Finally, the waiting is over. The cast of the 50 Shades of Grey movie have been unveiled, and women around the world are starting to get hot over Mr.Grey all over again. Can you imagine how much money that movie’s going to take at the box office?

But what is it about the Christian Grey character women from every corner of the world are so in love with?

Do you know what I think it is?

Women are starving emotionally and sexually. You’re desperate for a man who passionately desires you. You long to be pursued and claimed. You pine for a strong, sexy man to make you feel like a woman. Women want to be ravished, and Christian Grey knows how to ravish a woman!

The trouble is men don’t do these things any more. If you’re lucky, you’ll get a few guys stumble over to you on a night out, hit you with some cheesy pickup line, and expect you to fall into their arms. Guys have become lazy.

Porn has made modern men sexually selfish and passive. They don’t care about seduction, and they don’t understand seduction and arousal has to start in the mind for a woman. You have to seduce her emotionally and mentally, before you can seduce her physically. The Mr.Grey character understands seduction. He understands why you need to get inside a woman’s head before her pants.

That’s one of the things women love about him. Did you read the 50 Shades series? Didn’t you imagine Christian was seducing you personally? I bet you did.  

So what else do women love about Grey? He’s not a nice guy really. And in many ways he’s broken, but he’s strong, confident, and dominant. He knows what he wants and he’s not afraid to go after it. That’s the sort of confidence women love.

So what can you do if you’re dating passive men?

Can you turn them into your own Christian Grey?

Yes you can, but you need to talk to them. Tell them what you want. Most guys need to be told what you want them to do. It’s not they don’t want to please you. It’s more they’re scared to make a wrong move. Tell them how you want him to touch you. Tell him what feels good. Tell him how you like to be licked and caressed.

You have to communicate. Not all guys are confident enough to ravish you without knowing for sure you want to be ravished. Let him know you want him. Let him know you want him to claim you. If you’re open and he’s still passive, tell him to man up or ship out.

You want to date a man not a mouse right?

Grey is all man, and if you open yourself up to a guy and tell him what you want, you could be going to bed tonight with your very own Christian Grey.