The other day I got an e-mail from someone.

I get one of these, once a week.

It usually goes something like this:

Dear David,

I bought your program.

I went out and I did the smile technique.

A person came over and started talking to me.

But then, then they walked away and they started talking about me, and they laughed, and they told their friends. And I was made a fool of.

I never want to do this again.

Life is a giant projection. The person walked away because they either found you:

A. Boring

B. Closed off

C. Non-approachable

D. Not interesting

E. No chemistry

F. All of the above

People don’t walk away and laugh at you, nor they do talk about you at all. It’s just a projection of how you feel about yourself. That’s all it is. You see when I go and I talk to somebody for the very, very first time, I have a conversation with them. Whether it’s three seconds.

Fifteen seconds.

Ten minutes.

I never think about what they think afterward because I’m not a mind reader.

You see, if I was a mind reader, I wouldn’t be wasting my time writing this shit.

I would be off on an island.

Eating coconuts.

Watching Marianne and Ginger bake me coconut cream pie, for those of you who remember Gilligan’s Island.

I’d be able to predict more interesting things.

Like what stocks are going up tomorrow.

Who’s going to win the Super Bowl.

Who’s going to win the election in 2020.

And the list goes on and on.

So you see, people who are projectors, project their insecurities and vomit them all over everybody else.

When you think you know what somebody said, or you think you know what other people said – and it always revolves around something that makes you look like a fool, or something that makes you not look good, I think it’s the way you feel about yourself. You’re just projecting your insecurities all over other people.

That’s really what you’re doing.

You’re projecting your insecurities around other people because you don’t want to do the work yourself. So you’re always looking to make other people the scapegoat for your fear and your insecurities.

So what’s the lesson here. Work on yourself. Because if you find yourself talking about what other people think about you. Or you find yourself talking about what you think other people are saying.

Or if you think that when you go and talk to somebody, they’re laughing at you.

It’s actually you projecting that out, because you’re not secure enough with who you are. You don’t know who you are if you haven’t spent the time figuring yourself out. No one’s laughing at you. The only thing that’s laughing at you, is the paranoid little schizophrenic person inside your mind that is consistently not allowing you to work on the shit you need work on. That’s all.