Great Dates By David Wygant
A lot of people email me all of the time, asking, “what’s a great date? I’m seeing a man or a woman, and I want to take them out on a great date.”
I have a great date idea. You want to do this on a Sunday, and just call it ‘my favorite Sunday’ – I think that every Sunday you need to create a new favorite Sunday.
If you’re by yourself, you need to do things that you really enjoy – take yourself out for a Sunday. Go out, go to a Farmer’s Market, grab some breakfast, talk to some people, and then just have an adventure. Maybe you can go shopping a bit, walk around some stores. If it’s nice out and you live by a lake or a beach, go there.
Go check out some open houses. There are always people around at open houses. Check out what houses are for sale in your neighborhood – or condos in the city, whatever it might be. Go to a bookstore, go to a library. Just take yourself out. Walk around. The weather is nice, so go walk around.
But my favorite thing to do on a Sunday – pick somebody you really want to hang out with on a Sunday, and just say you’re going to have an all-day little kid sleepover.
Start the day off by showering together. Take a shower together, get dressed in front of each other. It’s a lot of fun.
And if you don’t meet up until 12:00, you could also go out to brunch or breakfast – or even just getting takeout food and sitting in the car talking while you drive around some fun neighborhood.
That’s a fun thing to do – get a to-go box, and say you’re going to have a picnic today. And the picnic is going to be this incredibly fun drive around great neighborhoods. You can look at different houses and do things – see a couple of different neighborhoods.
That’s a great date too. Just walk around a couple of different neighborhoods, and check out the different stores and people. Talk to the merchants together.
Stop putting all of the pressure on yourself. You don’t need to put all of the pressure on yourself. Just let it flow a little bit.
Maybe you have an errand to run that day, maybe you need a new place to live. Maybe your looking for a new favorite shirt or whatever it might be. Take the person along with you and get their opinion. You just want to spend the day together, having a good time.
And then at the end of the day, with the weather being this nice, take a walk somewhere. If you live in the city, take a walk through a park. Watch the street performers. Comment on the street performers.
If you live in Los Angeles like I do, go for a hike at the end of the day, and watch the sun set. Right now the wildflowers are blooming and it’s beautiful up there. Take a hike, and go up above the city and look down.
If you live near a beach, take a walk with somebody on the beach. What a great day! After the end of that long day together, you watch the sunset. That’s a good time.
No beach? Walk around a lake. Just walk. Walk somewhere fun. If you live in New York City, take a little boat ride in Central Park. There are so many different things you can do.
If you live in the middle of the country, you guys have lakes! If you live in Michigan, you could take a walk by the lake. Look at the trees blooming together. That’s fun. There are so many fun things to do in the spring and summer times. It’s bonding. It will be a great date.
And then that night, get take-out food – it’s all about the take-out food. Pick a fun ethnic restaurant in your area and try it.
Work out together – that’s another fun thing to do together. Go to the gym together. Encourage each other to work out. It’s fun.
Go do yoga, and stretch each other. Stretching is really sexy. Learn a couple of different yoga poses. Yoga is really erotic – you can touch each other during yoga. Partner yoga is great. If you don’t know how to do it, read about it on the internet. Google it.
Go to a yoga studio, and they have partner yoga classes and stuff. It’s really fun.
And then at night, after a fun dinner, make sure you have a fun movie. That’s another great ending for that date.
Or get some good massage lotions. Foot massage – there is nothing better than rubbing a woman’s feet. You’re on your feet all day long, and all women love long, slow foot massages. Get some peppermint foot lotion from the Body Shop – it’s great, and fairly inexpensive. It tingles on the feet, so it’s a lot of fun.
Massage each other. Massaging is a lot of fun, too. Just massage one another. Get some good oils. There is this company called Jimmy Jane – www.jimmyjane.com. Go there. They’ve got these amazing candles – you light the candle and you pour the hot wax on each other. It’s not really that hot, just warm. The whole candle is like a great massage.
These are some things you need to do when you start seeing somebody; really turn it up a little bit. Have a fun sleepover. Don’t just do the same boring stuff all the time – watching TV.
Or you could break this whole blog down into individual dates. There are so many different dates on here that are fun. Activity dates, springtime-only dates – it’s bonding, it’s fun, and it takes the pressure off.
There is nothing worse than a bad date – the dates where you just stare at each other? Or the ones where you’re swapping resumes? Avoid those, and you’ll have a great time.
Todays video is all about the art of teasing and how to make her interested in you.
Thanks, this is good. I am going to have a a date this weekend. Don’t know who yet, or how we are going to meet, but it will happen.
Sorry, David! I hope i’m not being rude if i find your blog cute! hehe, fun fun fun fun, walk, walk, walk.. GREAT!
another fun thing; redecorate a room in your house
that’s fun, plus you learn a thing or two about your date 
One of the greatest dates ever is to ask her if she wants to have a snowball fight. Like DW always says tease them!! They always ask where are we going to get snow in the summer (sp. & fall). It’s a secret place I have: do u want to go or not? The answer is always yes. Would you like to ice skate too while at my secret place? YES YES!!
I then bring them to my local Huntington town owned ice skating rink. Real cheap and most women don’t get asked to ice skate. The snowball fight happens to be where the Zamboni dumps his ice shavings in the back parking lot after cleaning the ice. It is always best if I can go to the adult skate so we might not have kids trying to kill us while may not move that fast. If Phoenix Arizona can have a professional ice hockey team in the desert; no matter where u live there is probably indoor ice rink near u too.
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I hope u can go all day every day and practice what Dave teaches. That is if you are ok with a woman who may not be perfect and may have a small problem. What happened to all your great posts?
