I’ve been told that I can be a bit brazen with my words.
They say that I speak on whatever comes to my head.
And I do.
I find that the most successful men are men that don’t give a fuck.
But I wasn’t always this way. I started by doing really silly things that would get me out of my head and into the present moment. Then it became much easier to just speak my mind.
Watch as I go through one of my favorite exercises with a recent men’s bootcamp:
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Well...they sound like a bunch of football hooligans. Nobody in the London Underground will be surprised.
But serious: this exercise would make sense ONLY if you would do it alone. It is easy in a group...
Going out in a big mob, and doing stupid shit to annoy people, does NOTHING to improve your dating life.
Walking up to a hot girl and saying, " hey, I know this is totally random, but I saw you over here, and thought you were really cute, and I had to come over and introduce myself, I'm John.", DOES help to improve your social life.
I need someone to push me to do the latter.
"Twinkle twinkle little star" would do NOTHING for me, except prove that I can go out in public, and do stupid shit. That, to me, is NOT "not giving a fuck". Doing a DIRECT approach, and not caring wether you get blown out or not, IS "not giving a fuck".
If this is David's bootcamp tactics, I'm glad I missed that Chicago Bootcamp.
getting used to doing something your not yet used to is the point, first twinkle then approach, simple baby steps from the familliar zone, Im guessing this was the first one.
I would've been more impressed if David Wygant actually recorded himself singing the song while being ALONE and walking around the tube.
I get your point, Wygant, nonethelesss.
Okay, here's a curveball for you about giving a f@*k:
This summer I gave a lot of f@*k about women and because of that found out about Wygant and invested a lot of time into my personal development. Even got a personal breakthrough and a date out of it in the end.
Then suddenly I honestly don't give a f@*k about women anymore for weeks and months. So I spend all my time making iPhone apps, exercising, hanging out with my guyfriends, hosting nerd parties, etc instead of fussing about women or 'social skills'.
Now I give just a little bit of a f@*k and am putting just a little bit of effort into it again.
What the f@*k?
OK, wait, I just got it: it's about not giving a f@*k about whether she wants me to f@*k her or go f@*k myself, NOT about not giving a f@*k about women + dating in general. I think. Make sense?
I guess we need to realize that there are a lot of guys out there who are so shy and socially awkward that even walking through the London Underground singing songs scares them. For these guys, it is a big thing, and it probably helps them.
I am often amazed at what people struggle with. But it is the reality.
This is "slightly" off topic, but I think there is a lot of things more important than "not giving a fuck." I honestly think the number one thing when meeting women is being in shape, and losing weight.
I was reading another "pickup" blog that was about the importance of getting into shape. It was talking about how even if you dress well enough to hide weight gain, it shows in your face.
It used Val Kilmer as an example, and showed side by side pictures of him. On the left, on from his "Top Gun" days, and on the right, one recent, after he's become a fat slob. The difference is HUGE.
I got to thinking about how different my own face looked when I was 160 lbs., vs now at nearly 200. It's no wonder women were bugging me all day long when I was thin, and never give me a glance anymore.
So, what am I doing about it.. well, I was up to 206 lbs. recently. I'm down to 198 now. I've cut out all sugars, and starchy carbs out of my diet. No white bread, pasta, rice, potatoes, or sweets. I'm hitting the gym often too. My weight is dropping again.
It's going to take me a while to get back under 180 lbs., but I'm pretty determined now, and I think I will pull it off this time.
I truly think that getting back in to physical shape will do more for my dating life than anything else would.
I'm proud of you, man. It takes a lot of willpower to cut all that crap out of your diet. It'll do wonders for how you feel though. A lot of people would rather be fat than have to give up their precious bread and sugar.
I don't think a health guru has ever said this, but hot wings are your best friend in situations like that. You can go out with your friends, order something that no one is going to judge you for ordering, and there's basically no carbs in what you ate. I don't do it for weight management though. I do it just to feel better. Your energy level is so much higher when you don't eat grains.
Collin,, it's rough at first, but after a while you don't even crave any of that high carb / starchy / sugary stuff anymore. The problem is that the one time you go out with people, and eat a bunch of crap, you get the craving again, and it's hard to leave that stuff alone. Trying to avoid the temptation.
Nice one, John. I read an article recently that stated that women apparently prefer guys with about 12% body fat. They did all kinds of experiments, and that was the result.
Val Kilmer is hilarious...from 'Iceman' to 'Arctic Walrus'.
By the way, people who stay thin do not seem to age much either.
Hilarious video David. Definitely got the message! Annoying how your comments section is always littered with people saying how wrong you are every time though.
