’t take it too personally. I don’t know you.. and I was out of line.
nice!
Pay the rent that’s due or try a business in a bad economy?
I’m paying my rent ;/
You seem to have two points: the first one being that success hinges on ones ability to sell, the second that people generally hate to work, so they don’t succeed.
I disagree with both. The ability to sell is a small but essential part, yes. But not just a product/service, you need to be able to sell yourself. And to address your second point, I will quote anthony robbins:
“People are not lazy. They simply have impotent goals; that is, goals that do not inspire them.”
I can attest to that personally. Tell me, can you envisage a person who is both inspired/passionate AND ‘lazy’ at the same time?
The reason I have jumped on this is because it really grates me when people attribute others’ success to circumstance. Read comment 1 on this page…
Some of the people here have been smoking too much David.
Lol imagine coming to this website, this article, and mocking people for being aspirational.
You imply my advice is akin to pothead talk (which, by the way, I’m partial to. But not today).
I notice you failed to attack any specific part of what I said; tell me what I’ve said that you think is irrational, and I’ll tell you why you’re wrong.
Oh and the your comment about rent… it speaks volumes about you.
Are you really suggesting that if you didn’t have to pay rent, you’d somehow become successful? You think money, or ‘starting a business’ makes you rich?
I mean, what have you done towards your ‘starting a business?’ Have you studied anything? Have you done market research? What are you going to sell? What is your mission?
If you can’t answer these questions, then you’re not even prepared for ‘the economy’ to improve, and if you’re not even prepared for success, then you can be assured you will not have it.
@ John
Listen. I don’t think you’re a bad guy, but you need to have the courage to take peoples advice. I offered my email because it tells me that you’re not here just for attention; that you actually want some help.
I don’t need to know your life history to see what I see, and until you demonstrate the courage and willingness to improve outside of the public arena, I can only conclude that you are here for the attention.
I appreciate the apology, but I stand by what I said in that comment.
@ John
Also another reason I offered my email is so that we can break through what are probably very personal issues away from the public eye.
In front of the general public is not the best place to confront deep personal issues.
If people in love they become healthy but the wallet is empty.(for the boys).
Awesome feeling …. Love, Wealth and Health, yeah
This is powerful… concept of beauty…