I personally love to go on new adventures on dates. I used to think I had to know everything in advance and plan everything out, but now I realize it can be just as fun (if not more so) to try something completely new. Once you stumble upon something cool, it will be that much more fun because you found it together. It does help to have some sort of general game plan though, and at least a few backup locations in case you don’t find something good.
one and only good date is to ask woman you attracted to to meet to talk about life together,
low form of life on earth dates,
human being get married and conduct responsible, happy, free of drama and loving relationship and do not spread around deadly deseases either.
Sincerely,
Ellen
“Stretching is really sexy.”
YES IT IS!!
When we came to the cool down of the workout when i was teaching…well, there were men & women for that matter that would stop there workout in the gym just to “observe” the stretching sequences. Most of my students after 4-6 weeks in class faithfully, could sit, legs straddled, chest leading to the floor and spread their arms all the way out in front of them with their heads laying on the floor. THATS LIMBER & THATS SEXY!
The guys in class weren’t quite as limber but it was fun having them there at any rate
What a job!
All of these are awesome ideas. The one thing I would say is that you need to be careful to not try to hard on this stuff. If it is simply not meant to be, then you have to admit it and move on. Sometimes you are out on a date and you simply don’t click.
I know David would say that should never be the case. You should always find ways to make it work, but sometimes you have to identify when you made a mistake up front and not try to force anything that doesn’t make sense. All of these are fantastic so long as you have identified you want to make it work.
Joan,
How the hell are you?
Stretching… give me a hint on how to get my head to the floor when doing that stretch. Of course, not immediately, but a routine. I’m a workout-holic and have done Martial arts for a few years. I stretch for warm-ups and cooldowns and have always wanted to achive full front and side splits, plus getting my head ont he ground on the “straddle”.
I noticed the posts have been outstanding the last 2 or 3 days, by David W and most posters.
J-dude;
lol I am doing well, thank you. I am gathering you are more than fine:)
Ok..to get your head to the floor in the manner I spoke of;
Sit with your legs straddled where it is comfortable for you. That may be an inch…maybe a full straddle?
Place your hands in front of you on the floor….
Now PULL UP AND OUT FROM YOUR HIPS LEADING WITH YOUR CHEST. I capitalize that, because most people slouch into more of a cat stretch, so they never get to a point where they elongate the muscles in the inner thighs & back of the leg/hamstrings.
NEVER BOUNCE YOUR STRETCH…SLOW STATIC STRETCHING will keep you from ripping tendons etc.
Liiisten to the voices of your body…they know what they feel.
Walk your hands SLOWLY in front of you, chest lifted, head up, abs firmly tucked in. Go as far as what is comfortable to you LISTEN TO YOUR BODY
When you get to that point take deep breathes in through the nose and slowly out through the nose.
Everytime you inhale, you are bringing fresh oxygen to your muscles, so as you exhale try to “walk” your hands if even a millimeter more, hold it, then walk back to resting length.
Deep breath in, and SLOWLY go again. Repeat about 3-5 sets of this.
Important factores are;
*Make sure your muscles are warmed up a little. You don’t want to just sit down and try to stretch tight muscles that have has no blood pumped into them to warm em up.
*NO bouncing into the stretch..slow static movement
*Good deep breathing both inhale and exhale
*LISTEN TO YOUR BODY. YOUR INNER THIGHS WILL TELL YOU ok stop stop stop…far enough…DO WHAT THEY SAY..LOL
*Lift UP & OUT of your hip joints…then let your “jutted” out chest lead the way.
If you do this preferably everyday to stay limber, which is so important as we mature to keep those muscles elongated so we don’t start to atrophy, results will come.
If faithfully done…takes all of a 5-7 minute warm up and maybe 10 minutes for full circuit…so 20 minutes approximately…every day you will find your self a little closer to your chest resting on the floor. You will notice your legs are able to withstand a wider stance when doing the stretch.
Have fun and DON’T FORGET TO BREATH :p PEOPLE TEND TO HOLD THEIR BREATH? Defeats the purpose for sure.
Let me know how it go. Men, due to their anatomy, tend to start this with knees bent slightly up off the floor…involuntarily. Thats to be expected, but as you stretch and elongate those muscle & tendons every day, the legs will be able to flatten.
Liken it to a really tight rubber band. The more you stretch it, the longer and looser it becomes….same concept here.
OK lol That is probably WAY more than you wanted, but as a die hard stretch fanatic, I am obligated to give it to you in full so as not to rip anything. Been there, done that and it takes FOREVER if ever to heal.
Let me know how goes your progression…just don’t give up and you will see and feel great rewards. Good luck…that is a great fitness goal to strive for!
Yes…posts are good. I know I am enjoying popping in when I can.
Hey Joan–
“Lift UP & OUT of your hip joints…then let your “jutted” out chest lead the way”… priceless, this speaks volumes to me, as sometimes I force the stretch from my lower back, instead of from my hip sockets… great tips. I need to be reminded of tips like this and the “gentleness” type of tips, because in Martial Arts, many times we strech “macho-style”… no pain, no gain.
And no, it wasn’t more than I wanted… I truly appreciated it!
J-dude;
No problem. I love to teach fitness the RIGHT way, and help people in doing so.
Yes, you are not alone in the lower back dilemma. I remember WAY back when I first became addicted to the endorpin high you get off of a good workout, trying to force and bring it from the lower back…not good.
Kathy Smith is a HUGE name in Fitness and was a mentor in my learning so much. The first time i heard those words “Lift up and out from your hips?” WTH?? OHHHHHH ok yeaaaa Ohh that feels awesome! You know when you are doing it right, because your body lets you know otherwise if you are in tune and listening.
OK No more machismo stretching! LOL It catches up sooner or later