North Korean propaganda and simply being annoying aren't the same things. Sure, you have the right to be annoying, but you're a distraction. This isn't about a single negative comment. It's about stupid negative comments from people who pretend to know more than David every single fucking blog yet stay here whining every day-and actual conversations about the blog don't get far when people start in with this bullshit. Instead of accepting they don't understand, they say NOPE ITS WRONG. Well thanks for your insight but it's pretty fucking counter productive. I'm not saying its you either.. but god damn, some people need their accounts banned.
Good job, John!
I seriously dislike fatness, I will be honest. A little bit is okay...like 15-20 extra? But not 100. I don't need a ripped guy either, though. Those guys are usually no fun. They are always in the gym, never drink, yawn. BUT. I need a man who works out at least somewhat. Someone who values fitness but is not obsessed.
That's just me, though. I have plenty of gfs who like a King of Queens fat dude. The funny, cuddly teddy bear.
I've always been curious how sex works between two very fat people. I mean, if neither one can really move that well, how are they supposed to nail each other to the headboard?
They like a big, fat, Kevin James looking guy??
Seriously???
I find that very hard to believe.
I just want to get back to a lean weight of under 180 lbs. I've been trying for a long time. I'm pretty motivated this time around though.
Friends tell me I'm not fat, and don't look like I weigh close to 200 lbs. .. I can tell though. I got down to 158 lbs. once, and never felt better. Gained it all back though. Been up / down in weight ever since.
I'm just too short (5'8") for 190+ lbs.
I know two potbellied people who have no problem attracting gorgeous women and another who married a beautiful intelligent woman and makes her very happy. Believe it.
I just noticed something though. I think it takes a certain kind of personality to attract women being plus-sized. Melissa said 'funny, cuddly teddy bear'. And the well rounded guys I know who are lucky in love have a certain kind of casual / upbeat / 'cuddly' energy to them. I don't know of any intense / edgy / aggressive big guys who are successful though. Coincidence? Maybe, but probably not.
Everyone throwing your little weak ass, immature insults at me,
You're just mad because you are all a bunch of cowards, and too pussy ass to meet me here in Cincinnati, Oh, and try and take me.
Chicken shit little cowards.
Hahahaha..
Cmon John youre getting just what you want every time. A big pity party for the know it all guy who shits on everyone who tries to help and whines about his shitty life. Then people just start name calling him thus reaffirming his already toxic mind. You've got to be the least sympathetic fuck up in the entire world.
Lol and again at you pretending you can fight again. Or pretending to be amused. You'd never have the balls to step into a real ring but I know your rage has given you delusions you can fight. Its adorable.
Seriously, can't you please just pretend that you quit again and make it last a few months this time?
xoxo
First off.. I didn't POST anything negative here. I'm talking about for ME. What I would want out of MY bootcamp experience that I paid THOUSANDS of dollars for. If YOU want to pay thousands to sing "mary had a little lamb", then by all means.. be my guest.
But you know what, I'm gonna post the most NEGATIVE SHIT I can think of, every day, from now on.. just because I know it PISSES YOU OFF.
HAHAHAHAHA!
hahahaha this guys fuckin nuts! Zero self awareness. It is scary how hopeless you are-but certainly not sad. Whatever man, keep it up every day here- just post negative shit about every article and expect no one to say anything. They are just ganging up on you bro!
Just what I need after reading David's blog. Some piece of garbage that whines every day saying the advice is wrong and telling us the real advice. Then an army of people trying to help him and he gets his little feelings hurt and shits on everyone.
Can't we vote him off wygant island or something? Or I guess he paid David a few grand. Ehh, I guess I could deal with whining for a few grand.
And by the way.. what fucking pity party are you talking about anyway? What is your problem, besides trying to satisfy your urge to be a little troll?
Is your problem that I think I would want my dating coach, who I paid for a bootcamp to push me to approach women, instead of twinkle twinkle little star?
Or because I think looks / physical fitness is important, and am taking steps to meet my personal goals?
And my life is better than yours and always will be, little Bobby, so shove your pity party up your ass.
John,
We're not mad at all. Lol. Go ahead and look at how mad your are in your comments. If you're getting this mad over some text on the Internet, no wonder you suck at meeting women in Cincinnati of all cities hahaha.
All Im saying is this: Damn near every blog post you have some dumb shit to complain about, when David is taking his time to give everybody FREE advice. How about instead of bitching and moaning, go out there, use this advice and take control of your life?
Hey, you don't like my opinion of David's posts, then don't listen to me. I'll say whatever I want, and I don't care what YOU or ANYBODY ELSE thinks about it.
