It plagues the majority of us in one form or another.

You can’t avoid it.  There’s nobody who’s secure 100% of the time every single day.  It doesn’t exist.

Maybe you look at a guy like Tony Robbins, you look at myself and think, man, those guys look like they have their shit together at all times.

But that’s perception.  Everybody has their moments.  Everybody has their moments where they just don’t feel great about themselves.  Now the question is, what do you do in those moments?  Do you project them on somebody else?  Or do you ask yourself why you feel this way?

Whenever we project our insecurity on somebody else, it means that we’re not looking deep enough of why we feel a certain way.

You see, insecurity, when it comes up, it comes up to teach you a lesson.  There’s always a lesson in everything that we have.  Let’s say you feel insecure about your body.

And let’s say you’re with your partner and you go to your partner and just go, “You’re not attracted to me.”

“You don’t like my body.”

So what you’re doing is you’re taking your insecurity and you’re throwing it back on them.

Instead of really saying this to yourself.

“Man, when I look in the mirror, I see my body and I just don’t like it.”

“I don’t like my arms.”

“I don’t like my ass.”

And what you do in that moment is just ask yourself this question-

“How can someone else love your body when you don’t love your body?  How is that possible?”
It’s not.

There is no chance in the world that you can love — that someone else — can love your body if you don’t.

See that insecurity can really start you growing in ways you’ve never grown before.

You have no chance of having this relationship succeed and give you all that you need if you’re constantly projecting your fears and insecurities on a partner.

So when this comes up, you need to look at yourself and say to yourself –

“Man, I don’t love my body.  So I’m not going to ask my partner if they love my body, if they’re attracted to me, because I know that I am just projecting my fears and insecurities and there’s no way in the world they’re going to be able to love my body if I don’t love it.”

Then you need to ask yourself this question:

“How do I love my body more?  What do I need to do?  What action do I need to take in order for me to go and love myself even more?”

Then you need to get honest with yourself and ask yourself this:

“Am I doing all the things that I need to do to make myself more secure, happier with myself?”

The answer is no.
Then you go to the step above and you start doing it.
That’s how you stop projecting your insecurity.