Hey Everyone,

This is the third installment of my new Tuesday “Q&A” blog format . . . except that this week it’s coming to you on Saturday. If this is the first Q&A blog you’ve read, these are blogs where I’m posting answers to questions submitted from my newsletter subscribers. Each blog answers a question from a man and a woman.

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Now, let’s move on to today’s questions!

**Reader Question 1**

Hi David! i have been following you for a long time now.  I have found ur information better than any mystery method.  I remember you once said in a blog to email me any excuses you have on approaching a woman.  The one i have kills me to death.  

Please don’t laugh but i have PE or Premature Ejaculation.  Sex for me lasts 30 sec to minute.  How can one approach a women, get her number, have sex with her that lasts a second and keep her?  

Any advice would help me with this struggle.  Its a struggle that has almost pushed me over the edge.  all i could use is a push in the right direction.  Thanks

**My Answer To Reader 1’s Question**

Hey Matt, that’s a great question!

There are a couple things you need to do, but let me tell you this first: premature ejaculation will end. It’s not going to be something you’re stuck with for the rest of your life.

One of the things to make sure you do so that women don’t get as bothered about this as you think they’re going to be, is a lot of foreplay. You need to go down on her. You need to bring her to orgasm with your mouth and your fingers.

You need to spend time playing with her, teasing her, and maybe giving her erotic massage where you touch her whole body.  Make sure you spend a good hour just giving her a massage before you even touch any of her private parts or even a breast. By doing this, you’re going to be able to please her. 

Here’s another thing you can do. After you please her, you’re going to want to have sex. So what you need to do is have sex slowly. Try having sex with the lights out, because if you can’t see her then maybe you won’t have premature ejaculation as quickly.

When you’re having sex slowly, try just concentrating on what she’s feeling. You just relax, breathe, take it slow.  Don’t worry and don’t think. 

The last thing you need to do is to realize that is not something that’s going to last a long time. You might have premature ejaculation now, but in the future you may not have it.  So don’t worry about it.  Everybody has a time in their life where they come too fast. 

So, really, I think really you just need to relax.  Enjoy it, and really spend a lot of time pleasing her.  Then what happens is that she’ll understand your issue, and she’ll help you get past it.

**Reader Question 2**

What are your thoughts on guys claiming sexual harassment…

I was kind of flirting with this co worker at my job and we were sharing the smiles, the real ones not the I am friendly ones and he sends me this blank email forwarded from another co worker right, so I email him back and try to open him up, ask him about christmas etc.  O.k. in the 1st email he was asked to give a student a “pep talk” to get them back on track with studies.  I wrote that I would wanted a “pep talk” to used the quotes cause I was using the same wordage she used.  He totally got offended and would not talk to me for 3 days.  I didn’t know that till much later but from that point on, all my playful banter was basically forwarded and annotated to suggest I was harassing him. 
I was trying to talk to him, gave him a nickname Viking boy, teased him about a piece of cake he missed out on.  I mean that is it, the guy just totally freaked and complained to my boss.  Which was embarrassing enough because I didn’t mean anything raunchy just friendly, I know you can’t read all the emails but I only sent like 4 over one week and nothing in there was suggestive.  Save a nickname.  I know you would have us keep going out and practice, but I am so floored by his reaction, I have stopped going out and smiling and talking to people.  That sucks.  What are your thoughts?

**My Answer To Reader 2’s Question**

So you’ve got this awkward situation at work with a guy with whom you were flirting and just having some fun. Here’s the thing. 

You gave him a nickname and you teased him about a piece of cake he missed out on in reference to you. The reason why he freaked out about this, was because you went from just talking to really becoming sexual with him.

Nicknames are all about sexuality.  Anytime a woman teases a man and calls him a nickname, there’s a sexual undertone to it.  I’m sure you were looking at him too. You knew you were flirting. He probably was not interested, so when you started flirting more heavily with him he just freaked out.

Here’s the other major thing I see that happened here. So after this, you stopped going out, smiling and talking to people? That’s ridiculous. This is a one-time thing that happened.

This is what I don’t understand about people who are single. They will try something once and if it doesn’t work, then they just shut down. I call it going on hiatus. I mean, think about it. This is a one-time thing that didn’t work. There are no 100% guarantees in life.

Think about your career. Think about professional sports athletes. Nothing we do is 100%. So you got blown off one time. Keep going! Don’t stop. Flirt with men and have fun.

It’s not always going to work out, but you are going to meet somebody a lot faster if you do it every single day and you don’t allow the rejections to get to you. Shutting down is the biggest mistake you can possibly make because it means that you’re not open to the wonderful world of meeting somebody.