What I do when I'm out and about is none of your concern. Let me worry about MY life. You are doing NO BETTER than me. If you were, you wouldn't be here, on this site, throwing your petty little insults.
And you think I'M mad!
Your posts cracked me up. I needed a good laugh today.
Damn, John's handing out verbal wedgies and locker-stuffings like a mahfucka in here. Funny tho, I don't remember my high school's bullies being this tender. Maybe if Melissa stumbles in here she'll give you a fresh tampon.
John reminds me of a gal who I work with, they both have this particular talent...lol
I came across this video on youtube, it reminded me of someone (perhaps John, lol) who posted in here about talking to girls who were in the mid twenties, said that he connected with them one on a deeper level, but had to leave for a bit to go to the bathroom, when he came back, the girls were talking to younger and better looking than him, and no longer had interest in him. Implying that all that stuff about having a connection was bogus, and the girls instead went for better looking guys and said he finally had enough and was going to quit and never come back here. Talk about a drama queen! lol
Ok, back to the video, this was a social experiment of 15 women who were single and 15 men who were single. They set up cameras everywhere to tape their body language in a club or bar situation. They show this guy walk in and two cute girls notice him as he walks by, he makes a quick glance at one of them. Next, he get his drink and walks back, approaching the girls. Here they show the social dynamics. Two girls fighting over this one guy. The guy was more interested in one of the girls, but continued to talk to both of them. The one he was interested decided to leave for a bit, slapping him on the butt...lol
He missed her, often times look to see if she was coming back. She happened to be at the bar, talking to other people. Now in John's world, this would have mean rejection? lol Anyway, she came back and they talked some more. While talking, there was a dude who was scouting the area, he then walked over to the gal who the other guy liked. He shook only her hand, ignoring her friend. She gave him a "friends" hug and looked at the other dude to tell him that is all it was. The guy who the girls was fighting over, felt threaten by this new dude who entered the conversation but the girls who connected with him stayed by his side showing they were more interested in him even though they started flirting with another guy. Then another guy approached the group, who was also interested in one of the girls but still the girls were more interested in the other guy whom they were fighting over. The video didn't say if he asked her out, but geeze, anyone could tell both would have wanted to go on a date with him in a heartbeat!
Do you think if that guy would have left to go to the bathroom, those two other guys would have pushed them away from him? No! I don't agree with all the narrative in the video, but I thought it was interesting to watch...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SBOtj1RmaUE
Personality 100%. You can be Kevin James fat and be sexy to a woman if you are Kevin James funny. If you are not, then you are just a fat guy.
There has to be an equation out there. The amount of fatness a woman will tolerate is directly proportionate to the amount of funny.
Doesn't work with money...fat dudes usually aren't rich.
John is very liked on here.
I'd love to meet John and shake some sense into him.
Get a fucking life you silly cunt instead of throwing negatives at everyone.
No matter how funny you are, no matter how in shape you are, no matter how well you can hold a conversation, you'll never be anything more than a friend if she is not attracted to you!!
If you are not her type (tall, dark and handsome) She won't see you anything more than a friend. Regardless of how awesome your personality is.
Kevin, you're missing the point!
Forget about what makes you attracted to someone, and listen and understand that for women personality can compensate looks..
How long have you been on this blog for?!
i read everthing buy rarely comment. however in johns defence i must admit he makes valid points and i like how he challenges the blog. shame david never answers. bet a lot of u think the same but never want to voice your opinion or challenge david. i usually dont cause i know john will. but david doesnt reply so whats the point?
He replies sometimes. Plus It's his blog. And tons of people including me have criticized some of his blogs and he's responded. Its an issue when its every single time. You think he's gonna sit there at his computer and come on here to defend his blog from one guy fueled by rage and pity every day? I mean, the whole idea is to try to apply his message to yourself. A lot of people just pretend to for 3 seconds then write their pullstring reply.
Plus if you only have one mentor that's your problem. No one person can be your savior.
Although to a degree I understand.. some people are sicker than others and it's not their fault. Still no excuse for being a dick all the time.
If you can't understand the blog why not find another one? I don't mean that in a condescending way.. It makes no sense to stick around and amp yourself up with negative thoughts and comments every day. How is that gonna help you?
Well said Bobby.
I out up great FREE content.
Some of it will resonate with people and some will not. I cant please people everyday nor should anyone think that way.
Thanks for the great comment and have a great Monday.
@DW- Curious to know as to why or how you became so brazen with words, or were you always this way (which I doubt).
I'm with you BTW. This attitude gets you far; especially with women.
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