One of the guys at a recent Bootcamp was asking me about putting women on a pedestal. Let’s talk about this.
Say you are there in a T-Mobile store with your buddy, and all of a sudden a beautiful woman walks in the store. Your buddy is in the middle of getting a brand new cell phone, and there you are staring at this woman with the “deer in the headlights” look in your eyes.
You don’t know what to do. You start idolizing her inside your mind and you put her on a pedestal. You think, “She’s hot. Wow is she hot!”
Those are the kind of thoughts you’re thinking to yourself. You think, “Wow is she amazing. I don’t deserve a girl like that.”
Really? Why don’t you deserve a girl like that? Why are you putting her above you?
There is no reason to ever put a woman above you. We’re all equals.
So I don’t care who you are, what you do or what you’re all about. We’re all equal. Everything about us is equal.
Every time you put someone on a pedestal, you are really never going to have an opportunity to get to know them. The reason is that when you do this, you are approaching from a position of weakness.
You are basically looking at her, and your body language and non-verbal communication are all screaming that you don’t deserve her. You might as well say out loud to her, “Hi, my name is Justin. I really don’t deserve you, so I’m just not going to bother talking to you.”
The truth is that people are people, and everyone wants to be treated well. Everyone wants others to talk to them and communicate with them. Nobody wants to be put on a pedestal.
No relationship ever works if you’re put on a pedestal. No relationship works if you’re putting the other person on a pedestal.
You have to really realize that we are all equal. So the next time you see a beautiful woman standing there in the T-Mobile store, realize that not only is she your equal (but that you might actually be the superior one in a lot of ways.
You may actually be the person who knows more than she does. She might actually learn more things from you than you could learn from her. Who knows what the dynamic of the relationship might be?
Everything is equal. Keep it that way.