Child wont save your realtionshipI had an email from a lady the other day, and it’s an email other women have sent me too. To be honest, it’s actually quite scary and needs addressing. These emails come from women who are married or in a committed relationship. Things aren’t going well. In fact, things are damn right falling apart and not working. In a bid to save their relationship, or make their marriage better, they decide to try to have one more kid. In their mind, another kid will solve everything. “Well, little James will have someone to play with, and we’ll be able to spend more time together!

How many of you have made (or been tempted) to make that mistake?

Having “one more kid” is not the right way to save your relationship. Another kid adds a ton more stress on the relationship. Children are non-stop. They need attention. Just listen to the way kids speak, “I need water now. I need to eat now. I need this. I need that.”

They need all the time. They can’t do it on their own yet so they look to YOU to give them your time. It’s a big mistake to think another child can turn a failing relationship around. People think another child will solidify the family, when in reality it actually just makes it harder when you break up. It makes it harder when things don’t work out and the relationship goes backwards. Now you have more kids shuffling from home to home. You have more kids fighting over who gets to spend more time with Mommy or Daddy.

Can Children Save A Marriage?

Have any of you made the “Just one more kid” mistake?

If you’re in a relationship that isn’t going well right now, ask yourself, “What effect will one more kid have on the relationship? How much less time will we have together? How much harder will it be to split up”

I see women stuck in miserable relationships for 10, 12, 15 years because they had more kids in a bid to turn things around. This is your life. Your life is being handed to you right now. Your life is all you have right now. So let’s not have one more kid, no matter what your fantasies are. No matter whether you think it’s going to change the way you feel about each other. It’s not going to help your relationship at all. Relationships need to be on solid ground when you have children, especially when they start talking and becoming demanding 24/7.

One more kid ain’t going to cut it!

It’s just going to make the relationship even harder, and it’s not fair on the child. It’s time to get real if you’re in this situation. Don’t make what could be a massive mistake. Any of you who have been in this situation, you know exactly what I’m talking about. In fact, it would be great to hear some of your stories.