Its a tough day for me, I had to drop Daphne my amazing Lab off to the vet to see if the tumor she has is cancer.
So today I am just a bit out of sorts in all ways.
And to top it all off when I got back to the office we had a mild earthquake.
Now i do not believe in God but someone up there was really mad about Daphne. Today we have a video. It is all about Facebook, crushes and 24 years later on how I should have never put myself in the friend zone.
1.7 million men & women come to me every month to find the secrets to success. And after 20 years of coaching, I’ve discovered the golden keys to success in dating, business, health and wellness, and life.
I’ve helped millions of men and women around the globe achieve success in their dating, social and personal lives. I’m also a father to the world’s cutest little girl, and I am an unapologetic man. Some say I’m nuts, others say I’ve changed their life forever. One thing’s for certain: I’ll always give you the truth, whether you can handle it or not. I never sugar coat anything.
Nice is so overrated. I’d prefer brutally honest breakthrough to a “nice” rut any damn day of the week. If you’re the same way, then you've come to the right place.
this video really opened my eyes, i don't know how many times i stare and smile at a girl in high school and not do jack shit about anything. or chatting and bantering with the same girl for a semester, beating around the bush, and still not doing anything about it.
this video is really a wake up call, because none of it really matters whether i rejected or not i get nothing, instead i have a chance to gain something and experience.
And David i really hope the best for you and Daph, even though i said it many many times, but i really mean it.
Ya, we're all guilty of beating around the bush, avoiding, or staying in the friends zone with our crushes. this video is a great wake up call to actually do something about it. I know next time I have a real crush going or developing, im just going to be more direct with no excuses. Its a good habit to get into.
And I wish the best for Daph too... that is truely a one of a kind dog.
jelay
i believe in not one god but something....not really sure what it is. it may be more of the powers of souls and the universe.
it is a very deep conversation that if you want to learn more i am willing to share.
Damn youi're right I'm going to meet some people from my past in a year or 17. Heck, the girl I had a crush on in early highschool later told me she'd had a crush on me as well. 'So we should've just taken a little more action then huh...' What did the young boy know...
David, I wish all the best to you and Daphne and I hope she'll be alright very soon.
Thanks for all your wishes.
She is out of surgery.
She has two cists removed one from the top of her head which was small and the vet was not overly concerned.
The other was the tumor from her belly near her leg.
This is the scary one.
It is a potential mast cell tumor.
Google it......not a very pretty thing.
Anyway she is ok now it is just a waiting game till we get the pathology report back on friday.
So it is now a waiting game......and let the tension begin.
David - Boy, you've had a really long and stressful day!
I'm glad that Daphne came through surgery well, and I know we will all be sending our positive thoughts and prayers (to the applicable deity :) ) for you to get good news on Friday.
Hang in there :)
First of all I hope you and Daphne feeling well.
I just saw a video. David is it appropriate to ask a girl out if you just talked to her for only couple of minutes?
your response....
Kristen
This has been a brutal last few weeks,
I first found this out 2 weeks ago as you know when i was in santa fe.
It has been a really up and down last few weeks,
Plus the pathology report was so gray that we had no choice but to have the surgery.
Poor girl she had quite a bit of her body cut out today........but being a lab she did have all that extra fat:)
Friday can not come any sooner
David,
I know how much she means to you - and I can't imagine how hard these weeks have been for you (anyone who has pets know that they ARE members of your family) ... but I'm glad that at least this period of not knowing will end on Friday -- waiting and uncertainty are awful.
I truly hope that you will have reason to celebrate on Friday - and she is a strong dog who will recover well ... I'm betting she will be anxious to be well enough to get back to walk on the beach as soon as possible! :)
All i want to hear is stage one tumor,
thats all i want to hear!!!
as for beach runs......she is on the disabled list till sept 1.
a long recovery due to the location of the tumor
Poor Daphne... I hope all will be well with her soon :( That is one awesome canine!
On the brighter side of things, I really liked today's video. I'm in college right now and have had a few of those crushes myself that just slipped through the cracks. That's got to stop!
No school crushes at the moment, since I'm on break and all, but I'm going to remember that video every time a cute girls sits next to me in class from now on :) I can definetley promise everyone that much for sure!
Anyways, best of luck on everything David! Please keep us all updated.
