I had a flustered call from a client this morning, which actually really annoyed me. She was on a first date, and when she told the guy she wouldn’t sleep with him right away, he got angry and called her a tease. I’ve been in this business for a long time, but I still get angry with some guys behavior. It’s one of the reasons I’m so passionate about teaching guys how to relate to and connect with women properly, and with respect. You see, here’s the thing…

Real men who understand women, and men who have sex on a regular basis, will NEVER react angrily to a woman just because she won’t give out on the first date. The only men who get angry and aggressive toward women about sex, are the ones who don’t get sex very much. They’re so starved sexually, that when the chance comes along they get emotionally attached and hyper-forceful.

If you’re with a guy who starts getting frustrated you won’t have sex with him, he’s just shown you his hand. He’s come right out and said, “Hi, I’m an insecure guy who doesn’t have sex very much. I must have sex with you now, because if I don’t I won’t get the chance for another year!”

Honestly ladies, you need to stay as far away from men like this as possible. They’re not mature enough to hold down a relationship, and if problems don’t show themselves immediately, the will eventually!

If a man accuses you of being a tease, show him the door and tell him to grow up. 

I’ll tell you a secret about real men; we actually quite like being teased. It can be sexy. Obviously you don’t want to overplay it and push him away, but a little teasing can spice things up. Think of teasing as foreplay. It’s all part of building sexual tension with each other. The more you tease me the more passionate the sex will be. Call your man out. Challenge him. Look him in the eyes and challenge him about it. A real man will stay and play, the man-boys will run!

And here’s the thing. Don’t EVER feel pressured into having sex with a man. Don’t let him force you into anything, even if you really like him. If he cares about you, he’ll wait until you’re ready. Don’t forget you’re a powerful woman, and don’t ever let a weak man-boy take that away from you.  Dating and relationships can be fun. It can be a wonderful dance full of pulling, pushing, chasing, and swinging. Just remember to play by rules that suit both of you. I won’t stand for guys behaving aggressively to women, and as a woman, neither should you!