Are you proud that you’re stubborn? I’ve met a lot of stubborn people and they’re always proud that they’re stubborn.

They’ll even start conversations with, “You know, I’m really stubborn and I’m really proud of it.”

And I think to myself, great, continue to be stubborn, which means you continue to miss a lot of what life presents you.

You see, it’s okay to have convictions about how you feel, convictions about who you are. But stubborn people tend to make the same mistakes over, and over, and over again.

A friend of mine recently wanted to change their workouts. They thought they knew it all. They were stubborn. They continued to do the same workouts because they never grew at all. Not that they were in bad shape at all. His muscles were great, except he wanted to put on a little thighs.

So he continued to do the same workouts and figured if he did them a little bit more, he would grow.

I introduced him to a friend of mine who’s a trainer who finally told him, you’re never going to grow if you’re doing the same things over and over again.

So he gave him different things to do.

My friend was stubborn. He wouldn’t do it. He didn’t like the exercises because they were hard, they were more of a challenge. And he thought that he could, well, get it done on his own.

He continued to be stubborn and nothing changed until finally one day he finally gave in, six months later and decided to do the exercises my friend suggested. And all of a sudden, as if by magic, he started growing. Stubborn.

People are stubborn.

The same things will come at them over and over again and they’ll continue to do things the same exact way, and they’ll continue to be stubborn. And stubborn gets you nowhere.

You don’t grow when you’re stubborn. You’re just in a pattern. You’re in a pattern of, well, content, you’re in a pattern of wanting to make changes, but you have a fear of actually making the changes.

Some of the guys I’ve met, I’ve told them exactly how to go and meet women. I’ve given them the exact blueprint to do it.

And they don’t trust it, and they’re stubborn, and they just continue to do it the other way.

Stubborn kills you.

The more stubborn you are, the more your life remains exactly the same, the less chance you’ll have of growing, and getting where you want to get in life, it’s what being stubborn is.

You’ve ever had the same circular conversations with people.

And they’ve continued to feel like they’re just butting heads with you. You’re stubborn. I try not to be stubborn. I try to be open-minded. Are there parts of me that are stubborn? Sure. Are there things that I know that I’m stubborn about?

Absolutely. But I’m aware of them and I spend a lot of time working on them because I know if I continue to be stubborn about certain things, things will always remain the same. Because if you look at what you’re stubborn about and look at the changes that you’ve always desired and wanted, ask yourself this question.

Have you gotten there? Most of the time the answer is no.

Most of the time you haven’t gotten where you want to get because you’ve been too stubborn to get there.

Look at the calendar right now and look at your dating life.

Is it where you want it to be at this point of the year, as we head into May?

Stubborn. The reason you’re not where you want to get is you’re stubborn. You can’t make the changes that you should make, the suggestions, books that you’ve read, the advice that you got, you won’t implement it because you’re stubborn. The phrase, whatever word you want to use.

Time to start looking at your stubborn characteristic and see how they are holding you back from growing in life.