Let me ask you all a question. Does watching the NFL playoffs sometimes make you look back at your athletic past and say, “Well, I could be Peyton Manning if I had only worked harder at it?”
If your answer is yes, I say to you … Really?! Come on now.
The fact that you would even compare yourself to anyone else is a sign of emotional immaturity. The only person you need to compare yourself to is yourself.
It doesn’t matter what area of your life or yourself you want to be better. Ask yourself how you were one year ago compared to how you are now.
Have you grown in the last year? What have you learned? How have you progressed? What do you still need to learn, and what are you going to do to get there?
I receive emails all the time in which people will write things like, “David, I’m just not as good as my friends with women. I go out with my friend Bill and he’s so great at meeting women. I just wish I were him.”
Let me tell you something. With that attitude, you’ll never get good at it.
What you should be saying instead in your email to me is this: “God, I went out with my friend Bill the other night and it was so much fun. He’s amazing with women, and I just learned so many things from him and had such a great time! I’m so happy that he has this skill, and I look at him as kind of a role model.”
Never compare yourself to other people. Never look at somebody else and say “I wish I had as much money as my friend Tom,” or “I wish I had as good a marriage as my friend Jimmy.”
Instead, go to your friend Tom and find out how he made all that money. Learn his secrets, so you can incorporate them into your own life. If your friend Jimmy has such a great marriage, then sit down one night with him and his wife and ask them what the secret is to their happy marriage.
You do this so that you can learn from successful people. That is for what successful people are there. Successful people are there so that you can learn from them. They are not there to make you jealous.
If you are jealous of other people, you are never going to learn from them. Jealousy is an ugly emotion. If you’re happy about other people’s success, on the other hand, then you are able to sit down and ask them about how they achieved their success.
Everyone loves to share their journey, and life is all about paying it forward. If you pay it forward, then you are passing good lessons on to someone else.
So, the next time you’re comparing yourself to somebody and you experience those tinges of jealousy, remember this blog. Instead of comparing yourself to them, ask them what they did to make themselves such an expert in the field of women, marriage, money or whatever it might be.
That is what it’s all about. That’s what I’m here to do for you.
How did I get so good? Well I give you everything that I’ve ever done, and show you how I learned and overcame all of my own struggles, on my Community site and in my videos. I share everything that has worked for me.
I just want to continue to enlighten you and help you grow as people. It makes me happy to share my knowledge with all of you.
So take jealousy out of the equation, and put admiration into it. You’ll find life will become a lot easier and a lot more fulfilling.
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