Dear David WygantIt’s “Dear David” time again on the blog, and tonight’s is a little different.

It’s different because the email was written by a woman (Thanks for writing in Susan), and because she actually has some great advice from a female standpoint. It relates to some of the biggest online dating mistakes men make, and she backs up some of the things I always pick you guys up about.

So, without further ado, here’s the email she sent me…

Dear David,

I hope you don’t mind me writing like this but I read an article you wrote recently about online dating mistakes made by men, and I want to agree with a couple of the biggest mistakes you point out. I’ve been on the online dating “scene” for a few months now, and I’ve experienced these things first hand, so I know they’re things men do for real.

The first deal breaker for me is how many times he talks about sex when we first start talking. The second deal breaker is how soon he brings up the subject. I get guys who send sexual messages from the beginning and I just ignore them, but then other guys send a great first message that intrigues me, but the moment I reply they start asking about sex!

It’s like they think if a woman replies it’s their green light to start talking dirty. Get to know us first before you start asking us our favorite position. Find out what we’re like as people before you start asking us if we like men who go down on us.

The other big no-no from my point of view is going overboard with the compliments. It’s nice to be told I’m an attractive woman, but sending me messages every few hours telling me “I’m beautiful.” And “I can’t wait to meet you, and hold you, and show you how much of an angel you are,” is just a little creepy.

We want to meet men online, not a stalker!

Anyway, I thought you might like to share a woman’s point of view and show the guys what you say is accurate!

Keep up the good work!

Thanks again for taking the time to write in Susan. And guys, I’ve said these things a thousand times. Don’t start talking sex the second you meet a woman online, and cut all the flowery BS so early on. Women either think you’re a creep, or some kind of sex addict.

Take the time to get to know a woman. Speak to her on the phone or on Skype. If things go well, maybe arrange a date. Just take your time, and don’t jump in with the sex talk. It puts women off, and makes you look stupid. You wouldn’t walk up to a woman in a grocery store and start asking her about her favorite sex position, so why do it in the online dating arena?