Socially-awkward-social-weirdo-david-wygantEvery sit down with a group of friends and everybody’s laughing, having a good time.

Then one woman comes over and talks to just a few of the guys but ignores one of them.

The guy they ignore is usually the socially awkward guy.

Women smell social awkwardness from miles away. They know when you’re socially awkward, they feel it by the way you look at them, by the way you act, by the way you relate to your friends.

So we’re sitting in this group at Café Gratitude and one of the guys was very socially awkward. When he spoke to me or Obi or any of the other guys, he looked down at the ground.

Super awkward.

So we’re all talking to the waitress. Having a good time, laughing. Having great conversations that were fun, natural, and easy.

So instead of allowing the conversation to flow naturally and contribute to what is being said the socially awkward guy decided to change the course of the conversation entirely.

He looked at her and threw out a scenario that he probably read on the Internet from one of those so-called pick up artists.

It was attraction killer #1.

He looked at her and said, “You know, I’ve got to ask you a question.”

She was taken aback by the whole thing, considering that it disrupted the flow and was the first thing he’d said all evening.

“Question, what do you mean?”

She looked at him curiously, thinking that he maybe had something good, maybe something pertaining to the conversation we were having.

He looked at her and said, “Let me ask you a question.”

“You already said that.”

“Oh yeah, so, uh, would you be willing to date a man who has sole custody of twins?”

She looked at him with a puzzled expression on her face.

“Umm, why?”

“Well, a friend of mine has sole custody of his twins and I was wondering if somebody like you would date him.”

She looked at him and gave him a weird look, then she left. She said that she had to go serve somebody some table that wasn’t even there.

I watched her expression while he asked her and it was the most awkward thing.

First off, guys, wake up, who cares about your friends! Don’t ask questions like, “I was wondering what you’d think about dating one of my friends…”

It is the number one mistake men make. They bring in this imaginary friend and they abruptly change the subject matter. And every time this happens, the woman instantly knows who the social weirdo in the group is.

So instead of interrupting with some stupid scenario and trying to start a whole new conversation, just contribute to the conversation that is already happening.

And the conversation we were having was great, too! It was about a friend of mine, who had an issue about going down on women, and we were talking about it openly, and all of a sudden Mr. Conversation Killer decided to come in and have an entirely new conversation based on absolutely nothing.

Follow the flow of the conversation. It’s the number one thing that turns a woman on, and its the number on thing that turns a woman off when you don’t do it right.

It’s a great skill. It’s called listening, and that’s what women are attracted to: men that listen and react to a great conversation.

Try it out, social weirdos.