HEY DAVID,
FIRST... DID YOU FEEL THE EARTHQUAKE? MY EX-NEPHEW IS OUT THERE AND SAID IT WASN'T TOO BAD. HOPE YOU AND THE DOG ARE SAFE!
SO I WATCHED... I ENJOYED... I LAUGHED...
IT'S TRUE THOUGH... FOR EVERY DECISION WE MAKE... THERE IS A DECISION (CONSCIOUS OR NOT) THAT WE DO NOT MAKE. EVERYTHING THAT TRANSPIRES FROM THOSE DECISIONS UNFOLDS IN ONE WAY.
WHO KNOWS (WE WILL NEVER KNOW) HOW THE PATH NOT TAKEN WOULD
HAVE PRESENTED. BUT AH, THE FANTASY. WE CAN'T CHANGE OUR PAST
BUT WE ALWAYS RESERVE THE RIGHT TO HAVE IT PLAY OUT EXACTLY HOW WE WISH IN OUR OWN HEADS. THE FEELING OF A CRUSH IS GREAT BUT YES! I WONDER HOW THE WORLD WOULD TURN OUT IF
WE ALL ACTED ON THEM.
KATHY
It's the powerful feeling behind your words, David that has moved me to passionately pursue my desires! I felt the most intense attraction for this gorgeous woman a few months ago in an arts & crafts store and I 'm almost positive she felt the same about me, but I rejected my intuition. This might be speculation, but I think when you feel that intense pull that it's actually mutual energy being created and you really just need to trust yourself and act immediately. By the way, I don't believe in some god-person standing on a cloud, but rather everything being part of the universe. I can attest by having some amazingly profound meditations.
Kathy
Great post and if i just acted on what i wanted and did not play it safe....who knows:)
I had one crazy crush on you when i was 20!!! wow that feels like lifetimes ago.
TO
I am all about energy and living life with that amazing energetic pull to it.
Thanks for the amazing post.
We can go on and on about what god is to people and if there is one.
We all have so many different definitions of it
David, Monkey chatters is one thing, but monkey chatters that comes on and off is even more annoying. you never know when its gonna pop out of no where and ruin your interaction.
one second you feel like you're gods gift, the other second i feel like i'm some autistic kid with down syndrome!
And yes, i pretty much have a crush on anything thats attractive and moves : (
I wish you had said something to me 30 years ago! When I was in HS, I had a crush on this girl in my chemistry class all through my Senior year. I couldn't approach her to do more than ask about the homework. Three years later, we found ourselves in the same Lab class at the community college. She had a boyfriend at the time but I had a little more confidence and so we became lab partners. Then, since this was the last class of the day, we decided to car pool together and became friends, still to this day. (Unfortunately, she married someone else.) Well one day, sitting on the lawn before class, we were talking and the subject of the HS Prom came up and that she didn't go because nobody had asked her. So I told her the truth, that I didn't go because i was afraid to ask her. Well I remember what she said like it was yesterday, I can still hear the tone of her voice. She said, "You jerk, you should have asked me, we both would have had a great time!" How's that for a kick in the ass?! Anyway, I never hesitate to ask out someone I have a crush on, but you know, it never works for me because, to have a crush on someone usually means it is not based on the reality of who that person is. It is an obsession and you really need to get to know someone BEFORE you fall for them.
this video has opened my eyes!! thanks David for being open to share your personal story of your dating mistakes it gives hope to guys like me.
i met a girl got her number on Sunday and called her on Monday but she told me she was busy the whole week and she will let me know when she is free.
my problem is how long should take to call her and ask her out again?
hope to hear from you. I pray that your dog will get well soon.
The one thing I feel about crushes and persueing them is when it come to employees of a store you frequent, they might be acting polite since you are a customer. I feel its definitely good practice for the real thing and if you really dont care it can be fun here and there, but I would not drop too much effort into it if you only see them where they work. In fact, like Kheim said, you should have to drop much effort into any interaction. It should be comfortable, effortless and natural. Thats what I am going to try, I will see where it gets me.
~J~
'yer on David. Although I don't currenty have any crushes, there is one girl that I like.. :) And best wishes for Daphne.
Jesse, when that happens to me, I always look them in the eyes and see if they are just being nice or actually enjoying themselves while helping me. You can spot that look. Seize that momment.
