What do you do when you don’t meet your goals?

Many of you are really hard on yourselves, and I want to talk to you about this today.

So you set a goal. Let’s say your goal was to lose 20 pounds by May 1st. Or your goal was to go out and meet 30 women – or date 25 people – whatever it might be.

What do you do when you don’t meet your goal? Are you kind? Are you accepting of yourself? Do you reevaluate your goals and the path that you took? Do you make the necessary changes to meet your goals?

Or are you someone that is so hard on yourself that you basically beat yourself up for a week? Do you say to yourself, I can’t do this; I wasn’t even able to meet my goal!

If you didn’t meet your goal, it means that your game plan was not right. It doesn’t mean that you should quit, and it doesn’t mean that you should stop. You don’t have to stop the journey that you are on. You just have to reevaluate the game plan – there was simply something wrong with it.

But if you are someone who will give up just because you didn’t meet your goal – you have to look deeper. Look deep within yourself, and ask yourself this question: why didn’t I meet my goal? What happened? What were the circumstances that didn’t allow me to meet that goal? And what can I do differently to attain this goal in the future?

And you need to consider that your goal might not have been realistic. If your goal was to go out on 100 dates in three months, and the most dates you’ve ever been on in a three-month period was five, you have to be more realistic.

Make yourself smaller goals that lead to a larger goal. When you set your big goal, do you have small goals in between to keep you on track?

So what do you do in that situation? Instead of beating yourself up, I want you to take a look at your goal and create a whole new plan, including little steps along the way, so you can achieve that larger goal.