NYGood day!

Can I scream it out loud to you?

For those of you who have a hangover, let me say it really loudly…”Good Day!”

Has everyone had a wonderful, over-hyped night? I hope some of you took my advice to not chase the night. For those of you who did chase the night away, may I be the first to say, “I told you so!” I told you that New Year’s Eve party was not going to be what you thought it was going to be.

That’s okay, though, because I have a secret I’m going to share with you:

It’s a brand new year with 365 days. You probably woke up this morning––like every New Year’s Day––with a list of New Year’s resolutions.

Some of you may want to lose some weight this year; some of you may want to make more money; some of you may want to make this year your best year ever of meeting people.

You have this new sense about things––a clean slate feeling. You tell yourself, “This year is going to be different.” You almost felt a giddy feeling when you got up this morning.

For some of you, that giddy feeling was in your stomach as you retched over the bowl getting the last bits of 2010’s alcohol out of your body. The rest of you woke up and thought “It’s a new year. This year I am going to stick to my resolutions. Things are going to be different.”

I really hate to rain on the New Year’s Day parade. I’ve seen rain on the New Year’s Day parade, and those floats don’t look good all wet. As a matter of fact, I don’t want to put a damper on anyone’s giddy feeling, but I have to share something with you.

Even though it’s New Year’s Day, it is really just a Tuesday morning after a Monday night…and you are still the same person. I am not saying you’re a bad person at all. In fact, you are probably an amazing person. I think everyone is an amazing person.

To be 100% upfront and honest with you, though, nothing has changed between last night and today, unless last night you went on some spiritual retreat that overnight changed your thinking and your mindset. The truth is that nothing really has changed.

Most New Year’s resolutions are broken almost immediately. We’re human. We love to be hopeful. We love it. We want to believe that things are magically going to be different.

When we see a different year on the calendar, psychologically we think “Things really are going to be different this year. I know they are!” Knowing and believing, however, are different from doing. The “doing” part is where the problem usually exists.

If your goal is to lose weight and get into better shape, then you better learn discipline if you want to make that happen. If your goal this year is to meet somebody and to fall in love, how are you going to do it if you don’t have the skill set or the confidence to meet people?

If you haven’t done anything differently (meaning doing some intensive work on yourself with a coach or a motivational program), things are not going to be different just because the calendar has changed from 2012 to 2013. Change happens because YOU change, not because the calendar does.

All of you know that I am one of the most supportive people out there. I truly believe in the good in all people…but I also tell it like it is.

If you are serious about wanting to make some changes this year in any aspect of your life – whether it’s in the area of love, health or career – then you better be prepared to invest a lot of time and hard work to get that accomplished.

There is no magic pill. Wishing for something to happen will not cause it to manifest itself in your life. You’re not a genie, it’s not going to happen that way.

You want a year filled with everything you’ve always wanted to experience and become?

Make it happen.