Hey David - Fingers crossed for good news about Daphne! I know how you feel having gone through a similar thing with my lab Ben years back. I pray she will be fine and strolling the Blvd and visiting our shops very very soon!
Crushes - too funny. A crush of mine from College also contacted me through Facebook recently - also still single - but alas lives on the other side of the states. What are you supposed to do with that? :-)
Kisses to Daphne!
Damn crushes, what point do they serve? all they do is make turn you into a blithering idiot before your object of desire, who in some cases you don't even really know all that well. But, I must admit, it is fun to have a crush on someone and plan the ways at which you can attack the situation/win them over.
Todd
Great story mate, i currently have a crush on a girl at my university, i must do something before its too late!
David,
My friend and I like this girl. He constantly talks to her (they've been friends for quite awhile, but he is trying be more than friends) and I would definitely say he is in your definition of "the friend zone". She flirts with me a lot and stuff and I was just wondering am I doing the right thing of not constantly being around her and talking to her? Will my lack of attention to her make me more attractive?
Thanks a lot man.
Dan
David,
I've been in love with a guy I met in high school when I was 16. That was 36 years ago. We're both single and have kept in touch over the years. Three months ago I finally told him how I felt.......I haven't heard from him since.
Hi David!
I've watch your video.
The person i have a crush has a boyfriend. I know her for 4-5 years and i'm afraid to say how i fell.
David if you can give me an advice this is the moment i need you more.
Damn you and your completely appropriate blogs! As I said in response to the Patience blog, I'm going to get off of my ass and make it known that I'm interested. I know him well enough now and its time.
I'll let you guys know how it turns out.
49 Comments | Join the Discussion!
Reynold
Tuesday, July 29th, 2008
Rich
Tuesday, July 29th, 2008
jelay
Tuesday, July 29th, 2008
David Wygant
Tuesday, July 29th, 2008
JustMe
Tuesday, July 29th, 2008
Pete
Tuesday, July 29th, 2008
jelay
Tuesday, July 29th, 2008
j-dude
Tuesday, July 29th, 2008
Scott
Tuesday, July 29th, 2008
David Wygant
Tuesday, July 29th, 2008
Rich
Tuesday, July 29th, 2008
kristen
Tuesday, July 29th, 2008
Tariq
Tuesday, July 29th, 2008
David Wygant
Tuesday, July 29th, 2008
kristen
Tuesday, July 29th, 2008
David Wygant
Tuesday, July 29th, 2008
kristen
Tuesday, July 29th, 2008
Taras
Tuesday, July 29th, 2008
Mark
Tuesday, July 29th, 2008
David Wygant
Tuesday, July 29th, 2008
KATHY SHAPIRO
Tuesday, July 29th, 2008
Notoriou$ T. O. Double D
Tuesday, July 29th, 2008
David Wygant
Tuesday, July 29th, 2008
Reynold
Tuesday, July 29th, 2008
David Wygant
Tuesday, July 29th, 2008
David Wygant
Tuesday, July 29th, 2008
Rich
Tuesday, July 29th, 2008
David Wygant
Tuesday, July 29th, 2008
Reynold
Tuesday, July 29th, 2008
Rich
Tuesday, July 29th, 2008
David Wygant
Tuesday, July 29th, 2008
David Wygant
Tuesday, July 29th, 2008
Reynold
Tuesday, July 29th, 2008
Rich
Tuesday, July 29th, 2008
David Wygant
Tuesday, July 29th, 2008
Notoriou$ T. O. Double D
Tuesday, July 29th, 2008
Jayy Cena
Tuesday, July 29th, 2008
David Wygant
Tuesday, July 29th, 2008
Todd
Wednesday, July 30th, 2008
elia
Wednesday, July 30th, 2008
Jesse W
Wednesday, July 30th, 2008
Will
Wednesday, July 30th, 2008
Matthew Menna
Wednesday, July 30th, 2008
Amanda
Wednesday, July 30th, 2008
Sam
Thursday, July 31st, 2008
Daniel
Saturday, August 2nd, 2008
Deni
Sunday, August 3rd, 2008
Pitzi
Sunday, August 3rd, 2008
Jaime
Tuesday, August 12th, 2008