I got a great email the other day from someone that I need to share with all of you. The email went like this:

Dear David,

Personally, I would like to thank you so much for all of your fantastic, wonderful, insightful and intelligent support and advice.

I look forward to more.

My question is simple.

I’m seeing a great guy and we have great fun together. I feel we are soul mates, made for each other. We’re both youthful, 57-years-old and compliment each other in most ways.

The problem is he seems to be constantly interested in younger women and I feel like if they were also interested in him, he would just dump me. I feel very insecure. I do not show this feeling in any way. I’m happy, funny and light when we’re together. Please David, what should I do?

Thank you.

You’re in quite a pickle, I must say.

First off, one of the things that really makes me feel not-so-good, is that you feel very insecure.

You see, you’re youthful, you’re 57, you’re at the point in your life where you have figured it out.

You’re in what I call the amazing part of life, where the games don’t need to be played at all. You realize that we have limited time left in this world so why play games and why do things that no longer feel right for you?

Let Go of the Insecurities

We don’t need to feel insecure. When you feel insecure, you’re not going to be able to let go emotionally. You’re not going to be able to feel safe. You’re not going to be able to blossom in a relationship with this person. You may be soul mates, you may have a soul connection with him, but his soul right now is wandering.

You feel that he seems to be constantly interested in much younger women.

You need to find out why. You need to have the conversation with him.

You’re too smart, too youthful, and too beautiful to let this bullshit go on.

why men want younger womenHe needs to grow up and make a decision. Sure, every man’s fantasy is to be this stud with younger women, but the reality is different than fantasy. He might just have a fantasy about it and that’s it. It might just be an ego bump for him and that’s it. You need to have the conversation. You need to express exactly where you’re at, otherwise this relationship will not go anywhere because you will constantly feel insecure. If you’re feeling insecure and feeling like he’s going to dump you then you know what, you’ll manifest exactly what is going to happen.

Conversation needs to be had.

I know you’re happy, funny, and light when you’re together, but deep down your subconscious is destroying that happy, funny and light feeling.

It’s Time to Have The Talk

My suggestion to you, my amazing friend, is to have the conversation.

The conversation is going to be a challenge for you, but it’s going to be something very enlightening. Don’t think about what to say. Say exactly how you feel. Don’t worry about an outcome. Don’t worry that you’re going to ruin the relationship. A relationship is not a relationship unless there is an open communication channel between two people where they’re able to both express things – fears, insecurities, and whatever else comes up. That is what a relationship is. So right now, you’re basically having fun with this dark cloud in the background.

It’s time to have the talk with him. It’s time to get it out, and it’s time to see what this is all about before you waste any more time.